Why are so many people INSECURE in this society?

Question

Especially females. Why do so many of them lack self-esteem?

Answer 1

Everybody  is  insecure  in  society  whether  it  is  a  male  or  a  female. Females  have  self  confidence  but  they  r   conscious  toward   looks   &  constant  scrutiny  bother   them  . Males  r  inesure  about    their  jobs  &  status.

Answer 2

Because women are taught from a young age that they have to please other people to have value and be safe.  They are also taught that something is wrong with them and that there is a product or service that they are lacking that will solve their problem.  They are either too fat, too old, too ugly, too short, too tall, too dumpy, etc.  Women are always told directly or indirectly through advertising and television shows and movies that they must be beautiful, young, appealing, giving, and happy.  Or something is wrong with them.  What would happen if women liked themselves exactly the way they were in this moment? No more cosmetic industry, diet industry, plastic surgery industry......fashion industry....insecure people make other people rich.  It's all game.

Answer 3

Beauty and T.V., if you don't look like a movie star or a model society is telling you your less worthy.

Answer 4

The biggest reason I think, is lack of knowledge.  Not just academics, but actual world knowledge on how and why things are as they are.   The education system of today is a joke.  The average student does not have a clue about World Geography, nor even able to name the individual States within the US.  Also, the media gives everyone a fantasy lifestyle and advertisements are continually bombarding all to buy product they just can't live without.  Also, most networks are bias and do not even tell us what is going on unless they can make a dollar off the sensationalism.  Until people start learning about real life and real places, and digging for all the info about real issues, they will feel insecure.  They will feel substandard and ignorant as they do not meet the standards of the "Soap Opera" lives portrayed on TV.  Please read the following.....

The Stranger

A few years after I was born, my Dad met a stranger who was new to our small Texas town. From the beginning, Dad was fascinated with this enchanting newcomer and soon invited him to live with our family. The Stranger was quickly accepted and was around from then on.

As I grew up, I never questioned his place in my family. In my young mind, he had a special niche. My parents were complementary instructors: Mom taught me good from evil, and Dad taught me to obey. But the stranger...he was our storyteller. He would keep us spellbound for hours on end with adventures, mysteries and comedies.

If I wanted to know anything about politics, history or science, he always Knew the answers about the past, understood the present and even seemed able to predict the future! He took my family to the first major league ball game. He made me laugh, and he made me cry. The stranger never stopped talking, but Dad didn't seem to mind.

Sometimes, Mom would get up quietly while the rest of us were shushing Each other to listen to what he had to say, and she would go to the Kitchen for peace and quiet. (I wonder now if she ever prayed for the Stranger to leave.)

Dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions, but the stranger Never felt obligated to honor them. Profanity, for example, was not Allowed in our home... Not from us, our friends or any visitors. Our Longtime visitor, however, got away with four-letter words that burned my ears and made my dad squirm and my mother blush.

My Dad didn't permit the liberal use of alcohol. But the stranger encouraged us to try it on a regular basis. He made cigarettes look cool, Cigars manly and pipes distinguished. He talked freely (much too freely!) About s*x. His comments were sometimes blatant,

sometimes suggestive, and generally embarrassing.

I now know that my early concepts about relation ships were influenced Strongly by the stranger. Time after time, he opposed the values of my Parents, yet he was seldom rebuked... And NEVER asked to leave.

More than fifty years have passed since the stranger moved in with our Family. He has blended right in and is not nearly as fascinating as he was at first. Still, if you could walk into my parents' den today, you would Still find him sitting over in his corner, waiting

for someone to listen To him talk and watch him draw his pictures. His name?..............See Below:

We just call him, "TV."

* *Note: This should be required reading for every household in America!**

P. S. He has a wife now....We call her "Computer."

Answer 5

well, im not insecure, i already have it all, im content. Its not only females its also MALES. big time.

Answer 6

Feeling Insecure is a natural reaction to these different harrassements we face every day. Our world has become a complex network of interest based relation. the fact you don't feel at ease is a sign of healthy psychological nature and not the opposite. Personally i'd thing about it as an internal alarm to keep off dangerous situation. of course here u should not abuse it because the results can be catastrophic but try always to keep your distance.

Answer 7

I'm sure parents leave a lot of doubt and holes in their children's self esteem and confidence and then advertising of models and make believe looks due to airbrush put a false sense of what is considered good looking into children's heads. So they constantly struggle to achieve perfection that doesn't truly exist. And we are one of the most obese countries in the world so fat people contribute to the low self esteem. And I think men contribute to women's low self esteem because they constantly torment the ugly girls, which gives all girls a complex... guys don't understand the complexity of women's brains and emotions so they leave scars that are forever passed down unto their children so once again its the parents faults. I don't think tv helps much either... theres nothing to enlighten peple on the idiot box. It's hard to build self esteem when you have no life experience no matter how old you are, tv contributes to children staying indoors and being anti-social... :)

Answer 8

Probably because a lot of times the media is telling you what is perfect, and a lot of times you find that you don't meet up to those standards so you feel less then you are, or you feel insecure. Also, people around us can influence that too, like if you're always picked on for an imperfection that you have.

Answer 9

Because of all the advertisings and movies. Even though it's unrealistic we still want to look like that gorgeous model, drive the perfect car, have the perfect husband that knows just what to say in every situation, and have the perfect kids. Our reality falls short of that expectation and it is hard to deal with, especially in the looks department. If you aren't 5'8" with long blonde hair, a size 0, and the perfect skin it's hard to feel attractive because that is what we convinced ourselves we should look like. Ever notice how black women seem to have a better self-esteem. Could that possibly be because until recently there haven't been a whole lot of black actresses and models? They haven't had that same unrealistic image to compare themselves to.

Answer 10

So much competition  

It is every where you go

No more being yourself people will think that is stupid if I do it is always on mind

Fear of the crime all around now watching TV keeps us in touch with it

Fear of people who are distrust worthy and are hard to identify

I'll stop here I am getting a phobia just thinking of it...

Woo now I am a victim of the fear factor

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