Why are so many people against younger Mom's?

Question

I have seen a few people post on here putting down girls who have gotten pregnant at a young age, but who are they to judge when they don't know their situation. I got pregnant when I was 19. I was with my boyfriend for 3 years at that point and we decided to go ahead and have our child and start our family. It was hard at first because he still had another year of college, but we managed. Now, just a year later he has graduated college, he has a good job, we BOTH drive brand new cars, we have our own house & nice furniture, we have every top of the line baby product, we have started our sons college fund, getting married next month, we are very happy together and provide our son with a healthy home. We are financially stable, we are on no type of Welfare (No WIC, Medicaid, etc). I just don't understand how people could judge me on my age when they don't know my situation. I live no differently than an "older" Mom and consider myself to be very mature for my age. It's just frustrating!

Answer 1

I think that it's because your situation is so very rare...

Answer 2

Honestly... I think alot of people that have problems with it are the women who have been TTC for months-years on end. It has to hurt when a 15 year old pops up pregnant after a condom broke. Other than that I really have no idea. I was 16 when I had my baby. I really wish people could get over it... we are all mothers who love our children.

Answer 3

I think you did things right.  Have kids when you're young enough to keep up with them!  Most people are against younger moms because they think you aren't ready yet.  You apparently were.  Don't worry about it, you'll age fast enough! :)

Answer 4

I think a lot of people think a young mom just doesn't realize what she is getting into.  Parenting is hard,  especially if you look back on it and see everything you had to do.  But NO ONE, younger or older, realizes what it takes to be a good parent till you do it.Maybe they are just afraid the younger parents won't have what it takes..

Answer 5

cuz they think they are like delinquients for sleeping around so much and getting pregnant so early.  and ur right! a lot of ppl will judge a book by its covers.

Answer 6

Because everyone is always so quick to judge everyone.  People are quick to judge any mom on welfare or other assistance no matter why she's there or how hard she's trying to get off or better herself.  Its the same thing for young moms.  They dont care to know if shes doing good all on their own.  They want to lash their anger out on someone and are so ready to pounce anyone.

Answer 7

i thinks its becuse people judge so fast even if they dont know the person...

   i understand and i dont judge i dont have the right to.. im almost 16 and around a month pregnant ( yes it was and accident but not a mistake) and im keeping the baby and my boyfriend is very suportive of this choice.. i know that when i get bigger people are going to look stare and judge but its something we have to deal with. we are both getting jobs and we will both have a car by the time our kiddo is born... we do plan to get married...

  people still judge i think that its messed up that they do because i never would... its your choice if you have a baby so young there are altrnitives but people will judge you for thos as well... i think we should just stop it all together

Answer 8

You were ready to have kids and I am proud of you for being mature enough to handle it. I too had my first child at 19. I wouldn't change it for anything. We have had a much harder time of it because my fiance at the time wasn't even high school educated, but we never made our son suffer the consequences of our naivety. I am now 28 with two children and we are married. We probably will never own a new car or house, but we are happy.

Answer 9

i am against young women having babes. the girls that are getting pragent is 13-15 and most of the girls that are having s*x have been with this boy for less then a month. boys and girls are settling for just about anyone. what im saying is that kids at the age of 14 want to have s*x