Why are some men hopeless at being fathers?

Question

I am not men bashing because I know some wonderful dads.

And, there are just as many hopeless mothers, my question is about men.

Just wondering why a man wouldn't show a lot of love to his child?

Answer 1

It's not because of how they were raised, be cause they have daddy issues themselves, etc.  It's because they make the CHOICE not to be in their children's lives.  They're selfish, inconsiderate excuses for men who have no one to blame but themselves.  

Answer 2

i know what you mean, like how guys always say thats my baby, but then dont take care of it or care/love it.

some arnt man enough to grow up and show love for it and take care of it

Answer 3

Maybe because men are raised to be tough men who take care of their family, and if they show love and kindness, its seen as a sign of weakness, same reason men rarely cry.I totally do not agree, I love men who love and  can cry, and i don't worry about his masculinity.

talk to him, he'll come around.

Answer 4

This is really not a fair question. Why are some women such crappy mothers? I see just as many and more crappy mothers all the time. I actually know a lot more dads who take time to be with their kids, are more patient and are less apt to fly off the handle screaming at their kids and shooing them away like the moms do. I hate to side with the men on this one, but we have to be fair.

Answer 5

Because so few BOYS are Raised to be Responsible MEN..my Son is 14 and I am raising A MAN ANY Woman will be Lucky to get!

Answer 6

Society doesn't hold men responsible. Child Support agencies don't bother to pursue men to make them support their children. it is too easy for a man to run off and the woman carries the kid.

Answer 7

Some men just aren't as affectionate as a woman is.  They don't like to show it.

Answer 8

It's a rare case when i hear dads not showing much love to their own kids, but for some reason, maybe they aren't proud enough to be a father or to the child. It could also have something to do with his relationship with his wife. Men may think it's a mother's role...oh so many unacceptable reasons.. such a pain.

Answer 9

Well why are women hopeless mothers too?

Some people do not want kids, want them to keep someone then hate them for the person leaving, etc.

Most bad fathers didn't want to be a father in the first place.

Answer 10

its not like they are bad the just need to understand u