Why are some people like this?

Question

I have a sister-in-law. She's the youngest of 4 kids and the only girl in the family. She makes my life a living h**l. All of her brothers are married. So she got married - at 19. She yells abuse at her family all the time. The way she treats her husband is appalling. He works 8 weeks away from home 2 weeks home, so she barely sees him. Her brothers and their families all have kids - she's been trying to fall pregnant since she was 17 - to outdo her brothers. She's now going through IVF (at 21) and regular refers to her sister in laws as sl*ts and wh*res cause we have kids. She put on a tantrum - I kid you not recently at my 5 year olds daughters birthday because my younger brother was there with his wife and their 5 week old baby.

My husband (her brother) thinks she's a moron. She is constantly belittling us - carries on like money is everything - came around last night to show me her $2000 Christian Dior handbag she bought - she's a nobody - she doesn't work cause her husbands earns too much - she lives at home with her mum and all they do is sit there all day. I kicked her out of my wedding party as she was causing trouble - so she turned up to my wedding in the bridesmaids dress.

Please I need some suggestions on coping with her. I'm going out of my mind. My mother-in-law looks after my kids 2 days a week so it's unavoidable that I have to see her. We're trying for baby number 3 atm and she just keeps slandering us to the hilt.

I told my husband that she can't expect to treat ppl the way she has for the last forever and than recieve emotion and support when things aren't going her way.

Please what do I do??

Answer 1

Dont let your mother in law watch those kids if it means having to see/ deal with her. bad idea

Answer 2

What a troll, I would stop having anything to do with her!  She sounds like the type of person that when she does have children she still wont be happy because the new edition will get more attention than her....

Stop inviting her to your place for special occasions and she will soon wonder why she is being left out...

Good luck she sounds like my mans ex wife...

Answer 3

restraining order!!!

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say that it seems to me people that have it all are the most unhappiest and because they are unhappy with there life they make sure  that every one around them are unhappy  the one thing that i can say is that at least you know that you are happy most of the time when she is always sitting around unhappy and the only one who is a nut case is her a $2000 handbag and all the money in the world is worth nothing if your not even happy with life i feel sorry for her  good luck with that moron  

Answer 5

She sounds like a spoilt brat. Im surprised her husband hasnt left her already. Usually being the youngest and the only girl they get everything handed to them. The fact that she is trying to have children is a statement. Lol this is just a competition to her. Its not like she really wants kids and i thank god she hasnt had any as of yet.

The only thing you can do is ignore her. No point in trying to confront her, she sounds really stubborn so its always going to be one huge fight fest. You could move to another country hehe thats what my aunt did to get away from her mother in law or so i was told

Answer 6

She sounds like very spoiled little girl.  She needs to grow up.  She disrespects everyone, but expects to be respected.

I would have to separate myself from her.  She sets a very bad example to the children.  I wouldn't want the children around her at all.

Answer 7

you know, you can hire people to "take care" of problems like that,

but seriously, a restraining order?

Answer 8

I have no idea why your sister-in-law is like this, but she probably has some emotional problems... you can't fix her.

If i were in that situation, i'd find another babysitter, and avoid the sister-in-law at all costs.  I'd also set personal boundaries and limits with others.... you don't have to invite people who are crude into your home for any reason...

Answer 9

i really feel sorry for you.

If you wait a bit longer and poke a bit they will get a divorce.

or you could just tell her to go away.

She sounds like a feral

Answer 10

Simply put, rather than get annoyed with her. Pity her. She says the vile and vicious things to you and everyone else who has children, because she WANTS one but is having such a hard time conceiving, hence the IVF. It's called jealousy.

If you really want to put her in her place, there is no better way than with the truth. Next time she's being hateful, and saying rude things. Respond back to her with:

"I'm very sorry you think we're such awful people because we have children, and while I hope one day you too, will experience motherhood, may I ask why you want one so badly when you think we're all sl*ts and wh*res for having them ourselves?"

Sure, she's going to have a hissy fit.. why? Because she'll know you've just hit your mark. She may even think twice before tangling with you again.. at least until she can find some fresh material to come at you with.

Which is why you should also probably tell her if she plans to keep acting so spiteful, that she won't be allowed back around YOU, or your CHILDREN. I mean, really, no telling what she says in front of them when you're not around. So it may indeed be a good idea to look into other child care arrangements, until M-I-L gets her daughter declawed, and safely on her leash.

Good luck!