Why are some people not good with kids?

Question

Where its awkward for some people to talk and interact with kids.

Answer 1

Because they don't respond.

But it's fun to play with kids, like catching them while running or embracing them, particularly blonde and blue-eyed ones.

Answer 2

Usually its because theyre shy, or maybe when they were kids themselves, they didnt interact with other little ones.

And its awkward for me to interact with little kids when theres adults everywhere, cause i feel like they dont want me around kids. Im 13 which is probably why...

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Answer 3

Its your personality that affects whether you are good with children or not. You have to be patient and constantly telling yourself they don't know any better yet. I think it could also depend if you have younger siblings, you may know how to look after them and that would be helpful in future years.

If you have children you have to be able to put their needs before your own. In a sense you must be willing to give up certain parts of your life and change your ways to make way for children. You must become more responsible. Many people can not give these things up and in general just don't know how to talk to them.

Answer 4

Im like that. I always used to be great with kids, all my little cousins liked me more than any other teenage cousins they had. Im an adult now and Im unable to go near them or talk to them. I dont know why. Its just weird. Nothing has happened significantly in my life in the past 8 years but 8 years ago I was great with kids. I was about 18 and my cousins were ages 4-12. Id play around with them all the time but I dont know, now its different. I dont like going near them or talking to them and if I do talk to them I dont try to make them laugh or anything like I used to. I just keep conversation to a minimum and say only things that are necessary to say such as "yeah" and "uh huh". Dont know why...wondered the same thing.

Answer 5

they just dont know how to act around them or what to say...some people love kids, others dont

soem havent really talked to kids or been around kids much, thts why they find it awkward

Answer 6

I've noticed that those people tend to be selfish and spoiled.

Answer 7

because they forget what its like to be a child.

Answer 8

Well it depends on how you look at it, I am not so good when it comes to doing that baby talk stupid noise thing because I really do not see the point, interaction is fine but does it have to be based on daft noises and obscure faces ? lol

Answer 9

Mostly - lack of experience - the last time they talked or interacted with a kid, they were a kid (or it's just been awhile and they are rusty).

And some people just don't like kids - not a crime - just don't expect them to change

Answer 10

I was an only child, as well as a tom boy.  I don't know if that led to me not being very maternal or not, but I just don't like kids.  Infact if I'm left alone in a room with an infant I have panic attacks.  I don't want to hold someone's baby, some women just don't understand this and I simply respond with " I am just not maternal, sorry."

But than again I am a misanthropist so it would only make sense that I avoid the offspring of people as I tend to avoid people.  I'm also quite the hermit only because my interests don't relate to the norm.  Such as video gaming, psychology, sociology, spirituality, my political view points ( The government is bullshit), geeky things like computers and gadgets, my need to talk about something interesting and how people put me to sleep and only serve to disappoint me on nearly every level from back stabbing to forgetting about me, and etc.  You wouldn't believe it but being a colorful person born in a plain boring normal city will do loads of damage to one's thoughts.

I'm sorry, I wish it weren't so, but it's just the way I am.  Mostly due to the way I've been treated by peers growing up, and from A LOT on independent studies on the human condition.

Answer 11

if they are not patient, they are not good with kids

Answer 12

may be its the way they were brought up..there parents weren't affectionate or attentive..& didnt no how to comunicate with them..that is then transfered into the way they interact with children or may be they just dont like children or arent used to interacting with them

Answer 13

actually I have recently become privy to information that would seem to indicate that most of who you are in response to other people is related to the (social gene). Even tho you can overcome many traits its still always going to be there.

you can probably look into this and do research in the gene field to find more info.

Answer 14

I think people usually good with people are good with kids as well. People who are not good with kids might not be sociable, good-natured, etc.

Answer 15

they had a bad childhood so there not nice to kids