Why are some people so fake and suck up so bad when they need something from you?

Question

There are some people I have to deal with almost everyday that kinda annoy me. I know they don't like me, but why do they go on and pretend like they do? If they don't like me, by all means stop associating with me. I would really like and appreciate that. I don't even wanna talk to them, but they keep talking to me and I feel obligated to make at least small talk back because I don't wanna be rude, although I'm tempted to. Especially when they need/want something from me. That's the only time they are nice and treat me like a human being. But when they don't need anything from me any longer, they go and talk c**p about me behind my back. It's like WTF you know? I'm too nice, and when I'm too nice, people take advantage of me. I guess it's time to be mean and a b*tch because sometimes I feel that's the only way to stop them, get respect, or whatever. You know what I mean? I hate those who talk c**p behind my back, but act all nice and suck up in my presence. Why do people do that? If I didn't like you, I wouldn't even talk to you. h**l, I wouldn't even look at you. Fake people are ridiculous. Whatever happened to real and nice, geniune people? I miss them. LOL. So why then should I be nice to fake people?

Answer 1

Happens to everyone, but everyone is fake to some degree. If you dislike someone, chances are if they speak to you, you'll be friendly in return, or at least polite, because in reality those who don't are branded mean and cruel.

Your situation is different though, and if they're only nice as they want something - well, don't give it to them. You gotta rise above it really, and just try and stick with the people you know and trust. But remember, everyone talks behind others backs at least a bit, you surely do it yourself, and you don't say what you mean. You just got to decide for yourself who likes you and who doesn't and, as you say, get a little more tough towards those who don't.

Answer 2

That happens to me too, I have no clue why.

Just try to avoid those people as much as you can, don't talk to them.

I know it's hard sometimes to get away when someone's talking to you, but just say you have to go somewhere and then leave ;)

Answer 3

its not okay. they may not like you if you blank them but they dont like you anyway.

ditch the losers

u dont need them, and they are using you. it happens, give yourself a break and cut them out of your life.  

Answer 4

You say that if you don't like a person, you wouldn't even talk to them, but it seems like you don't like these people, yet you still talk to them. There's no need to be a 'bit*h'. All you have to do is ignore them. The reason they do this is because they want something, and it obviously works if you give it to them, so just don't. They like to use people, and if you don't want them around you, you have to take the initiative to cut contact with them. Don't expect people like that to just stop talking to you, because they're not going to when they want something.

No one says you have to be nice. Only be nice if you HAVE to deal with them, because it's not worth it to fight with them. Just don't get close to them, or let them use you, but don't seem like an enemy. Just keep your distance. You're not obligated to make small talk, but you might not want to completely ignore or say osmething rude. Just say you need to do something else, and maybe they'll get the hint.

Answer 5

Because they are jerks.  I've gotten the same treatment and I feel the same way.  If you don't like me, then don't bother to try to suck up when you need something.  If it's something that I have to do because it's my job, then just tell me that it needs to be done but don't be fake around me.

Same thing with me like you said I'm usually nice to others and they walk on me but when I treat them the same way they treat me, they think I'm a witch.  

But I want to tell them, don't treat others in a way that you don't want to be treated in return.