Why are some people so immature that they have to talk c**p about other people in order to bond with others?

Question

Why is it that while most teens do this there are those that don't ever do it? And why do some people get over that stage and others never stop doing it?

Is it a matter of intelligence in the way that people who realize the idiocy of this kind of behavior are actually more intelligent than people who do this?

Answer 1

it's called "being female".

Answer 2

Well unfortunately some people, especially teens are, are really insecure. So in order to make friends, instead of learning to show their personality to get someone to like them they try to make a common enemy of someone and talk to the other person about them in hopes of getting closer to them.  

Answer 3

Because people are stupid.

I don't get it, either.

Answer 4

Because they SUCK

Answer 5

laughing at someone elses expense brings the 2 people closer. its an easy way to make someone laugh. they know its wrong and cruel but they do it anyway because it makes them feel better about themselves.

just a cruel habbit that humans take part of

Answer 6

It fills them with self-importance.

Don't ask me, I'm not a bullshitter.

Answer 7

ahahaha that happens a lot.

lots of kids do so they can get into the cool groups =]  

Answer 8

People who aren't happy with themselves have to talk c**p about other people to make themselves feel better.

Answer 9

It's all about social value. Example:

If I put you down that lowers your value which increases my value.

If I show someone else that my value is higher than your value by lowering your value this lowers your value even further.

The people that normally do this usually have low self values in the first place.

They are usually bullied themselves or deem themselves to be a lesser individual i.e overweight, underweight, ugly etc.

These people are much more likely to "talk c**p" because they feel it boosts their self-esteem. When actually all they need to do is accept themselves for who they are.

It builds a bond with others because it feels like by giving your opinion you are opening out to the other person or by listening to someones opinion you are building a stronger relationship because you can openly share opinions. However you will normally find that if someone argues with the initial gossip (or c**p talking) that relationship is 60% more likely to fail. Roughly.

For example:

Gosh I hate that person. She is so fat and ugly.

What? I really like that person She is really pretty and has a great figure!! (*****)

Oh right (*****)

Answer 10

I believe it's a matter of intelligence! Because those who talk c**p are low and have no self-respect, or knowledge on how they could be hurting someone. It's definitely a matter of intelligence.

Answer 11

Usually because they think that other people will be more interested in them if they can give them the dirt on others. Usually people that want to fit in very badly are the ones who do this, whereas the ones that don't care so much, such as myself, don't always do it, or almost never.

Answer 12

uh its called gossip btw jesse is so stupid you go girl!

Answer 13

Blame the society. When someone gossips or makes fun of someone else i either say something like don't do that or i leave the room but most people will go with it and do it themselves. Sometimes even when they don't feel like doing it but they feel like they have to to fit in with the crowd they want to fit in with. Most high schools have the crowds separated. There is obviously the popular crowd and a lot of teens feel like to fit in with them they have to make fun of all the other crowds to indicate that they don't fit in with them. Most people mature out of it after high school.

Answer 14

They are more intelligent in the way of not caring and not letting it bother them.

People are rude, ignorant,disrespectful, and straight up mean to other people for different reasons. Some people do feel better from making other people feel like nothing. It may be do to their upbringing, their trying to fill a void within their life. Somehow trying to make themselves feel as though they are the better person.

The sad thing is, is that sometimes they have few followers, but the majority of people, and most of the time they make themselves look like complete idots!!

Answer 15

No offense but you're last sentence makes you sound arrogant. This has nothing to do with Inelegance, nor does it have anything to do with Maturity or Immaturity. It's not a Psychological Disorder either, it's simply personnel choice. Some people do this as a way of coping with there own failure's, this is called "Projection" and was first put forward by Freud as part of his Psychodynamic "Defense Mechanism's" But to be honest with you it's just what people do, it may hurt but get over it. Life isn't fair, you will always get a*s hole's in this world, unfortunately. Everyone has the desire to be liked, so everyone is competition. People try and put you down so they will be higher up the Social Hierarchy, it's always happened and always will.