Why are some women so threatened by female sexuality?

Question

I have recently come to realize something about the other members of my gender- their perception of sexuality is warped. The media calls for promiscuity while it encourages women to reject it. And ultimately women who are repressed to the virginal mold resent their counter-parts.

But why is it that women who have a healthy sense of their sexuality constantly fall under attack by their repressed peers. Is it a societal reflex, a resentment towards liberation or simply a profound ignorance?

Answer 1

I totally agree!!!!!

Whenever I go out in a short skirt or hot pants it's never men who call me anything or who give me evils. It's women!

I've come to the conclusion it's because they don't have the confidence or whatever to do it themselves.. or because they're threatened by me coz they're with their man. They see it as shocking and outrageous. I just feel empowered when I do it. Some women just need to let their hair down and be free! A woman who calls another woman a s**t because she shows some leg or boob is just holding back our gender from further development.

Answer 2

Because we live in Patriarchy.

Answer 3

competition. It is the equivalent of a car lot trying to sell new cars at an ultra high price or a used(but the cars still look awesome and run great) car lot that sells at either rock bottom or affordable prices. Which one is going to have more business?

              I don't mean to offend but I noticed in real life cliches and in on-line game guilds and stuff chick's usually don't get along well if there in competition with each other or view each other as a threat.

        It is more likely the "virginal mold" view the "liberated" as a threat for "stealing" all the "good guys" or lowering the bar.

                  A legitimate question but the way which you demean others who don't share your political and personnel views is alarming. Just because someone thinks different than you doesn't make them a slave, and just because you think differently from them doesn't make you progressive. It just makes you different.

Answer 4

That was a very eloquent and well thought-out question.  I say that it is a combination of all three modes you've listed, with ignorance and resentment being firmly entrenched in the society.

It takes a strong resolve to push the boundaries of societal norms, but it is absolutely worth it.

Answer 5

Its because of the double standard that has been with us since the '50s'. Women have always been harsh against their peers and a resentment towards liberation that women perpetuate. True sexual liberation is when women can enjoy their sexuality.

Answer 6

Let's say for instance that women all got together and decided that a man would have to marry one to get s*x from one.  

This banding together would make it so even the more homely looking ones could get a man for longer than one night.  

But, then, half (or whatever) of them decided to just go and have s*x willy nilly.  Now you have that half getting all the action and much less of the other half getting anything at all.  

They're jealous and resentful as they watch others get what they want while they can't get what they want.  Or, at the very least, have a much harder time getting it.

Answer 7

Jeez, Jessica-I honestly don't know how you can be a woman in this society and NOT be damaged sexually.  Especially if you are heterosexual and all you have to choose from are males who have been raised with a sense of entitlement, on creepy p**n, weird media images of how women are supposed to look, etc. And poor screwed up women-again, how can you not be insecure about how you look?  And you are right-girls are told to repress their sexuality, media tells them to act and look like pro's-strippers or p**n actresses, and guys give mixed messages and have 2 sets of rules.  You don't say what a healthy sense of sexuality is, but we've all experienced predatory, insecure females who love to get with other women's men.  And on top of everything else, men trump up phony "scientific" studies to support all of their painful behavior.  If you've figured out a way to have a healthy sense of your sexuality please write a book.  The last guy I was contemplating s*x with, when I was taking too long getting to know him (a few days) he hit me with the old "other women do this and that "-completely turned me off and felt manipulative.  And they probably do get up to whatever he wants etc... cuz women in this society are like trained seals trying to get a man's approval.  Agch!  I'd like to find a nice feral, uncivilized guy who hasn't been ruined by society, then maybe I could have some healthy sexuality!

Good luck, Jessica-

Answer 8

I think it's all of the above. More so a societal reflex, assuming that encompasses religion. Let's not forget that it is religion or most religions that tell us to be ashamed of our nudity and sexuality. I think non-sexual women feel inferior because men are sexual beings and they aren't able to provide that which therefore kind of limits them in a way