Why are teenagers brats?

Question

just wondering

Answer 1

they wouldnt be brats if they had a dog or a pet

Answer 2

its a mixture of hormones and narcisism.....don't worry, it will pass, and if it doesn't.....well God be with you

Answer 3

Because they think that they know everything and that you are way too old to understand them and that you never went through what they are going through.

They feel like they are the only one in the world going through what they are going through and its impossible for "older" people to remember way back in the stone age.

They just wanna be left alone all the time because older adults imput is uncool and "so annoying"

Answer 4

To see how far they can Push us Loving Parents Before we Put Them in Cheque.

Answer 5

Were you a perfect teenager?

Answer 6

I think it's just something in the brain that hit around that time saying "Rebel!  Show Attitude!  Never Smile!".  I remember being that way and it will go on for generations to come.

Answer 7

They just are testing their limits. The world opens up to you the older you get, you get new freedoms and new responsibilities. They want to see how far the freedom goes so they act out.

Answer 8

actually what daisies said is true

im a parent of two and they are both in their teens (13 and 15)

and my kids both wanted their own dog

and i didnt want them to get a dog at first but then i got to thinking about it and i realized that maybe it would help them to be responsible, and surely enough it worked it made them more responsible and now they are minding me because they are satisified.

Answer 9

heeey im not a brat! everthing i got i work for!! and im 16!

Answer 10

I have wondered the same thing for the last 5 years!

I think the real question should be how can we parents cope?

Good luck

From a parent of two teenage boys

Answer 11

because people like you dont give us a chance!!

Answer 12

Hormones and Teenage Angst mostly. Ha. I don't actually know why.

Answer 13

http://www.crosswalk.com/homeschool/1155...

You argue that instead of the teen brain causing teen turmoil, the cause is actually society, and in part, the peer influence found in public schools. As a psychologist, what is your definition of socialization?

Socialization is just a process by which we learn to be part of a community. So the question is, what community do we want our young people to learn to be part of? Some parents have said to me, “Aren’t school and high school, in particular, very important for socialization?” And my emphatic answer is no, because we do not want young people socializing with each other. We want them to learn to join the community that they’ll be part of their whole lives. We want them to learn to become adults. Right now, they learn everything they know from each other—that’s absurd, especially since teens in our society are controlled almost entirely by the frivolous media and fashion industries.

If you look through most of human history or you look at many cultures today, you find that teens spend most of their time learning to become adults. Here, they spend most of their time trying to break away from adults.

http://www.steelonsteel.com/articles/myt...

Time for a New Mantra

The latest mantra asserts that home schooled kids -- although possibly better educated -- just can't be socialized in a home school setting. Once again experience is showing just the opposite.

Every week I go out of my way to speak to teenagers just to see what's going on in their minds. Too often the answer is nothing. Public school students seem to have this glassy, disorganized, disoriented look about them. They're preoccupied with things that don't matter, especially image and conforming to peer pressure. I really do keep trying to argue myself out of this observation but it grows inexorably the more teens I interview.

The stratification of students into age-related peer groups has choked off the ability of teens to model from and communicate with those older than one's self, which is how maturational development is supposed to occur. It used to happen that way when students were educated at home or in small schools where the ages were mixed. One learns to be an adult from adults; not from other teens pretending to be cool, uh in, uh hip, uh groovey, uh rad, uh....what's the latest buzz word? In any stratified school situation, the students are forced to model after each other -- the blind leading the blind.

Combine deprivation from normal inter-age interaction with the imposition of values and beliefs contrary to their parents and one finds the adult-teen "communication gap" so widely posed as "normal;" another problem created by socialization in public education. It is also the source of the "normal" teen rebellion, which isn't normal at all. It's one thing to teach youth to be independent and self-sustaining but that doesn't require rebellion. Teen rebellion is the product of communication cutoff between teens and parents because they spend the majority of their days apart and in the case of teens in an artificial environment called public education.

Reality Shock

The moment teens leave high school, the majority of the so-called socialization in an artificial environment is found to be worthless. No one cares about their, feelings, socialization or image. “What can you do?” and “what do you know?” are the real questions. Once public schoolers emerge from high school, they discover that all the socialization skills they learned in dealing with peer pressure don't apply in the real world. Meanwhile the inter-age communication skills they need are sorely lacking. Most government schoolers I have met can't read, think, express themselves clearly and concisely, have little knowledge of anything from history to politics, and have a very distorted view of both history and society imposed upon them by a radical leftist curriculum.

Home schoolers don't suffer from the strictures of peer pressure and other artificial structures of public schools. They are, I have found, much better integrated than their public school counterparts, being as conversant with adults as with peers on a wide range of topics. They are skeptical of much of the peer-pressure nonsense their public school peers accept so readily because they have found they can truly be individuals without fear.

Socially, home schoolers congregate in soccer leagues, football leagues, baseball leagues, special events, ski trips, astronomy clubs, church groups, on the internet etc. So please, Mr. Sociologist, where help me find this appalling lack of socialization among home schoolers so we can stamp it out and stop depriving them of this most important asset? But you know, the more I think about it, home schoolers don't have to learn to put condoms on bananas, suffer from peer pressure, be introduced to illicit drugs, be subjected to one-sided radical leftist curricula, be taught moral values contrary to their parents or religion, be beaten up by bullies or even stabbed, shot and killed. But maybe we can do without that type of socialization for a while. What do you think?

Answer 14

Believe it or not, not all teenagers are brats. To be sure, some are, just as some adults are (a woman my mom saw in a store today is a prime example of that).

As far as why some are, a large part of it comes from a desire to rebel. If a teenager feels as if his or her opinions are heard, and they are able to make a change, they are less likely to rebel.

Hormones of course play a part, they make tempers shorter and are at the root of many mood swings.

Add that to stress and the materialistic and judgemental views that are so ingrained in today's society, it's a wonder they aren't all brats.

Fortunately, most teenagers are not brats, it's just that we don't ever really see the good ones. They don't feed into stereotypes as neatly, so they are more easily ignored.

People see what they want to see, and a lot of teenagers are more than willing to fulfill society's expectations. If society expects teenagers to be mindless brats, enough will follow through that it's easy to think that they're all like that. I've been lucky enough in my life to know more of the good kind of teenager than the bratty kind.

To be perfectly honest, the fact that blatant generalizations such as this are so common in society worries me more than a little bit. When did open mindedness become such a rarity?

Answer 15

you can't just say that ALL teenagers are brats. some make bad choices, and act bad but I don't believe that people are brats. just remember that you were this age, too, so don't be so quick to judge. i also think that you will have a different opinion when you have children.