Why are teenagers nowadays are very rude towards parents and how to solve this conflict??

Question

i am doing a research and i really need some answers!! maybe a website will do

Answer 1

i see it all the time how its done. i guess its just the era we live in. society is turning on us. look at all the teenagers who are getting pregnant at a young age. that's probably why teens today are such a mess, because they are having children at such a young age when they themselves are not even mature enough to take on the responsibility of being a parent or having the mind set to control them properly. that's probably the reason. parents are just not tough on kids lately. but it wouldnt be fair to say that its all on the parents, becuase teenagers have a mind of their own and make their own decisions.

Answer 2

Maybe its how their parents raised them?  I hate the way everyone blames teenagers - the generation was raised by us!  Its our government, our teachers, our parenting skills that have made them as they are, not them!

Answer 3

Go to the nearest grocery store or Wal Mart and you'll see where they get it.  They talk back to their parents, teachers, and others from a very young age.  Why? Because their parents tolerate it and do not correct them quickly.   I live in a very international community and I've definitely made some observations over time.  The children of internationals are almost always much better behaved than those of regular Americans.   They are taught to think of others,  to not be public nuisances, and to be considerate. Their parents expect them to work hard and become successful in life. This carries over into their teens as well.   You rarely run across a mouthy rude Asian or African teen.  They have been taught by their parents from the start how to behave in public and not to always put themselves first.   They have respect for themselves, their families, and their communities.  

Disciplining and training a child takes time, consistency, and committment.  It is not always convenient to deal with misbehavior when you're tired from work and just want to get the shopping done and get home.  But it's absolutely necessary.  Parenthood is not for the lazy.  The proof is in the pudding, as they say.

Answer 4

Teach your children from the word go that backchat and cheek is unacceptable - it's not funny or cute when a small child is rude.

That's what I did, but as my children got older, so they were at times cheeky.  I fined them - 1/4% of their pocket money each time they were rude.  That worked.

Also, my daughter was talking to a friend and her father.  Her friend is really rude and her father commented on it to my daughter.  They talked about it and her friend said that if my daughter was rude, she would be grounded for three months, that's why she wasn't rude to us.  For some reason, rude girl and her father couldn't see the connection.

Answer 5

To begin I am 15.

I completely understand what you mean! Though I do find it rather annoying being put into this stereotype.

I think it starts when they are very young - mostly because of their parents and peers.

Many parents swear around their children and do not discipline them when they act badly or misbehave.

Then again, if one parent is like this and your child is friends with that parent's child then they will be a bad influence to yours.

I guess its just a chain. We needa crack down on this though!

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Answer 6

this is the first generation in the history of the world where the majority of teenagers are still "children" in the sense that they are fully dependant on their parents until they are voting age or above.

In my view, this makes them rebellious and argumentative because they have no sense of control over their lives.

when I was 14, most people I knew went to work at that age, paid board and had an adult social life, were too bushed after work to play sport or argue with their elders, Whereas I was a student and had the energy and sense of repression to argue about everything, and did.

Time itself will solve the conflict. But for those looking for some answers now, maybe the new style of school-based vocational training(I speak here of what's happening in Australia)may give some teenagers a sense of adult purpose and a drain on their verbal energy that will enable parents to have some peace....................

Answer 7

to be honest parents have stopped whooping their kinds and since then as generations have passed the kids become ruder and ruder if there wasn't so must enforcement on child abuse there wouldn't be so many bad kids. if you watch what your kids watching as they grow up there is so much violence and show where the kids talk back to their parents. when i was growing up there wasnt many shows on like that now everywhere u turn the tv there are kids misbehaving on tv and u know how if kids see it on tv they think its right. i grew up watching the bill cosby show and watched the reruns of the brady bunch those shows showed good family morals unlike todays tv and yes it is partialy the parents fault but its the childs to because majority of parents say if there is anything you need to talk to me about tell me and we can sit down. also a lot of todays children do not have complete families they either dont have a father mother or both thats around. thats hard on a kid i had no father but i had my grandfather so i came out good and still doing good to this day.

Answer 8

Several reasons:

1. The community at large doesn't teach kids to be respectful to adults. When I was a kid, if you sassed an adult, you got in trouble with your parents, your relatives, your neighbors, your friends' parents, your teachers, your school principal, and anybody who was listening. There was nowhere to hide. Not anymore!

2. The media show Kids as King. Please the kids and you're a good parent. Upset the kid and you're a "bad parent". TV shows when I was a kid showed respectful children and stern but loving parents. It was fake, but it had an effect on us.

3. Some parents are rude and mean to their children, and get what they deserve and what they teach.

4. Our diet these days is poisoning our bodies, making us more susceptible to rage, depression, ADD, and autism. The media aren't helping. They sell sugar-phosphorus-caffeine drinks as "healthy", for instance. TV dinners are considered a "home-cooked meal". Beef, chicken, and dairy foods aren't even food anymore, after they're done being "processed". Produce is genetically modified and grown in nutrient-poor soil. Don't even get me started. Toxic foods cause toxic moods.

It's complicated. No one simple answer.

Answer 9

Parents alone are to blame.  They have no time to talk with the teen ager, discuss and solve her problem if there is one.  An intelligent mother would be like a friend to her teen aged daughter. Now-a-days parents are too busy and rarely talk to their children.  Then the girls falls in evil company because so many vulgar people pretend to love them.  The possibility of doping, s*x etc. happen.  They hate their parents when they try to control them in the event of finding some abnormality.  Family life should be full of love and a give and take policy is essential.  Then the children will open their minds. Otherwise they will dislike their parents

Answer 10

Well, well a good Question at last. Look back and analyze how u felt at that age? What u give is what u get. Its happening here in India too. Like, How much time does the parent spend for their kids? Do they really cook for them or look after them? How often do u rely on packet foods. @ days back i was asking my Mom, How often did we get the food we liked? coz nowadays parents often act according to the childs needs. So the kids take it for Granted.

Answer 11

ya, i too face this problem but i think the reason for this is the frustration. when i also behave rudely with my parents then i too don't know that what am i doing? i couldn't control my anger. but when everything slips from my hand then i repent what have i done? actually the competition, the burden of excelling and getting good jobs have created too much pressure over them that when they find themselves as loser they couldn't control their anger and the first victim of their anger is their parents itself.

control over urself and the anger is the solution of this and parents should also cooperate and understand their children.

Answer 12

I think there a million and one reasons.

But I think what it really boils down to is monkey see, monkey do.  If you treat kids with distrust and disrepect... weeeelllll.

The dissolution of the family unit.

The stimuli children are exposed to now everywhere - there's just so much information and media bombardment, advertising, etc.  There's thousands of different companies telling kids what they should have, what they should wear, how they should behave, what's cool, what's not - and of course ALL of these things conflict with parental realities.

DIET - junk food just disgusts me.  A lot of it is just crud to start with and some products can even strip nutrients out of the body.  Parents feed their kids rubbish and then go to the doctor for ADHD meds - that make drug companies a fortune - aaaaarrrrgh.

I could go on all day - these are just a few thoughts.

Answer 13

I don't think they all are but all teenagers have gone through a phase where we are rude to our parents for no reason, simply because of hormones, puberty and rebelling.

I know that some kids act out to get attention.. Sometimes they are deprived of it, other times they just want it for a few minutes.

When I was younger, I used to go into my dad's room and stand in front of the TV and demand something and when he wouldn't give me it, I'd keep hitting him with a pillow. And when he got up, I'd lay in his spot on the bed and refuse to get up, aggravating him more. I never realized why I did it, but I do now and it was because I wanted his attention. And the thing I would always ask for, I knew I couldn't get or I knew we didn't have or he couldn't do.

The same with my mom, anytime I needed to talk something out with her and wanted some attention, I would act rude and overreact until I felt it was safe to break down and talk it out, ultimately having her comfort me.

There isn't any instant way to solve the 'disrespecting the parents' problem, though if kids have a respect for them, then they more than likely will not cause any probs. in the first place.

I don't have a respect for my parents at all, or I think I would of been reasonable when I was younger when it came to getting attention, despite not knowing what I was doing. They always fight, my mother used to beat me, my father has called me  'sl*t' for leaving the front door open, my parents still use drugs occasionally, my father prefers my brother over me, etc... The list goes on.  If I looked at them as somoene I would want to be when I got older, I would have never treated them the way I did.

Even today, years later, I find myself seeking attention the only way I know how, which is to rebel or be mean. I don't do it often of course and when I do it is unintentional but it all has to do with wanting something from your parents, having a lack of respect and just being deprived of attention.