Why are the Danish so unfriendly to me? :(?

Question

I have NOTHING WRONG with Danish. In fact my best friend is half Danish and she also said they were very close to new friendships.

Anyway, all started on facebook. I added like 5-6 Danes and all of 'em asked who I was and they blocked me after saying swear words when I said 'em they didn't know me & I added 'em randomly. It's unfair. All I wanted was being a friend :(

If you had to generalize, would you say most of the Danish are like that?

Answer 1

theres people like that in EVERY nationality. i, myself, do not add or accept random people on my list and im asian, not danish. Ive been to denmark though. just take it as a grain of salt.

Answer 2

Danes, like many Europeans, value quality vs quantity in their relationships and many have friendships that formed over the entire period of their life. It's very superficial to invite someone into your Facebook that you don't even know. I'm actually surprised that you are surprised, even as an American it would be strange for someone I don't know to add me to their Facebook.

Answer 3

hi

1-if u look carfully u ``ll find many  friends   around u

Danish cheese

Danish milk  , i gusse that

2-I think they hv friends enough , so why they should car about ur frienship , or  otheres ,

3-they hv healthy farms

4-they hv healthy animals

but Im not sure about healthy peoples

thanks

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Answer 4

I think the issue here lies more with the Facebook culture rather than Danes in general. Most people are concerned with letting random strangers having access to their personal information - I certainly would - and would never add anyone to my friend list I hadn't met in real life.

I grew up in Denmark and moved to the UK 10 years ago, and I would say that Danish people are more reserved than the British, but once you've been introduced they are much easier to get to know and more straight forward. Don't give up on the Danes, every British person I've taken to Denmark with me have found the Danish very friendly and entertaining!

Answer 5

it is just there society and culture, i have noticed that they are quite friendly and respectful for the first few minutes or if you ask them for some directions but after that they are just rude, i am sorry but thats how the danish, and norwegians are.

Answer 6

Most are up-tight, ''snob'' also egotistical at first.

Then after you break the ice, still lot of them hold their grounds and characteristics as mentioned above!

I know, some would resent my response in which is ''the fact'' and those people are the ones stated above!!?!

Racism also plays the ''high roll'' in Scandinavia and i experienced it first hand in Denmark where i lived for years and years.

Any person with dark hair ethnicity would still  be called ''sort svin'' meaning ''black pig'' on daily basis.

In Aalborg (also other cities), where i used to live, those are called ''black pigs'' been spit on, beaten by a group at any given time( 'Rocker' they call them, are the most suited candidates to attack foreigners with black hair/skin in groups OR  a group of 4-5 at their night outs  in whom can be high schoolers or......... also occasionally premeditated, go to bars/clubs, get drunk and start the hunt!).

So, the action and disrespect continues in the banks, theaters,.................and name it!!

If any Danish or some one who've lived in that part of the world disagree with me, either is ignorant and a lier or don't have a clue what's going on in there, thus a little research would shed some light on their ignorance!

I'd witnessed and experience these events first hand and if i personally wasn't experienced in 'mma' and self defense, i wouldn't be able to pass these info's to day!

I used to work as an interpreter in Immigration office ( Dansk flygtning hjelp) also in police Dept. and Courts and teach mma at nights.

As i said, i experienced it first hand!

It's just fair to say that, i also had the nicest Danish friends/girl friends and colleagues through all those years whom I've missed them dearly.

They knew the problem and understood but couldn't do a god d**n thing!

Answer 7

As many others already pointed out, not everyone is like you, as in opening to a total stranger. However, I think what you are complaining is more for the way they rejected, involving swearing. I do think Danes are more reserved, but I can not condemn all Danes as rude. There are always nut cases wherever you are, and you just stepped on some nuts. It is not about you, but it is about them. You certainly don't want to be linked to those now, do you?

Answer 8

Yes. I can only answer for myself, but I would NEVER add a stranger to my friends on facebook! Most facebook profiles have either sensitive information or photos they wish to keep private. And the world wide web is full of weird freaks.

However I disagree with Aubrey that Danes don't make new friends. Some Danes are very reserved, but others were very willing to make new friends. Among my friends, it's about half and half.

It can depend on the ages though. Young people are generally more willing to make new friends then older people, and there's a difference between "country" and "city".

"i had one friend who new i like s*x in the city show and went on telling me that they r going to see it and have dinner and did not invite me. that was so rude." I honestly don't think it's rude... It's very normal to talk to friends on what's going on in their life. My friends did the same with s*x in the City, so I could be happy on her behalf (and a little envious ;)), if my friend and her boyfriend weren't going out for dinner, I would have invited myself along.

Answer 9

yes....i have lived her 5 years. they are not open to having new friends ...yes there some that are. But in general that is how they are brought up. They stay with the same people from preschool and that is how society, and schools teach them. To lean on each other and not go out of your circle. Its suppose to be if something traumatic happens. However this hurts them. They arent very open to new friendships with others. I have know my neighbors and girlfrinds of my husbands friends and they alsways never invite us to things or back out of our plans. i had one friend who new i like s*x in the city show and went on telling me that they r going to see it and have dinner and did not invite me. that was so rude. Its usually the excuse that it is in danish but it was an american show. They do that all the time and think it isnt rude but it really is cause most societies arent brought up that way and accept everyone. It is a constant battle here and the main reason im trying to get my husband who is danish to move to the states. he sees how miserable i am.

so dont feel bad...they are just like that and u have to deal with it. but yes there are those that do care and are friendly...but tourist who say oh yes they are so nice is untrue cause danes know they are leaving and they will never see the true side of danes.