Why are the people out there on YA so very judgemental? ?

Question

I have been looking around on YA for quite some time now and have noticed that when a question is posted regarding something that is not "socially acceptable" so many of you come down on that person like a ton of bricks. I realize there are several people out there who post questions just to get a reaction, but there are others who probably have no one else to talk to and are seeking HELPFUL advise. They already know what they are doing isn't "right"!! Does it make those of you out there who come down them feel better about yourselves? Do you think you are perfect? I really don't get it!

Answer 1

i notice a lot of females really bash hard as if they are perfect

Answer 2

I know, right? Personally I would try to help as much as I can, while staying relatively unbiased. That's all we can do. People like us help keep YA from being terrible, so don't pay attention to the others and be glad we can help. :)

Answer 3

um. this is yahoo answers, where people can be completely honest with how they see other people. are you really so shocked? c'mon. all the homewreckers and liars...how can one who tries to have honest relationships and dignity not judge? this is supposed to be "real."

Answer 4

if you are referring to the people who are having affairs, and trying to steal someone else's spouse?

if you are , then I am the first to be judgmental!!

This behavior is unacceptable and only leads to disaster for all involved.

People seem to have lost self-respect and have no scruples and if they want "answers" then they must expect truthful ones.

Children sleeping around, and extramarital affairs are not a solution to any problem.

It is not about socially acceptable, it is about right and wrong.

Answer 5

if you can reply acording to your knolegdge do it.

or stay away from it.

Answer 6

I totally agree with you. Although some of the questions do seem ridiculously bogus and just ask for a smart *** answer.  

Answer 7

I just logged back on here so I don't know what you're talking about but this is a wide open forum.  There are 12 yr olds answering questions in this section, there are people with experience, there are people who you might have made angry with your question, there are people who want to rip you a new one, there are people who have compassion for your situation.  The thing is that if you don't want opinions then WHY ASK?  For all that's worth you could just sit around talking to yourself.  What's the point?

Answer 8

re: I really don't get it!

Deal with it!

Answer 9

Because whether we like to admit it, or not....everybody judges other people. They judge them based on looks, clothing, speech, hair style, the car they drive...you name it.

When someone asks a Q on here say..." I am cheating on my husband..." they usually get attacked and they are called a tramp.

But think if you would stand up on a plane, a train, a bus or go in front of a mivie theater and ask the same question.

You'll get the same responses!!

Answer 10

I totally agree with asir. That is how I feel. If you can't answer from experience or you don't like the question. Ignore it. I see a lot of really rude comments on the pregnancy board. Girls that just want reassurance or someone to understand. Yes a lot do ask am I pregnant, but they just want help. Don't have to be so rude and mean. I truly believe this is supposed to be a place for people to get help from people who have been in their shoes. Oh and the thumbs down thing is bad too. People who give good advice get thumbs down. Get off of yahoo answers and come back when you've grown up. Just my opinion though.

Adding a little something. To the answers about being Judgemental, its not our job to be judge people. No one is perfect and no one has a right to tell someone else they are scum or worse even if they are. People that come on here to give nasty advice or put people down are just trying to make themselves feel better about themselves. I've made plenty of mistakes and i'm sure everyone else has too. Don't be so quick to judge and put people down. Take a good look in the miror and judge yourself first.