Why are you so shallow?

Question

It's apparent that I'm talking to those who truly are shallow, though I'm not sure anyone is brave/smart enough to admit it. Also, what justifies a persons shallow behavior? Is it insecurity or just plain stupidity?

Love to see how other people think, it fascinates me.

Answer 1

You are probably right. I think we are all shallow but some more than others. I know my sister is really bad. Shes nothing to boast about but for some reason she thinks its ok to put others down. For example we both went to the same school as this girl. Just recently my sister saw this girls boyfriend and she was going on about how fat he was and he isnt the first she has had a problem with. She has mentioned a few things about my ex boyfriends too. They werent good looking or anything special but they treated me right and thats all that mattered to me.

Answer 2

I'm shallow, and I love it.  

Answer 3

shallow plastic people make me rage pretty hard.

Answer 4

Yes, thinking is good, you should try it sometime.

Well, you did start your question by collectively insulting everyone on this site - generalising a bit, aren't we?

Answer 5

You kinda answered your own question...if any are brave enough to write here. It's mostly out of fear. They don't want to admit to their own short comings because of fear of rejection. That makes them follow the mainstream "norm" because it's easy to get someone to like you...if you are just like them.

Answer 6

I think everyone has moments of being shallow! Some people are just more shallow than others. I also think most of us are quick to judge someone at first but then grow more understanding if you know someone. This is why I try to learn more about a situation before I judge.

People who are very shallow are probably insecure too. While others may be shallow and confident, maybe overly so. I don't think there is a need to justify it though maybe people try. It's easy to say "Yeah I am shallow because everyone else is!" but instead of blaming others maybe people should look inside. They might have some legitimate reasons but it's not an excuse to hurt people!

I've been shallow too at times but I have learned (painfully sometimes) from it. I am a lot less judgmental of others now. You never know someones story until you walk in their shoes so to speak. Also when life hands you a serious load of $hit, you tend to be more understanding when it happens to others. Yeah, at times I was insecure and stupid too but at least I recognized the behavior and cared enough to change it.

Some people are shallow, stupid, insecure and mean and know it and don't give a c**p. People can be selfish, cruel beings if they choose to. Others choose not to be shallow. It's a personal choice we all have to make.

Sometimes too, we can think someone is shallow but when you get to know the 'real' person you find that the soul inside is actually quite deep and the shallow mask just a 'wall' the person puts up to avoid being hurt. This doesn't mean they are stupid or insecure, it can just mean they are scared. Some people who put on a shallow act are actually decent people. Though the shallow, mean insecure idiot is sadly the more common variety!  

Liking nice things and liking to look good is normal. We would not be human if we did not strive to better ourselves. This in itself is not shallow. What makes someone shallow is when they put looks and matirial things over people. Human life and human feelings are more important than looks or money or objects. Deep people know this. Shallow ones ignore this and go after what they want regardless of what they have to do. Here lies the difference...

The better question is where do YOU stand? I've heard plenty of shallow people accuse others of being shallow too. Personally I don't care if people are shallow or not. Unless they are somehow involved in my life, why should I care? If someone is shallow enough to annoy me, I probably would just avoid them. It would not be the first time I've had to do so!

Answer 7

I'm shallow and judgmental and a host of other malignant character traits.

I have a Napoleon complex, to an extent. I'm intelligent and well read and I know it, so I'm arrogant. I care very much what other think of me, because I am defined by others. I may be a racist, homophobic misogynist, but that wouldn't necessary show because I am in control of my outer appearance.I'm shallow because I can get away with it and because I'm insecure; if I see my flaws in others I cut them down for it.

I mean, and then there's ignorance, which I do not suffer from. I think it's a contributing factor for some, if not most.

Answer 8

I dont think I am shallow. But I have also made it a part of myself to be very loving and peaceful. I am sure I have my moments, but I am only human. I think what makes a person shallow is there own idea of thier self worth. If they think they are better then others, then there is the ability to look down on people for petty things. When you put yourself down and look highly on others, you will see the beauty in them. However I also think it has to do with how the individual was brought up, and how they were taughtt to feel about material objects.

Answer 9

i'm not shallow :D although i think it's funny that you put up these questions because you like to think of yourself as above others and intelligent enough to understand the workings of the human brain. the very assumption that the people your question is directed towards are shallow is based in no evidence and only first impressions, therefore also incredibly shallow. in your case this shallow assumption is based in clear insecurity which probably derived from stupidity.

oh how ironic.

Answer 10

any shallowness i have would be simply because i haven't had any relationships with girls, so i don't know how important a good mind and friendship is.

i understand why you like to observe people and relationships, i really don't agree with some of these comments, people observe not because they think their better but because they just want to get more wise. just like people who go to the gym might simply not be happy with their bodies and don't believe they are better than others for it.

Answer 11

In my perspective, a person that's considered shallow is a person that thinks everything must revolve around him/her.  The conversation is all about me, me, me.  It's stupidity for a single person to think the world revolves around them.  It's the typical snob with her nose up in the air and feels that her farts don't stink.  Daddy paid for their first car and really doesn't have a clue about the value of a dollar.  Put simply, it's the ones that were born with the silver spoons in their mouths and have absolutely no respect for another human being.  As most would say "I'm not a brat, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not.  I have found that their are more females that appear to be more shallow than the male sector.  You know the kind, the stuck-up bilch that demands you pay for dinner if you want to date me type.  Now I'm all fired up, but I will stop here because I feel I've made my point.

Answer 12

I used to be a deep introspective person, but it just made me sad.  So I stopped.  Better than Prozac.

Answer 13

I'm probably shallower than I was when I was younger because I realized that most people don't care about or even notice your depth.  I used to be one of those teenagers who browbeat people with with intellecutalism.  Nowadays, I express myself through hobbies and am more focused on using people for my own enjoyment.  I know it doesn't sound good, but I'm happier for it.  

Answer 14

Ah!!!  People who think others are shallow surely prove they are the very same thing!!

Answer 15

Life can be way too serious at times, I love to wallow in my shallow behavior whenever I can.

I grew up hard and fast so love to slow down and just think about me whenever I can.

I have done my time with alcoholic parents, divorced parents fighting(all out blood baths) babysitting and helping out with cancer stricken parents, drug addict sisters and homeless relatives.

Now it's my time.