Why aren't I interested in dating?

Question

I'm twenty and I've never been in a serious relationship. Up until a few months ago, I always had lots of crushes on guys and was fairly flirty. Now all of the sudden and for no explicable reason, I just can't be bothered.

Whenever a guy shows interest in me (even if he's incredibly nice and polite) I feel vaguely disgusted. And I can't have a sustained conversation with guys anymore. I keep telling myself that if we're friends first or if the right guy comes along it will be different, but it's not happening.

I love every other aspect of my life, but I'm annoyed with myself for being to inexplicably closed to men. Have I suddenly become asexual LOL?? Or is it okay to not want to date?

Answer 1

MAYBE YOUR A L*****n!! lol jk

I am not quiiiiite sure... hmmm...

Answer 2

Sure it's okay for you not to date. You aren't that old, believe me, lol.

And if you have a lot of stuff on your plate just now, you don't have the energy to put into a relationship, And keeping one going, does take time and energy.

So just for now, go with the flow, and don't get annoyed, it's your mind and body, that are crying out for some peace and quiet.

Once you get things all organized etc, you will feel those pangs of wanting to date again. I can't see you as an asexual being, if you had those feeling before, they will return to you, when you are ready and open for them.

Answer 3

you just need a good sexual awakening.

you will never miss the company of a man again.

Answer 4

People go through stages. Maybe you just think that you need to live a little bit before getting too involved. Enjoy life! when it happens you'll know.

Answer 5

sounds like the story of my life...

you're completely normal and it's ok...i went through i two year period where i just couldn't be bothered with men....every guy i met even if he was nice and polite i would roll my eyes in my head at everything they said

no one sparked my intrigue or interest - no one was exciting or popped...i kept saying to my friends all i want in butterflies that's all i want...i didn't even want a relationship i just wanted to be excited about someone you know?

and then suddenly one day it happened...ok it didn't happen so suddenly but i found someone who excited me who i felt was my intellectual equal but who i could also have fun with. he was different and new and most of all he gave me butterflies...

don't fret...especially about yourself...if you do feel like fretting about something fret about the quality of men you are surrounded by...not that they're BAD per se but that they're just not exciting.

Answer 6

you aint looking for love you might just want s*x that might be why

Answer 7

well you could be a L*****n

being serious ;)

Not everyones the same, just cause everyone else around you is dating people, does not mean you have to.  Maybe one day you'll meet the perfect guy and that one guy will be the only guy your in a serious relationship with.

Answer 8

maybe you just haven't met anyone worth dating. It's not weird  to not want to date.

Answer 9

I'm 21 and I have no interest in dating. I just ended a 3 year relationship though.

I have friends who are 18 with 3 children and friends who are 24 and have never had a bf/gf. Everyone is different.

Do what you feel rights and when the right guy comes along maybe then you'll want to date.

It's not wrong though for not wanting to date.