Why aren't we the British doing more to make adoption a viable option instead of abortion?

Question

why is it such a bad thing to give a baby up rather than abort. i think society should praise and support women who do that rather than comdeming them. it's got to be better than babies dying or women unable to cope bringing them up trying and failing and then the children suffering anyway. WHAT DO YOU THINK

Answer 1

in australia maybe 10 kids a year are put up for adoption (who dont have families to take care of them). Thousands of people cant have kids and want to adopt but they cant. They have to go overseas and spend A$30k which is riduculous. It shouldnt be about the money the governments should be looking for loving famililes. Its too easy to abort, i know people who have had up to 5 abortions, what they didnt learn the first time? even if i was young and single, i couldnt kill a baby or adopt it out. But i believe that some people feel they cant cope and the baby would have a happy life with a family who loves them. Abortion is an easier alternative, people can move on in their lives without worrying that it will come back to haunt them.....not to people: s*x=pregnancy!

Answer 2

I found when the Brook Advisory Clinic came to our school it was very odd.  They talked about contraception for about two minutes, didn't mention keeping your baby and talked about adoption for about ten seconds.  They then talked about abortion for over an hour mostly in a possitive light.  We were fourteen and mostly unable to see when something is being presented to us in a biased manner when it is presented by adults invited by our teachers and were told to listen to quietly.  Adoption is a hard thing to do though knowing you have a kid out there you aren't raising your way.  But it is a wondeful gift for a childless couple.  I think I would have got an abortion had I got pregnant at fourteen even though I was already becoming a bit pro-life (and wasn't yet having s*x).  If had a fourteen-year-old daughter who was pregnant I would suggest she keep the baby and that me and her dad help out so she can finish school and go to college (I would be pretty angry though as I plan to tell my kids all about contraception and not having s*x that young).

Answer 3

You can't force somebody to go through with a pregnancy.  Adoption is an option open to any expectant mother in the UK - we don't need the arm-twisting and shame-based infant adoption marketing USA style thank you very much!

Most women in this country who go through with a pregnancy parent their child.

Abortion is a choice not to go through with a pregnancy, that decision is totally unrelated to adoption so would you please clarify just how you are going to force women to go through pregnancy if they don't want to!  Again, adoption is and always has been a 'viable option' for any expectant mother in the UK.

tsk tsk

Answer 4

I'm not religious at all! But abortion is wrong simple as. Women do not want to adopt as they are afraid the child will come searching for them 18 years down the line and they do not want it to interfere with their new lives.

I often wished the UK was like Spain where women cannot get abortions easily.

Answer 5

personally i have had a termination. & i do not see it as a bad thing for adoption tho but my only personal down point to adoption is that ther are alredy far far too many children in the world without bringing more into it! this is just my personal opinion tho. Also when a woman has a terination it's not usely a easy dession it tears you up inside! i still regret itsometimes but then i think,  "i was too young & i wouldn't of been able to surport this baby like it would need me to! & i also don't think it is fare to have brought that baby into the world then give it up because then one day that child would maybe feel hurt etc by the fact that the mother didnt want it or something simula."

Answer 6

Here's what I think

there are a lot of adoptees anwering this and all giving the same answer as I am about to give :  you dont have a clue!!!

Here's another adoptee that believes in abortion and yes have often wished my so called (birth) mother believed in it too

As with some others I had a wonderful and some would say privileged childhood - my mum and dad were the best you could wish for

but really .... WAKE UP!!!!  do you wish upon any child to live thier life wondering why they were given away??  and trust me, it rears its head almost every single day of your life

Answer 7

Abortion is more humane to all involved.

Answer 8

because adoption is not as good as it  is made out to be. I thought this up the other day and it's true.

When you abort you kill the baby.

When you adopt you kill (not literally but in a baby's mind it is just the same) the birth parents.

The baby who is aborted doesnt live to remember its own death, but an adopted child lives its whole life torn by the fact that when they were a baby their parents disapeared/died/were abducted (in their eyes).  Even when an adoptive person meets their birth parents again, this wound doesn't ever truelly heal, it's like the parents reappear again. I haven't met my birth parents but I have met some birth family and meeting them again was like meeting someone brought up from the dead, it was a really bind boggling, emotional journey to go through.

My adoptive parents have given me an excellent life, they love me they have done everything for me, yet i still wish i was aborted, because what is the point in having a baby if it's going to be taken away, or you don't want it anymore. You feel discarded anyway, even if you live. It's like throwing a can in the rubbish, some homeless person might pick it out of the heap and save it, but it was still discarded and you can't take that fact away or the trauma of it.

I am not saying abortion is okay either though, I think people need to be less careless when it comes to s*x. s*x is designed for breeding. We get pleasure out of s*x because that's our bodies way of getting us to enjoy it and do it more so that it is more likely that we get pregnant. And even if you get pregnant, unless you are in the worst situation possible, there is no real reason to discard your baby and give it to someone else. Love and that bond from birth mother and birth child is never matched, what is more important wealth and opportunity or love and strong relationships?

There needs to be more done at the beginning to educate people about pregnancy and the implications of it. Teens should not only be taught what abortions are like but also what adoption is like.

Answer 9

Considering we have the highest pregnancy rate in Europe I think the UK should be doing more to stop the babies being conceived in the first place!

When people adopt the majority want 'babies' but what about all those older kids in care homes or with foster parents.  More should be done to promote adoption for those above the age of two.  Babies will always find a home.

Answer 10

Maybe you can start by stopping the legal kidnapping of babies at birth to meet 'adoption targets' claiming that things the parents did years before they ever got pregnant were cause enough to take the child.

(perhaps abortions are going up because so many innocent people are scared of the government taking their children for f**cked up reasons)

Answer 11

Better for whom?  I don't think encouraging adoption is better for the children who suffer from being relinquished.

Answer 12

I think you should stop telling women what to do with their bodies.

Remember what happened in Romania before 1989? Abortion was illegal there, and childrens homes were full of unwanted children. Do you REALLY want that?

Answer 13

I think you are right in what you say. But surely the best option is still to educate people about safe s*x. And then if a mistake is made like you said the girl/woman in question should be given the chance to bring the child into the world even if it's going to be looked after by another couple.