Why aren't women attracted to "respectable men" until after they have children?

Question

at any age.

Answer 1

That's a pretty broad generalization.

Are you saying that "respectable men" only date women with children? That makes no sense.  

Answer 2

That my friend is a bad misconception. I have never been attracted to anything less than a respectable, well raised, mature man, who knows where he is going in life. Or at least has some idea of that.  

Answer 3

wow.  keep it real...you have just identified the behavior of many, many, women.

i don't have kids and i like Christian men, but i know sooo many women who lust after those "bad boys" trying to reform them and "change" them...after a wild, rocky emotional ride it's like they've learned their lessons and want some stability - hence their new interest and appreciation for the respectable man...and nothing settles most women down than a child...

Answer 4

My ex-husband is a very respectable man. We are divorced due to unfortunate circumstances that we were unable to overcome.

I am insulted on both of our behalves.

Answer 5

Do you mean, after women have children, or only after the man has children?

My husband was and is very respectable. It's what attracted me to him in the first place (well, that and the fact that he's hot! LOL).

Answer 6

I'm in love with a very respectable man, and I have no children, nor does he, and do not foresee any in the near future.  This doesn't apply to every woman.  Maybe you are looking in all the wrong places for love?

Answer 7

Because women are insecure.

Some of them don't find a man attractive until other women find them attractive. What better proof that other women find a man attractive than when he has children?

Answer 8

they are. i am in a relationship with a respectable man, as are most of my female friends

ho hum. us feminists must just be more evolved ...

Answer 9

I'm marrying a respectable man in December.

Answer 10

I am attracted to respectable men.

It's when I find out they have children or a girlfriend is when I'm not attracted to them anymore.

Answer 11

The Bad Boyz aren't real good about paying the bills.  That's why single moms get interested in dull, boring Nice Guys all of a sudden.

I encourage the "respectable men" to abide by the saying: "If the kitten didn't want to play with me, I don't want the cat."

Answer 12

dunno, i am

Answer 13

because we, like men, look for a love in all the wrong places. cliche, yes. true, yes. pathetic, yes. i have made my fair share of mistakes. mostly, it was just thinking that certain men were "respectable" only to find out that they weren't. for some, it's just a mistake. for others, it's about no commitment.  

Answer 14

You don't need children to want a respectable man. Sometimes, it just takes a while to find one.

Answer 15

I'm confused. Are you asking why arent women attracted to respectable men until after the woman has children?  or until the "respectable men" have children?   If your talking about until the women have children, then I think it's because after having children your life changes and most women are ready to grow up and start a family...(which requires a "respectable man")  But pre-children...all you want to do is have fun

Answer 16

women want alpha male for best genes then nerd father to care for kids. Traditional women get hard working alpha males who support the family. Best of both world.

Answer 17

Many women are, like me.  I wouldn't give the time of day to a sleeze ball or self absorbed jerk.  But than again, I'm more focused on finding long term relationship material and not fling material.

If a women is only looking to date around, she'll probably lower her standards as opposed to what she would look for in a long term mate, much like men I wager when women complain about all men wanting s***s.

And some women, like many men, just don't know what they want and are looking for love in all the wrong places and don't know what is best for them.  Thats a maturity issue.  I really don't think it has too much to do children or lack thereof.

Answer 18

For the same reason that men would be thrilled to date a stripper while they are in their 20s, but probably wouldn't bring her home to his Mother in his 30s and introduce the stripper as "your future daughter-in-law."