Why be so mean??? please help!!!!?

Question

So I live with these "friends" and they are always putting me down. Why would they do this? I keep to myself, i don't ask for anything, and just do my daily buisness without getting in their way. But no matter what I do it's wrong. They complain about what tv shows I watch, what music I listen to, how I drive, how I spend my money.....just everything. Then they are also always telling me what to do....do the laundry, do the dishes, clean this, clean that and non of these messes are mine. What the h**l is going on with them? It's making my stress and depression level so much worse. What can I do? I am going to loose my mind....again!!!!

Answer 1

I hear alarm bells here.  You said AGAIN.

Were you suffering from a mental illness when you met these friends?

These so-called friends are talking you for granted and obviously they don't care about you.

You need to be assertive and in a polite yet, mature way tell them to stop and show some empathy.  You are the victim here and they know it.  You may need some support through this transition so call on a "true" friend to back you up.  Start learning to say "no".  Don't explain why and just walk away.  Then as long as you keep the peace things will start to change.  I wish you all the best dear.

Answer 2

Sounds like you've got some wonderful friends. *Rolls eyes* I'm sorry they are being such b*****s to you. I guess you have a few options. I personally would T-off on them...but that is just the type of person I'am. I really think it's true that people treat you the way you let them. Not saying it's your fault!!! But If moving out isn't an option and you really are friends with these people then your gonna have to either deal with their mean a$$ personalities. Or stand up for yourself. You can be very nice about it just tell them all you want to talk and spill your guts. If they are your real friends they should listen and try to treat you better. If they don't or if they cop up a nasty attitude saying your this or that or whatever...Then I would drop the Miss. Nice attitude and tell those b*****s to treat you better and that your not their slave!! And of course start calling them names the way they call you names, and make fun of their t.v shows and the way they spend their money and make a mess and demand one of them cleans it up. Pay back are a *****! LOTS OF LUCK AND BE STRONG!!!

Answer 3

Tell them to .f .u .c .k. off. and clean it them dam.n self.

Answer 4

yeah they know they can walk all over you bc u won't say anything.  u have to stand up to them and stick up for yourself.  they think they can get away with anything with u bc ur soft.  so like i  always say, if they give u respect, then u can give them respect but if they don't give u respect well then s***w them.  it goes both ways.  if u want to talk more at all i'm online on aim now and my screename is TheBTPYoda.  hang in there.  

Answer 5

I'll let you borrow my balls of steel for a few days and tell them to back the h**l off. If I were you, I would tell them (just like how I tell anyone who ever treated me like I was beneath them) that the only people I follow orders and clean for are my family and my bosses. Anyone and everyone else can take their dishes and shove them up their ***. How could you let that happen to you? You are LETTING them take advantage of you. Please tell them to wash their own ****. You use it, you wash it. You break it, you clean it. There are no maids in this world except for the ones that get paid, and that's what my father taught me. Tell them to get off their high horses and do some **** for once.

Answer 6

Maybe get new friends

Answer 7

Why are they so mean?   Because they can because you let them...stand up for yourself...

Answer 8

Ever think of moving out?

Anyone who treats you like that is no friend. They are just using you as their slave. Get some gusto and find a place of your own where you can do whatever you want, and not have to listen to these people again. I recommend not keeping them as friends afterward, either. If you cannot live on your own, or can't afford to, find a roommate or make new friends and ask if they want to live with you in a different flat. Just get out as soon as you can. Good luck.