Why behave in this way?

Question

I have been friends with this man for years.He wanted to take it further,but he is married so I didn't.I do love him and I told him that,but also that I could not settle for an affair.I have tried to be his friend &maintain a romantic distnce,but one night I asked him why he was ignoring me and he went beserk,saying I always blamed him.He would not talk to me for months.We were all out another night & he interupts me while I was talking to another friend abt a girl & he starts saying how she had a better body/***/better looking than me.As he left I asked him why he said such horrible things in front of our friends,as he knew that I loved him and he gave me an ultimatum to tell him I loved him once and for all in the cold light of day.I didn't because I was so hurt.Since then he ignored me,flirted with a woman I was insecure about in front of me and ignored me when I said hello,flirted with a really young girl in front of me and ignored me.He seems to swing between this and trying to be nice to me.I'm confused and want to sort it out.What is going on?

Answer 1

he may be trying to make u jealous so u will give him what he wants.since he can't get what he wants from u he's going to try to destroy your self esteem. but really he is cheating on his wife and wouldalso cheat on u if u were the wife.  also your wasting your time, he is married and theres no gain to this.if he would do it to her he would do it to u too.

Answer 2

He is cheating on his wife with you> What more is there dump the cheater as if you end up with him> Do you think he would be true to you> If you think so> Good luck>

Answer 3

Sigh. If he loved you and wanted to be with you then you wouldn't be the other girl. I know all of these responses seem harsh but you need a wake up call. HE IS MARRIED and not to you. Leave it alone. There are so many men in the world, why mess with a taken one? Enjoy your life and move on before his wife finds out about you.

P.S. Stop going on dates with a married man.  

Answer 4

This guy has so many strikes against him it's unbelievable that you think you love him.  You need more than romantic distance.  I think you need time to assess your situation.  Try to read your note back to yourself objectively.  You haven't given one reason to want to be with him.

On top of all this he seems willing to step out on his wife.  Would you want him to do that to you someday?  Please save yourself heartache and keep away from him.

Answer 5

Stop being a homewrecker and find your own man

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Answer 6

What's going on is you're with a married man. He's taking advantage of you and having it both ways. Why would you expect him to treat you with respect?

Answer 7

You can't just be friends with a married man that wants to f*ck you....Find some self respect and dump him for good....