Why can't I accept break up?

Question

We were best friends and then had a great relationship for 4 years - in the middle of his divorce everything went crazy for him and he cut me off completely and is now in therapy with his wife. He tells me he needs time. I try to leave it alone but then I call him or send emails and feel horrible. I want him back! Please don't call me a home wrecker, I am in real pain. I think he's going to stay with wife because of kids - how can I get past this???

Answer 1

K A R M A.  Sorry, but you did it to yourself.  But then again, you are both trolls, so I hope all you cheaters and whores get what you deserve in life.

Answer 2

Please don't call you a homewrecker?  Honestly, if you continue to pursue this man, that's exactly what you are.  How you get past it is to resolve to leave him alone and move on with a SINGLE man...not one who is separated or saying he wants to leave his wife, but one who is genuinely single!  Stay away from him and give him a good chance at working things out with his wife.  His family deserves that.

Answer 3

I hope this has taught you a lesson.. DONT GET INVOLVED WITH A MARRIED PERSON.  Just dont call him or send him any emails.. of course he isnt leaving his wife.. wth did you expect?

Answer 4

When you play with fire you always get burned.  I know it hurts but what did you expect being with a married man?  When you date a married man, you can't fall in love with them if you do you're only going to end up broken hearted as you now know.  Just think, if he'd cheat with you, he'd cheat on you...  so think of that...  remember today's mistress is tomorrow's broken hearted wife...  

I know you're in real pain and don't want to hear it, but you are a home wrecker.  When it comes time for you to meet a real man, hope that Karma doesn't come to pay you back for this.  

Answer 5

Well, losing your lover, your husband, finding out about his affair and getting divorced is the emotional equivalent of being in the center of a 12 car pileup.

Your soul feels crushed 5 different ways, your heart broken over a 3 mile stretch and your sanity boiled like a lobster in a pressure cooker.

A million questions, regrets and your head probably still spinning.  You need to grieve for all of your losses.  You need to heal and you need to peel yourself back up off the floor.

Running gives the equivilent effect as taking mild antidepressants, the only difference is it has the added benefit of getting you back into fighting form.  While you run you can have a chance to listen to music and enjoy some nice weather.  Run during sunrise or sunset, it's very picturesque and is good for the soul.

Eating healthy stress releiving foods can have a big impact as well.

Structure can help distract, and keep your body moving while you heal.  Also make a list of the top 10 things you've always wanted to learn and improve about yourself.  Like wanting to learn to oil paint, or learning to speak another language.   Go and sign youself up and do it!!!

Dig out the bible.  God is there for you, if you will let him into your broken heart.

Answer 6

GF - I feel your pain because I was in the same situation with my ex.

The only reason why you can't accept the break-up is because you still love him , plain and simple.

Clearly you are not thinking straight and that is normal, especially when the heart has been broken. But please listen to me when I tell you to STOP CALLING AND TEXTING HIM!

Biggest mistake you are making righ now. If you want him back and you want him to leave, you have to be independant. Men like to have something they can't have. Well everybody does actually LOL

If you think about it carefully, you will realize that calling him and texting him are signs of desperation and neediness. What do desperation and neediness do? They will only serve to push your ex further away from you.

I know it's not easy, (I KNOW) but if he wants to be with you, he'll come back on his own and stop playing mind games and this whole charade with THE wife !

Good luck

Answer 7

It's because your weak.

Weak people with no self-respect are always crawling after soemone.

Get some self-respect and move on.

Answer 8

You deserve the pain and I hope you keep it for a while so you will never do something like this ever again. You want us to feel sorry for you who caused your own pain yet you felt no sorrow or pity for the victims you were trying to make being the wife and the kids the only thing I can do is hope that he is suffering as much as you.