Why can't I be nice to my mother?

Question

I am a nice girl to the others, but strangly I am really rude to my own mom.

My mom is very nice to me, and honestly without her, I wouldn't have been properly grown up and educated.

It's so easy to become kind to the friends, but why can't I treat my mom so nicely?

Deep inside of me, I hate myself for doing this, and I know I will regret when she is gone.

What kind of advices can you give me?

Please give me as many advices as possible, because I really love my mom and I want to love her to my whole heart when I am with her.

Thank you.

Answer 1

Surprise her everynow and then with something nice like a gift or doing something for her that she doesnt expect. This will get rid of your guilt. Then just treat her like you normally do. Thats what I do.

Answer 2

First of all put yourself in her shoes and feel her emotions about this!! She is deeply troubled but tries not to show you!!!

She has unconditional love for you and that will never stop!!

Give your concious a deep cleaning with the help of GOD and see if you can't straighten your thinking out!! It is time you grew up and learn some compassion for the woman who gave you life!!! Start now before its too late!!!!

Answer 3

A mothers love is unconditional, no matter what we do or say, we always know Mom still loves us and will always be there. As for friends for some reason we want to please them and not upset them, we want to fit in and do what we need.

Most teenagers and young adults take their parents for granted, but I truly believe Mom's know under all that back talk they do love them.

You have taken a step in the right direction, recognizing how you are treating the most important person in your life, probably the only person who will ever love you unconditionally.  Now go buy her some flowers and tell her she is the most beautiful person in the world to you.  =)

(You are to her)

Answer 4

I went through a time in my life like this.  You might not be able to get past the way you treat her unless you can sit her down and talk to her about it.  Just be completely open and honest, let her know how you feel.  Also, let her know that you really do love her, and that you don't want to act this way.  There could be something deeper than you both realize, who knows?  Sometimes things just need to be said.  Once you get all of it off your chest, and come to an understanding with each other, you might find that it's easier to change your attitude around her.

Answer 5

to begin with, there has to be a reason why you feel that way towards her. you will regret treating her this way. you have one mother and when she is gone, you cant make amends. guilt is a terrible thing to live with when its to late. make her feel like the special person she seems to be. you wont regret it.

Answer 6

Ok, here is from a Mom, who experienced this from her daughter.

I always knew that my daughter loved me, no matter what.  Just as she knew I always loved her no matter what.  I attributed her behavior to immaturity and being slightly spoiled.

I think this behavior is very common with girls as they grow and mature.  My daughter and I, (now that she is older) have a wonderful relationship and I love her dearly.

Advise: Just tell her every now and then that you love her.

Answer 7

You can TRAIN yourself to treat your mother as you do others. Just think of her as a good and true friend instead of your mother. Try to have discussions with her about things she likes, learn what her life has been like, do what you would with a friend.

Answer 8

I kind of have the same problem if I think about it long enough. Truth is, unlike your friends, your mom is always going to be there.

. With friends, you to be nice, because if you're not, they have the ability to leave you in an instant.

Your parents however, cannot and will not leave you.

Answer 9

you harbor some resentment and you cannot let it go.

Answer 10

lf you can't express how you truly feel for her, start writing her letters. She has to know what her daughter thinks of her and it means a lot.

You'll be a mother too in the future. lt's not too late to change.