Why can't I find someone?

Question

why can't I find someone to settle down with? I'm 23, have a steady job, am kind, considerate and funny. So why is it I always get turned down by the girls I ask? Why do they always say "No" or "I have a boyfriend"?

I know you think that 23 is too young to settle down, but you can say what you want, I'm happy with my choice.

Answer 1

In a way, if you have to ask then the answer will already be "no"... you need to get to a position where they ask because you haven't...

Kind and considerate won't get women interested in you. You'll just be the nice guy friend to them. You've got to play it a bit mean and dirty. Play them at their own game. There are blogs and groups online to help you with this.

Good luck.

Answer 2

well don't try to force things to happen let things fall where they are suppose to. enjoy life have fun. life is to short to worry about being single

Answer 3

most people dont want to settle down age 23 u may be putting them off you...  

Answer 4

I think I have deja vu. You've asked this before and I answered it

Answer 5

Perhaps you are trying too hard, you may have an aura of desperation.

Just try to relax and not worry about things too much, instead of approaching it from an angle of settling down, try approaching it from lets see how we go.

If you come on too strong and try to tie someone into an immediate all or nothing situation then they will back off.

As soon as you relax and take a longer view things will start to take shape.

Try having some fun without a lot of serious conversations about where you are going in life, take your time there is no rush.

Answer 6

think about how your acting- you may appear to these girls as desperate.  

Answer 7

there not turning you down, your playing them.

now we've established that your actually a 'Player' and on the hunt for girlfriend - not a friend or someone to hang around with.  The answer is to become a PUA (Pick-Up-Artist) and not a AFC (Averagely Frustrated Chump) - this is all outlined in a book called "The Game - Neil Stauess' or 'The Rules of the Game - later book'.

found a swap website to get free book for old books (points based)

http://www.swapshop.co.uk/default.aspx?r...

or buy it at www.play.com, www.amazon.com etc.

rules are simple, increase your status, slightly insult her, seporate her from her friends and include her name in conversation.  its important to dress smart and not like all the others - wear extras (watches, beads etc).  o and never enter the bar alone or indeed desperate - don't drink to increase confidence.

if this next story applies to you then be horrified.  found myself single at the same time as one of my friends and so we went to a singles night (lock & key, talk to anyone) - so arriving and I did the usual embaressing myself, dragging him into the situation (standard wingman thingy).  During the night my friend started drinking (guniess or similar) and we'd settled on just talking to a average group of friends - who we seem to be getting along with (at that point we'd had equal chance) - then the drinking kicked and he messed up everything.  he had a cold pint in his hand while dancing, when he let go to give this girl a kiss on the neck, he touched her and froze her with an icey hand and started chatting spitting as he went.  Anyway two pints later, I had a choice of 2 of the 5 girls and he could bearly stand, ended up driving him home.  I was sobber, with 2 numbers - he was drunk and wanted to watch p**n.

Answer 8

If your looking too hard to always asking girls out it comes across as you being deperate!!

And that's not attractive. If you come across as someone that isn't confident, even though you have so many other wonderful attributes, then you will have problems.

Answer 9

If you like to gamble, I tell you I'm your man,

You win some, lose some, all the same to me,

The pleasure is to play, makes no difference what you say,

I don't share your greed, the only card I need is

The Ace Of Spades

getting a lass is like a game of poker, you just need a good hand things fal into place right person right time, and generally both want the same thing, im in same boat tbh