Why can't I get a girlfriend?

Question

I wear glasses (maybe that's why?) and I hate liquor and drugs (not making it up) I want a sweet girl that's all, why is that so hard for girls these days?

(No dumb answers please :) )

Answer 1

may be you run after them like a crazy person. just relax and wait. they will show you a sign.

Answer 2

Because girls think that being with the "dangerous" or adventurous guy  is more fun and a better relationship than the sweet honest relationships. That's why there's such a high divorce rate these days. Once they're married and past their rebellious years they say I want a sweet honest guy. Don't worry there's plenty of girls that know this reality and don't want to make the mistake of switching partner after partner.

Answer 3

The glasses and the liquor and drugs has nothing to do with it. Do you show confidence and have interests in things?

Answer 4

don't get your head down just because you cant get a girlfriends. there are many girls out there who are trying to find a nice decent guy and that sounds just like you. i suggest you probably go into a club, part or any social meetings and start socializing with girls. i don't think glasses is a factor but maybe if the glasses are bothering you, why not try contacts? anyway, just relax and wait the right girl will come to you. good things come from people who wait. having said that, be open more to girls and try letting your buds hook you up with nice girls with your taste. that's what friends are for right? lastly, to really get a girl, just be yourself. act normal and polite and if you were talking to one of your guy friends. all girls would like to talk to guys who are always nice, easy going, and open to any topic. good luck. : )

Answer 5

Wearing glasses, avoiding drugs and alcohol have nothing to do with "getting" a girlfriend.  Perhaps the problem is that you feel a girlfriend is something to "get"...

There are plenty of glasses loving, non drinking or drug taking girls out there.  If you want a sweet girl, you have to be a sweet guy...

Answer 6

You can blame television an movies for giving girls false images of men.  Are you old enough to date?  Even casually?

Here is what you do.  Target a girl.  Don't aim too high, this is not necessarily your choice in wife, just a girlfriend for a short time.  Pick one that seems to be in the same boat you are.  Then make your move.

Find a time and place where she is alone.  Have something to talk about, some subject or topic where you know you have common ground.  Casually, and with confidence (even if it's fake confidence) walk up and say Hi.  Start your conversation about the topic you have picked.  Quickly change the subject and compliment her.  Anything will do.  Her hair, her clothes, her smile.  Anything.  You will see her face light up.  Then, just as casually, walk away.

A day or two later, find her alone again and continue the conversation from before, again, find something to compliment her on and ask her questions about herself.  Does she have family, pets, anything will do.

Then walk away again.

Third time, find another reason to say hello.  This time, be more direct.  Say that you like her and compliment her.  Ask her if you can meet sometime at some public place.  From there, you are set.

I cannot stress enough how you should compliment her and get her to talk about herself.  Laugh at her jokes and look into her eyes when she is talking.  They melt.

Follow these easy steps and you are in.  If she rejects you, you must act like it's no big deal.  Her loss, right?  But if you do things right, she will not reject you.  I promise.

Answer 7

You wear glasses - That doesn't matter in the slightest in fact I think on some guys glasses make them look really s**y:)

You hate liquor - So what, at least you have principles, and don't just go along with everyone else.

You hate drugs - Good for you! I hate drugs too.

Be confident. It sounds like you have a lot going for you and soon enough there'll be a girl who'll realise that:) Good luck!

Answer 8

Glasses are hot. Well some guys pull it off better than others...

So what if you hate alcohol & drugs? Maybe it's because you tell them you hate alcohol & drugs? If they suggest a drink then go with them & drink cranberry juice, sprite, diet coke or orange juice. They always have it at the bar because they use them to mix drinks. You can also ask him to make your drink a "virgin" version of whatever. Or talk to the bartender beforehand and ask for "the usual" Ginger ale also looks like it's alcoholic. You can also ask the bartender to put it in a martini glass for you

Answer 9

Glasses is nothing to do with it, absolutely nothing. I wear hearing aids and glasses! That's amazing you hate drugs and alcohol, your very sensible, because I hate the exact same things too. It's sometimes hard because nearly everyone has judgmental comments and either wants looks, rather then personality, don't give up, you WILL get one, one who will love and cherish you.  

Answer 10

It's not your glasses, or not because you don't drink/do drugs. If it was, almost no human being alive today would be in a relationship, since only a minority drink/smoke/party regularly. Let's immediately strike that out.

But since this is the type of girl that you see today, I can only guess that this is the type you are most attracted to, otherwise you would be well aware of the variety of other girls out there. It is all too pitiful to see a person spend their youth consumed in their search for this type of girl.

Additionally, you said that people treat you like c**p when you talk to them. My guess is that you aren’t talking to girls because you genuinely want their friendship, but because somehow being friends with an attractive/popular person will make you an attractive/popular person. Genuine, long-lasting friendships, like all solid relationships, are based on substance.

Substance takes the form, for example, of sincerity, caring for the best interest of the other person, honesty. If you have to pretend to be someone you aren’t, or constantly be agreeable to the other person because you want them to like you, that isn’t being a nice person at all. Therefore, being “nice” doesn’t necessarily mean someone is a good person.

The question still stands however: "why can't I get a girlfriend?" My answer to this lies in feeling a strong sense of self-worth. The fact that you think you aren't good enough to have a girlfriend because, possibly, you wear glasses, tells me that your self worth depends on what other people think about you. True self worth comes from feeling good about yourself regardless of what other people think. You can be proud of yourself regardless of whether you are rich or good looking, or anything else.

Such people with a solid sense of self-worth exude a sense of confidence because they are at peace with themselves. Such people don’t necessarily have to be rich, good-looking, or an expert at something. People will want to be their friend simply because it is a joy to be around them.

Thus, without self-worth, how can you make any relationship work?. People who base their self-worth on others' opinion of them, on looks, or status, are insecure.

My advice would be to stop basing your self-worth on what other people think about you. I’ve written a great deal of theory, but it really comes down to whether or not you can try to live this way. Can you be a person who seeks substance in your friendships? A person who isn’t afraid to be himself even if other people will look down on you? A person who can truly feel good about himself regardless of what other people think? I think those are more important to strive for than finding a girlfriend. That minor problem will take care of itself in time.

Good luck.