Why can't I seem to be excited for third child?

Question

We'll be having our 3rd in 11 weeks or so, and I still can't wrap my head around the idea that there will be another baby in the house. We had our 2nd a little over a year ago and we were all so happy- and I was prepared (buying things, names picked out, etc).

I have not done ONE single thing to prepare for this one- other than go to prenatal appointments.

What's wrong with me? I love my kids but I feel like I already have post partum depression but I have'nt given birth yet!!

We don't have family around here but we have friends and they are all excited...it's just me who keeps thinking about all the negative stuff- like how much work this is going to be.

How can I get excited for this??

Answer 1

i'm in the same boat. I have 17 days to go and we still haven't picked out a name.  We've known the s*x since 20 weeks and still no name.  The other two we had their name picked out within an hour after knowing the s*x.  This one, nothing.

I'm excited to have another baby girl (third one) but mostly because I won't be pregnant anymore.  This one was an 'oops baby'.  I haven't bought any new clothes, new toys, or anything.  We have everything.  But mostly we had to spend for a minivan, since we can't put three car seats next to each other.

Now I'll have three children all under the age of 5.  Yikes!

i'm hoping to be more excited when the baby comes out.  Or I think I'm a prime candidate for postpartum depression.  never had it with the other ones.  We'll have to see...

Answer 2

oh its just part of being amom don't worry once the baby is here you will be happy!

Answer 3

I'm sure you are exhausted with two! My friend when she found out she was pregnant with her fourth burst into tears. Its the hormones. Once you hold that little baby you will forget every feeling you feel right now. Good luck with your labor and birth and thereafter with three little ones. you are a brave, brave woman.

Answer 4

Having little ones so close together is VERY hard! My youngest 2 are 376 days apart. I love my children to death, but it was pretty hard work having 2 little ones around. I understand where you're coming from and there is nothing wrong with the way you're feeling. Try to find someone to talk it over with and work through it. One day your kids will be all grown up and you'll wonder where time went.

Best of luck to you!!

Answer 5

I was in the same situation when I was pregnant with my third. All I could think about was the bills, the extra work, the crying, the diaper changes, etc etc.......and then I had her. Every negative thought that was in my head just washed away after she was born and I remembered how wonderful it was to have a new baby in the house. I think you'll feel that way too.

Also, maybe you should start doing all of those fun pre-baby things like shopping for cute little clothes, even if you don't need them. It might get you in the baby spirit :)

Good luck :)

Answer 6

Don't worry I am sort of going through the same thing.  I am only 15 weeks with my 3rd and my second child is only 7 months.  I think it's because the third happened so fast after the second that I am going through it.  I feel that I will be totally overwhelmed with a 1 year old and a newborn not to mention my first child who will be almost 5 when #3 is born.  

It's not that I am not excited I think in my case it's just that I have fear of the unknown.  I don't know what it will be like to have 2 children that are so close together in age.

I think for you the excitement will kick in the sooner you get to your due date.  Don't worry about it.  If you feel like it is getting worse however talk to your OB/GYN.

Good Luck...

Answer 7

Well... my dear...

I believe you are fearing the "over-load", the responsibility & all the work that involves having 2 kids..."in Pampers"...That's quite a job & I hope, you have a little support from good friends (since you don't have your family around)...I'm sure, you will feel better once the baby is born... May I give you one "piece of advice"??? Before you have another "unwanted" pregnancy, please do get some Type of birthcontrol, so you will NOT be in the same "position" next year this time!!!

I wish you lots of strength & a healthy baby!!!Greetings from Germany.... Annette****