Why can't I trust her?

Question

I have a friend that and she's always treated me great. Sometimes too nice. Within the past year, I've "heard" some stories about her while she was married. (She's not married now), and although I really don't believe everything I hear, I can seriously see how some of these stories can be true. The problem is that she has told me that she'd like to date me. Now I find it very flattering, but I just can't seem to trust her. Not so much with what I was told, but she's the kind that needs attention, and that will always make me think what she's doing if I'm not around her. I can't get into too many details, but we've done a little bit of "fooling around" here and there, but we've never "dated".

Again, she is super nice to me, and I'd date her, but I just can't seem to get myself to trust her. I know I shouldn't date her if I don't trust her, that's easy.

But seeing I just can't ignore her, and we do get along great, how can I change the distrust I feel in my heart?

Answer 1

Why not lay your cards on the table, tell her you need to have a heart to heart talk.

Tell her you like her now, and the relationship you have is great, but.........

Ask her about what you heard, (no need to disclose where you heard it)

Tell her your concerns about a deeper relationship and being able to trust her.

Better to air it out now, then get involved and get hurt, or not get involved and find out later you made the biggest mistake of your life.

Be honest with her, expect the same.

Luck