Why can't he come? Advice please

Question

Hey everyone I've recently been with my boyfriend for a month now and have tried to make to make him come by giving him a hand job. This has been unsuccessful because he can't seem to come and the only time he can come is through watching p**n. Its really upsetting for me I don't mind him watching p**n but I'd love to be the one who can get him to come. I feel so low and I don't know what to do. Is there any advice anyone can give me. I love him so much. Any advice.

Answer 1

Hmm, I am not sure if "love" happens in a month, but anyway.

It sounds to me like he has trained himself to come only with visual stimulus.

It's not uncommon for boys to not be especially aroused the first time they have a real sexual encounter. It does take some adjusting to as being touched by someone else is different to touching yourself.

(I never had an o****m the first few times I had s*x).

In time it will pass, but he could help by telling you, faster slower harder, softe,  etc. Also try using some lube, maybe talk dirty to him.

Don't use p**n as a guide. p**n is fantasy, not real life.

Don't let him blackmail you into mimicking a p**n actress. Some things like anal s*x can be dangerous and painful if not done correctly, (not that you can tell from most p**n videos).

As I said, I am sure it will pass, but If he can have a "normal" relationship, then he is not worth keeping.

Answer 2

have u tried lube? oral s*x? try these! or try watching a p**n video with him and then acting like someon in the video to get him aroused and he will come

Answer 3

Take the sand paper out of your hand.  That always worked for me.

Answer 4

okay do this: let him see all the videos he want and make a NOTE of the things/actions of when he does his 'magic moments".  That's what you need to do to him in reality.

Is he cumming @ at solo scenes, the bl0wj0b scenes, the certain positions scenes, the ejaculation scenes?

Answer 5

Well most people are telling you to act of these scenes and stuff, i wouldn't do that. If he's not into you, don't try anything you don't want to atleast, ok? Talk to him about this.  

Answer 6

He has to be willing to fix this problem. He needs to not m********e at all. None of it. And you are the only person that is allowed to give him sexual pleasure, and he isn't allowed to watch p**n durring it. Eventually he will cu'm. Altho it may take time. But he has to be willing to this and if he's not then I wouldn't give him any sexual pleasure. Because this is very upsetting for you and you don't like feeling like your inadiquite.

-Connor

Answer 7

Guys Genneraly don't like hadjobs to tell you the truth. Personaly I think that I know how to give myself a handjob better than my girl friend would just how some girls say that guys do a horible job fingering them. I your into oral s*x or anal or real s*x those are the 3 main things that guys are into.

Shawn C.

Answer 8

Wow, I came 4 times just reading your post.  

Answer 9

put vaseline on the full p***s and squeze his testicles as tight as you can  keep moving the f******n over and back and know he will fire  

Answer 10

Well if he can while watching p**n, there is NO physical problem. He has a psychological reason. Nerves, lack of attraction, I don't know.

Answer 11

if s*x is out of the question, try giving him oral. if not, hop on!

Answer 12

Well you can have s*x while you both watching p**n

Answer 13

if he can come he's normal always there's more than one way to make him come hand mouth b*****s a little bondage might excite him try anything and everything you comfortable with