Why can't husband understand me anymore?PLEASE HELP ME?

Question

I have been married to the most wonderful man in the world. but their is one thing wrong he takes his mom side. for years his mother and me had are differences. but lately we got into a drag out fight i called her a ***** and she kicked me out of her house. anyways i know it is wrong. so i told him to tell her we both have to put this in the past. she wont she said that she will not take anymore from me. i don't blame her but please we have family i told him to tell her that we need to make a meed with each other and put it in the past. this is what she said she will not yell at me like my sister do. it is so hurtful. so i have stayed away while my family goes to see her. now weddings and holidays are coming i really want to go but imam so hurt from this. my adult children go to she her and hubby. why cant my husband take me to his mom and tell her no matter what imam family he just wont do this and even worse he will not talk to her about me please try to understand it hurts me so help any answers would be great

Answer 1

well, you are wrong for even trying to apologize through him, you need to go to her yourself like a grown woman and apologize to her face to face. Tell her that you're sorry and that you have been raised different than your husband and by calling her that name, you didn't mean it and you understand that she takes it personal but for her to try to please understand you and that you have a problem with disrespect and that you will do everything you can to fix it. Tell her that you are family and you now understand what you did was wrong and would NEVER jeopardize your family like this again.

Answer 2

Your husband should stand by you. Period.

If you apologized, and meant it, then Mom is the immature one.

If hubby backs Mom, then Hubby has got to go so you can find a real man that will stand by his woman, and not by his Mommy.

Answer 3

Lady you're in a tough spot and there is no easy or one way answer for your problem. If your husband is not going to back you anytime soon then you might want to try and speak with his mother one last time in an attempt to clear up any unresolved issues you two have with one another. And if that doesn't work, there is really nothing more you can do. When dealing with a person with a specific mindset that is "reinforced" with stiff-pride, arrogance or just plain ignorance, that is just one of the hardest hurdles to overcome especially between two feuding "leading women" So, unless your husband decides to grow a back bone and tells his mommy to do her best to get along with you, there really isn't much more that can be done in this situation.

Answer 4

mothers in law are not the greatest but you shouldnt have called her a *****. put yourself i her position she must be very hurt. you should give it sometime and look for a way to apologize yourself. dont send your husband in your defense. Try to call her or find a way to show her that you are really sorry.

hope this helps. good luck!!

Answer 5

I have been there. I wont make excuses for him but I will tell you he needs  to understand the seriousness of this,, at the same time, you need to understand he feels pulled.

If he will not go to counseling, please do it for yourself.

Stay with it so you can learn what you can do for yourself and also maybe communicate this better.

Answer 6

I think you have many more problems in your marriage than his Mother. I think you married a "mamma's boy" and she has always had her nose in the marriage. He confides in her about everything which just makes her hate you. Mamma also feels that if she can get rid of you, she can have your husband back. What I would do is apologize to her. Then nothing more. When the family goes to see her and you aren't invited, just use the day to play on the internet, get a massage, get your hair done, shopping, or whatever. Never ask what went on at "Mamma's House." Don't give her the satisfaction of even caring. Just ignore the whole situation. Also, I wouldn't be the one buying a wedding or birthday gift if I wasn't invited. Let your husband buy and wrap the gift then. Just continue being nice and sweet....and ignore these *******. He won't talk to Mamma because he's Mamma's boy and he thinks you are the one at fault. Sorry but it's the truth.