Why can't i be happy?

Question

Everyday i go for bike rides for hours at a time, just listening to music, and hoping to find some sort of excitement. I take krav maga classes on wednesdays, i exercise alot, i read, and every now and then i do strike up the occasional random convo with a pretty girl.

I must be missing a personality chip or something. I can talk to anybody. In highschool i never had a clique, anyone was my friend. I don't understand why i feel so alone all the time.

Praying to God doesn't improve on the silence. Im not depressed, although i used to be until i started exercising and putting myself out there more, and yet i still dont understand anything about what it is to be happy.

im just rambling, thank you for any answers

Answer 1

Wow, you have no idea how I felt reading this because this is exactly exactly how I feel. I've been doing the exact same things as well, and I was depressed too after moving to the Philippines. I always do the whole riding the bike with the iPod thing to kind of.. think, and get inspiration. For awhile it kept myself happy, but somehow it keeps coming back.. the feeling of being sad. I'm at the exact same stage right now, I used to be hella outgoing. I even started to get popular before I moved and when I moved.. bam. All that was gone, depression.. I didn't talk to anyone, didn't make many friends. Now I have a couple of friends but people don't tend to notice me. I'm more quiet and shy even though I try to put myself out there. I hope this makes you feel better in a way cause I'm sort of glad I'm not suffering alone.

People tell me I'll grow out of it, and sometimes I feel like I won't.. but I think that this is how life is. I think that someday we will finally wake up and be happy again, we just have to try to work things out along the ride. I don't have the real answer cause again, I'm going through the same thing as you are.. but I just try to hope. I always think that I'm doing things to improve myself even if they don't seem to apply to me but someday I hope they will.

G'luck!

Answer 2

Sounds like you're thinking too hard. Don't go off of what everyone tells you is going to make you happy. While some of these things are good (like exercising, praying to God, and being more open), if they are not part of your personality you are going to be out of place.

Find what you love to do and if you don't know what that is right now, be spontaneous! You'll find it- something is going to click.

On the other side of the spectrum, sometimes I wonder if some people aren't born to be happy. I'm almost never truly happy but I feel fine, do what's cool/"fun", and have a normal life. I do have things that I love and when I can do those things, I think I am happy (btw, one of those things is praying to God- I can't deny feeling great after praying for even just 5 minutes- amazes me every time).

And it's not like I mope around- I'm like you- I exercise, talk to people, etc. I just don't feel the happiness/contentment that most people get out of these things. I think that's ok- as long as you're not suicidal or anything harmful, I've come to the conclusion that you don't have to be 100% happy-go-lucky all the time.

Answer 3

Know Jesus know happiness. and when You know Him you know your purpose therefor you will be happy.

Answer 4

Your just missing something in ur life u havent done wat u were meant to do in life u may have accomplished every possible thing that you wanted but you probably havent accomplished wat u were meant to do hope i helped u alittle bit if not im sorry think about my answer n the other answer hopefully u find wat u r lookin 4

Answer 5

Life will be what you choose to make it; choose to be happy -- if you want to be "happy" find your own reasons to be happy. You can't depend on other people to make you happy (it's not their function in life)  

Answer 6

Perhaps you are missing close relationships with other people, where you feel you can trust them and have a good time with them.  

Answer 7

Praying to God should help you feel better. I think you should spend more time meditating and trying to communicate with God.

As per the other things. i think you just have to enjoy being with yourself when you are alone.  I like you Q and will add some more stuff to it. (ill edit later on)

Answer 8

Hmm, research Buddhism.  This may help.