Why can't i feel?is there something wrong with me??

Question

i go through periods where i have no up or down emotions...just always monotone...right in the middle...i can pretend to be ecstatic,or pretend to be sad..but i don't really feel it..you know what i mean? i can look at my girls doing something really cute and i know that as a mother i should be going "awwwww" but i'm really kind of indifferent (i love my kids,and i'm not a bad mom).seriously though there are times when i know i should be happy or i should be sad but i'm not...just indifferent...this isn't an all the time thing though...sometimes i can feel..is it because i don't slow down enough to FEEL the emotion,do i take such a stoic stance on life that i can't feel(i can't make myself happy or sad either already tried it)or do i have some kind of disorder or chemical imbalance?

Answer 1

It's probably just a phase you're going through.

Answer 2

I've gone through periods like the one you describe, when I mentioned it to people they looked at me as though I were crazy, I'm sort of glad to know that it's not just me. It's turns out during those periods I had bottled up my depression so much that I just sort of shut down in order to protect(in a way) what I had left of me. It took something huge and shocking to shake me out of it. Therapy helped a great deal. I hope this helps. There's nothing wrong with you. I know how empty and strange I felt and I hope I helped you feel not quite so alone with it.

Answer 3

"Wake up mom!  Your kids need ya!"

Nothing wrong in not being able to 'feel' or to give that 'awwww' expression.  As you say, when you go overspeed, just for the sake of going (just as in driving), you risk many things not only for yourselves, but for those around you.  Slow down a little if need be - good that you have identified it (that means you have woken up).  You may need to put in some extra effort to look around and bring out that lively person in you - even if it seems a little artificial.  Once you get the energy and the 'artificial' comes out naturally, you are back to normal.  Get going now!

Answer 4

That's just how I am. I am not depressed. I've always been like this. Apparently it is NOT because I feel no emotions - it;s because I am not 'IN TOUCH WITH' my emotions. I think most people do not feel emotional most of the time. Things take awhile to sink in. Sometimes I can feel something over a little thing, but feel nothing over a significant thing. It is more healthy to feel emotions when something important happens because otherwise we don't deal well with loss and change, relationships etc. I think most people are similar to us - don't you find though, that with music you can feel something? This is a sign that you do have emotions - you're just not very 'in touch' with them.

Answer 5

you are what you are. nothing is wrong with you. everyone is different. there are emotional and expressive people and there are those that are not. it is only wrong for you if thats not the way you want it. in which case you havent reached your full self. you want to experience things in life that you havent yet. its when you feel theres something missing or lacking in your life. what you need to do is think it out very well if thats something you need or something you just want. realize also theres a price for everything. if you pursue one thing you are likely to give up something, like time or money. often a hug or kiss or good conversation with your family is very good to reassure yourself that everything is just fine.  

Answer 6

This is a classic symptom of depression. Is there something wrong with you? Yes, I think you know that, but dwelling on it will not solve your problem. There are things that can be done, but the most insidious thing about depression is that it kills your desire to correct it. I would suggest that you seek help. Support groups, counseling and medication are some possible solutions. Good luck.