Why can't i get over him? it's like torture. :P?

Question

so there's this guy... paha. yeah, and i have liked him for a about a year now. he always acts like he likes me, but when i told him that i like him about 4 months ago, he said he just likes me as a friend, and he likes being my friend. now i'm in highschool, so i thought that it would all stop, but it hasn't. how do i get over him?

better question: how do i get him?

i know some people are going to say "date other guys" or "make him jealous with another guy". but i'm really not like that. i'm not the kind of girl who goes looking for guys. and i'm pretty picky because he has to be a good christian guy who is waiting to have s*x until he's married, and who doesn't curse alot.

paha. i know i'm writing alot, but i just don't get why he doesn't like me, and why i can't forget about him! :P

help? :]]

Answer 1

Maybe he doesn't want to be with you cause he wants some action before he gets hitched.

Answer 2

Well first off do you know that this guy is indeed going to fit your ideal of a good Christian man?  If he isn't then don't bother because you aren't going to change him.  If you want to be with this guy but he insists on only being friends then be friends for a while.  A lot of great relationships start out as just being friends.  Get to know each other more and see if you still want to be more with him.  You will become more comfortable around each other in time and things will be easier to discuss.  He is a crush...and crushes are hard to get over, but believe me they do come and go.  If it doesn't work out there will always be someone else.  Things always seem to fall into place.

Answer 3

your still young and it sounds like your going after the wrong guy

Any ways if you like him this much the guy for you should like you that much too.

i use to go for guys simply because theyre cute but when u date a cute guy sometimes its not as fun as the right guy you deserve a guy who will treat you like better then his mom sounds weird i know but if a guy realy likes you he will stand up for you and tell all his friends u 2 are dating and be proud of you your still in high school right  so you dont need to go to boy crazy right now i seen a lot of girls go down that road and their nicknames follow them the easy girl or the girl that every bodys had.

i was lucky i always went for the hottest guy which i never got cuz i never trried i would just think they were hot now im 19 and every one i went to high school with see me at the bar and say wow i liked you and i always thought of you as the girl that no one could have; the girl that someone really has to work for now i have an awesome guy who treats me awesome! He knows he has to work for me he has to hold my hand kiss me in public when were at a party and both talking to diferent people we will catch a moment when i look at him and hes looking at me and we blow quick air kiss to each other; we go to dinner he buys me gifts and he is so s**y and i really like him i thought about saying i love you to him but i didnt then he said it to me! and it felt awesome to hear him say it first because guys dont usually admit these things he likes to "show me off" just like when i see peolpe i know i love saying hey meet my boy friend!!

so i guess what a im trying to say is do yourself a favour and look further ahead to the future who do u want to be the girl who dated every OKAY lookin guy or the girl who wasted no time until the guy of her dreams finnaly found her besides you have 100 years to live you dont want to end up with an std (they really are out there and closer then u think cuz how many of your sexually active friends have regular pap tests?)

Answer 4

dress all S****y and he will notice how s**y yhu are and want to get with yhu ;] all guys like the s**y girlss i would knoww

Answer 5

E-mail me through my profile page and I can help

Answer 6

Okay, so I am a bit confused by your question. Do you want to get him or do you want to get over him? Those are two totally different things, but you knew that, didn't you. So what you have to do before you decide what you want to do to him or with him is to figure out what it is you want for yourself. Another important thing would be to figure out what you want FROM him. Do you want him just because he rejected you and you can't stand that? Do you want him because he obviously goes on his own terms and does not jump when you tell him to? So going back to the get him/want to get over him part, you have to let that thought go and choose the one or the other. The two don't go together, they are opposites, they exclude each other. That's where the torture (that you mention) comes from. You either stand on the get him part or the get over him part. Only a full blown schizophrenic could do both. BTW, what's paha?

Answer 7

people tell me exactly that!

i broke up to

and i hate him but i still cant stop forgetting about him and stuff

it just bugs me so much

erase all thoughts of him,

pictures, msn, phone number, ex

ignore him and try to avoide him

yuul find someone whos truely worth it :)

Answer 8

Tell him how you deeply feel about him. I'm talking GRAND CANYON deep. If you do that, he'll know exactly what he's gonna miss if he says no

Answer 9

Hey Hun :]]

I was exactly like that but for 3 years he acted like he liked me but it was more like unrequited love for me for 3 years it was awful.

No Im going into 6form [im 16] and he has left school to go to another college so hopfully i will be over him now he's gone.

Its just the way it is hun.

Take care and good luck. x

Answer 10

You need to make him feel that you are in changing......because when you change you get the guys attention.. dress black skirt with black t-shirt.... put some make up and cologne. Because this things make the guys try harder to get you...... get close to him what you feel about him! get close to his lips slowly..... if he rejected the kiss keep trying don't stop... kiss him and tell him "I really want you (Name - Sure Name)" and tell him that you are trying to get him.... and you are working so hard...... "If he didn't say anything you want tell him (Give me a chance! How I'm I going to get you to hold me?) This things will work..... it's worked on me! That's how I felt in love with my girlfriend! Once she done from this tricks and I found my self making out with her.

Answer 11

it's the law of life

you meet guy ur not interested in

guy your not interested in flirts with you

you ignore him

he flirts with you

you ignore him

he flirts with you

you ignore him

you haven't seen guy in while and miss him

you decide you like him

guy's attention has moved on

you're obsessed and now heart broken.

There is no set cure for this. What I reccomend flirt and go out with guy casually until you meet someone that you're more obsessed with than the first guy. Let's hope this dope doesn't have a case of ADD.

Answer 12

find someone else?

Answer 13

wow that sounds a lot like my situation, even the way you described him. in 8th grade he had this gf (caroline ugh) but this summer they broke up.

he might not like you because he doesnt know how great, or not great, you are. invite him to go somewhere with you like the movies with friends. and be sure to sit right next to him. send flirty texts, um.....oh and be sure to always try to look hot haha but it's a big plus that yall are already friends

that's what i did and now im a freshman and he's taking me to homecoming :))) (oh yeah and we made out at the pool so that might have helped a bit....)

Answer 14

think about what kind of girls he does go after? if they arent anything like you (like girls who dont look for straight forward guys with manners) then he may not be the one for you. if you want to be with him that bad, take up an activity he enjoys and maybe enjoy it with him. make yourself less available men like a chase. you dont have to date other guys just give him that thought of shes got a something that i wanna get to know.

Answer 15

s*x after marriage?

Answer 16

Take him on a date as a friend or something, and keep doing it, if he does maybe he will start liking you in a deeper way if not, maybe your just meant to be friends

Answer 17

mmm... IDK really.  I think most guys are scared of committing especially in middle school.  The guys that do start asking out girls in middle school are douches and not worth any time.

Anyway, just stay his friend and wait until later in high school and he'll definitely ask you out.

Answer 18

I would say just stay the course and see if he is a late bloomer who falls for you after a while of seeing how good of a person you are.  best of luck!

Answer 19

because you ego doesn't want you to be the loser. Check your ego and let got more on with your life

Answer 20

Well first off, "How do I get him"?  You don't.  He wants to just be your friend.  If you "Get him" under any tricks etc. he will be with you just because of that and not because he actually wants to be with you.  Your best shot at having him like you back in that way is to just be his friend and maybe at some point it will turn into more, but it probably wont as he's not looking at you in that way.

You do need to just move on.  I know it's hard but you will find someone else, you found him right?  Might take years, might take days, might take seconds ... but you will find him.

Be happy being with you, and the rest will fall into place  

Answer 21

are you attractive? maybe he doesn't think you are attractive to him because guys just don't turn down girls who tell them they like them its just not typical.  You need to give yourself a make over cut your hair dye it put make up on dress more impressive you need to grab his attention because its obvious you are not right now.  Make yourself glamorous!

Answer 22

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Answer 23

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Answer 24

I know what you're saying. It's very simple- you're in love with this guy! Just keep being yourself and if he eventually doesn't like you then try your best to forget him.

Answer 25

I do not know darling.

Answer 26

i had this same problem, and i eventually got over it.

i was in the same situation as you. i let time heal me, and now im a sophmore in high school and i have a boyfriend that will appreciate me, if he realy doesnt want to date you , you should be a good friend and accept that decision because chances are he'll see what a nice person you are for accepting it.. and maybe come around to like you! i hope this helps you :]

Answer 27

Its hard but I'd just start looking elsewhere. He already told you he only thinks of you as a friend and trust me if your just entering high school there are going to be many other guys. Whenever the thought of him comes into your head immediatly think of something else. You'll get over him when you find someone else you'll totally forget about him :). In the mean time dont waste all your time thinking about how to get him instead think of new things to go out and do. hang out with friends, go to the movies do what you can  to keep your mind off him and sooner than you think he'll mean nothing to you:)