Why can't i post a question about sexual abuse

Question

i'm trying to post but it won't let me why not??

Answer 1

I'm not sure why your past posts were deleted.  Maybe they were too graphic or something.

The problem with your mom doesn't have to be your problem.  She obviously has a problem, but as they say, the only person you can change is yourself.

Ultimately, it's not your task to get her out of denial.  Chances are you'll be trying your whole life, and the trying isn't going to help, in fact it might just enforce her behaviour/beliefs.

I would suggest reading any book by Eckhart Tolle.  He'll show you a whole new perspective on life.

If you don't want to talk about the abuse when you're with your mom, then don't.  See what it's like to visit once without ever bringing it up.  Feel the power.

Answer 2

Because it is against Yahoo! answers code of conduct. If you have been sexually abused, you need to report it.

Answer 3

Ok.  Forget your mother.  She is not now or ever going to validate your experience.  She lives in denial.  This happens many, many times.

Honey, you need to validate yourself and your feelings, and work on healing.  Your mother DID NOT do her job to protect you and she can not face that.  But, that does not mean you can not heal.

If you know you were abused, you do not need her.  You need a compentant therapist and YOU to heal.  It is hard to accept and give up on the wish that your mother is going to help, but right now she won't and probably never will.

As far as your relationship, some people stop seeing their abusive family while they are healing and getting stronger.  Some people do not.  But what matters, is how you learn to accept your truth.

Answer 4

Hey sweetie, I was sexually abused as a child too, for three years, by my cousins.  For a really long time I blocked it out and denied it ever happening but one day it just hit me and I realized, I was abused.  Eventually my mom found out through a counselor at school but she accepted it right away.  Now Im also seeing a therapist and Ive been diagnosed with depression.  So Im sorry about your mom not being very understanding, I think shes just scared.  I mean picture yourelf in her shoes, wouldnt you be terrified, wouldnt you try to deny it?  I would, if my daughter was abused.  Id tell myself she was lying or something cause anythings better than knowing your daughter was abused.  Id blame myself, Id consider myself a failure as a parent.  Its not your job to make her understand, its your job to get better and move on.  Good luck hon!!!

Answer 5

May-be try and have the counselor talk to your mother, that's what I had to do to get it through to my parents that I have PTSD because they wouldn't believe me.