Why can't my boyfriend take anal s*x?

Question

My boyfriend and I haven't had s*x in months, a big reason being I am turned off by the fact he makes me stop because it hurts too much. Is there some way or something we could do that would make it easier for him to take it so I can take my time? We've tried it with and without both lubes and condoms and he still has a hard time. Help!

Answer 1

Maybe if you asked this in the Women's Section, you'd get better answers, by a landslide.

Regardless if you're g*y.

Answer 2

I'd try loosening him up by fingering first, then trying it.

Answer 3

Well don't do it dry! Unless you want raspberry sauce to come out of his chocolate starfish while he screams higher than Mariah Carey after having her toe run over by an SUV.

Anyways, how about relaxing first so his anal muscles won't tense? Foreplay, going slow with him guiding you in slowly to his pain threshold. It will hurt the first few times but then become enjoyable afterwards.

That or (ego stroke alert) your p***s is probably too big and it's like shoving a pineapple down someone's throat.

Talk to him - learn more about eachother sexually, then practice and soon you guys will be f**king more than a sexually deprived ape who's been fed nothing but Viagra like it's M&M's.

Good luck.

Answer 4

just try going slow. take time to make both of you comfortable.

e-mail me if you have more questions.

adam.

Answer 5

There are few essential things which you must know for a successful anal s*x. There has to be excellent lubrication and the best lubricant is KY jelly apply it very liberally around a**s and p***s of your bf. You also have to understand that a**s is not designed by god to have p***s inside it so  it will hurt if you do  not insert p***s properly. At this point ask your BF to start inserting very gently and very slowly. There may be little pain when p***s enters but once it is inside it would give good pleasure to your bf and you also !  

Answer 6

hard time... *wink wink*

i get those alot mmmmmm

Answer 7

try going a little slower and maybe that will work.

Answer 8

use lots of lube,

i also amire the fact u can ask a question like this on a website, being g*y and not caring what ppl think

congrats

Answer 9

maybe hes not really g*y and doesnt like anal s*x?

Answer 10

go to the sextoy store and buy some anal eaze. be gentle and maybe you should bottom everyonce in a while too there killer.  

Answer 11

ok one you need to go very slow for the first 5 minutes and use a lot of lube and maybe so muscle relaxers and i suggest switch it up some times so he get a brake and by the way i love that you have the courage to ask this type of question on a public website nice

i must say i respect you for that  

Answer 12

Don't force someone to do something they don't like or hurts.  People werent born to take a d**k up the rear end.  It isnt exactly natural but for those who dig getting it, than great!  Just do things that are pleasurable for both parties (mutual satisfaction).  Do not only think of yourself or your own needs but the other persons feelings as well.  

Answer 13

are you sure he's a bottom?  are you sure you're a top?  take this question for a whirl in the g*y, L*****n, and transgendered section.  good luck, baby boys.

Answer 14

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Answer 15

Muscle relaxers, maybe?

Answer 16

take it slow, lots of kissing and maybe jerk him while ur humping. switch it around fro a change and let him be on top!

Answer 17

Well maybe your boyfriend is not the type to want to bottom all the time. Maybe he thinks you should be bottom sometimes so that he can experience that sort of pleasure. Switch it up sometimes.

Answer 18

the only time a p***s belongs in an a s s is when it's in your GF's -- she's built to experience an awesome o****m that way: guy's aren't

Answer 19

I've gotta say - I have never taken a co ck in the ***

Answer 20

I know you would get pleasure from this, but when you think about it, the r****m is designed as an exit, not an entrance, so it is not surprising that it is painful.

Try being super gentle.

Answer 21

You can always take your time with a v****a. just FYI you know, ***'s are kinda exit only, but what ever floats you boat.

Answer 22

Anal s*x is not for everyone. He may not want to do it. But if he does, you should get some butt plugs in various sizes, plus some d****s. He (or you and he together) can work through them until he gets to the point where he can relax and enjoy the anal s*x.

Remember that g*y men are generally much more inventive than straight guys, so find other things that turn you both on - CBT, BDSM, other fetishes. Or maybe try adding a third to your relationship to get the magic going again.

Anal may never be the right thing for him.