Why can't my convos last longer than 8 seconds!?

Question

ok, so i mean all my friends have no problem talking to girls, and i feel so lonely. i'd love to talk to them and they seem like they want to talk to me a lot (god knows why). ya know i try and bring out the small talk, but it never lasts and the girls just go talk to one of my friends after my 5 seconds is up and their convo lasts forever! i dont think its a self esteem issue, but i just cant maintain a good conversation!

well girls, or anyone if you were a girl, when you talk to guys what often comes up? i want girls to like me. i dont mean like have a thing for me, but just want to have me as a friend and not just some guy they know who cant talk to girls for s**t

Answer 1

i like sports so when i talk to guys i usually talk about sports. i have alot of guy friends. i dont know if that will help... good luck :-)

Answer 2

you are terrorfied of women who you find attractive my friend!think in your head about really how mean stupid and annoying girls are(which they are)before your next convo,get angry at them,(inside your self)or just pretend your talking to one of your friends,say what you would say to a friend(sports score,school, how dumb the gym teacher is  anything  records your fave movie or tv showshow no interst s*x wiseor go in sayin "i dont have a chance of baggin her" then the pressure is off   just talk

Answer 3

dude bharkon is soooo right! talk about HER. not YOU. it makes u seem conciteted. : ) and smile if she says something that makes u want her more u have to smile ok, it gets girls every time im not lying.

Answer 4

Lol i like how people are telling you that girls like to talk about themselves. To be honest, i hate talking about myself (and i'm a girl!). I'm not much of a good talker but i talk about random things haha if i were to talk about myself i would have nothing to tell you other than my name and my favourite color =p. But yeah i guess you can talk about the first thing that pops into your head like the last movie you saw, school, sports, tv, music etc...?

If an awkward silence comes...just break it by going like "what's up?" lol that's what i always do =]

Answer 5

the first time you talk to someone let them do all the talking. people often like to talk about themselves and what they like to do. so the trick is to ask a lot of questions to try to get to know a person because you are trying to be friends and don't forget to tell them what you think either about what you asked. and believe me alot of topics will come up and you will have a lot of things to talk about.

Answer 6

Ask questions. What do they like to do? What sort of things have they done in their life? What is happening to them now? What did they do today or last weekend? Identify things about them that you might be interested in hearing about, and politely ask a question. Always think before you speak. Do not take a long time to answer but listen well to keep on the right track with the conversation. Choose your words carefully, but do not create pointless silences by keeping your conversation partner waiting for 5 minutes before you answer a simple question. And choose carefully when you ask personal questions.

Answer 7

Big hint here, when you have nothing left to talk about, there is one topic that will keep a girl entertained and entranced in the conversation for hours on end .... herself! Just ask her stuff about herself, and more topics will miraculously spring forth :) Good luck with women!

Answer 8

you don't like small talk BS.  

find something you're really interested about and you wont be able to shut up!