Why can't my husband just be nice - as in consistently?

Question

Why can't my husband just be nice - as in consistently?

Answer 1

everyone has faults.

You have some yourself as a wife.

Answer 2

because he is not

Answer 3

Nobody is nice all the time - even though that would be nice.  Everyone has their ups and downs.

Answer 4

Because he is human and he has differents kinds of mood at different times . are you nice to him all the time?

Answer 5

No one is consistently all the time.  That's why its so much fun to make up.  As long as you don't mean .  Abusive!  Heck no, if he's abusive, get the heck out of dodge.  It's all about mutual respect.

Answer 6

first thing is because he is human. people have things that go on in their lives that effect their attitudes from time to time. and men.... sometimes can be upset over things that women would care about.ie. not getting the car tuned up as scheduled or the reskins losing to the seahawks. everybody has bad hair days. thats why they say for better or for worse.

Answer 7

Maybe he is ruled by his emotions.  Maybe he lets his mood dictate how he treats people.  Maybe he just can't control his negative emotions.  He needs to learn to relax or meditate.  Some people have a "mean streak" in them.  Whatever the reason, either accept him for who he is or talk to him.  Choice is yours really.  It's about what we can live with and what we can't.  :)

Answer 8

Well if he truly cared about your feelings and respected you as a women, a lady and his wife, his partner in life...he would be good to you all the time...talk to him, if he does not care ..he will show his true colors....

Answer 9

Why do women put up with men who disrespect them? How long will you?

Answer 10

Good question. My boyfriend has the same problem. Some of the things he says to me are just plain rude. Then he turns around and does something nice. I have come to the conclusion it's really not worth my aggravation to be subjected to the hot -n- cold routine on a daily basis, fortunately I'm not married. Your husband is probably not happy with himself for some reason - work, physical issues, anxiety, any number of things, and taking it out on you. Not nice.

Answer 11

ecause he is probably a jerk at heart... and only was a sweety untill he knew he had you - i.e. the wedding

Answer 12

Because that is who he is.

Linda

Answer 13

being consistently nice is soooo boring, it is good to keep things alive as long as he is not violent to you.  and you need to ask yourself if you are happy or you shoudl be happy at least 50% of the time

Answer 14

once they know u they don't have to be  

Answer 15

Maybe the question should be, why is my husband nice at certain times?  

Answer 16

Maybe a part of him is an insecure selfish jerk sometimes?

Answer 17

I truly believe men go through hormone cycles just like women do.  My hubby will go through times of being irritable, and down right nasty.  Then a few days later he'll be sweet again.  I think they need Midol.

Answer 18

Depending on how old your husband is: many have hormonal problems and will not tell you because its a guy thing .Have faith, and a little more patience. Get him to the doctor and scream PROSTATE!  Someone in that room will get the point. Blessings.