Why can't people mind their business?

Question

well, i went to my moms house today and as i was getting Gracie outof her car seat, my moms neighbor walked over. I dont even really know this lady. anyway, she said "you really shouldn't do that" confused i asked what and she said "i heard you are pregnant, and you really shouldnt have another child" what?! the lady doesnt even know me! she said " you are ruining your other daughters life by having another child so early(gracie is 6 months old)

this lady doesnt even know me! actually, i suspect some of what she told me is actually things my mother has said to her about me. it really hurt me. should i tell my mom about this or should i just ignore it?

Answer 1

Tell that woman to keep her trap shut,or if she needs to express her opinion so badly to tell it to the wind.

As far as your mother goes..................

  

   Tell your mother she can accept gods choice to give a another blessing so soon,and keep her opinions to herself.If she cant then she can leave you,and come back when she has got a better attitude.

When I got pregnant with my daughter,I told a lot of family where they can put their opinions,because I was keep my gift from god right where she is until she was ready to come out.

By the time she was born everyone who had anything to say before,were being decent,and keeping their sass to themselves.

  Want to her something funny people are ticked at me,for not wanting another one until my daughter is 5 years old.Even if its your  uterus people feel they have the right to tell you what to do with it.What to put in it,and when to put it there.

Answer 2

How rude of her and I think I would have told her as much.  Yes I would tell your mom. And make it clear to her that it's no ones business but yours.

Answer 3

i would have said...hmm well i better go sit on a coat hanger then. what did she honestly expect you to say to her...OH THANKS..tell your mom you dont appreciate her talking about your personal affairs with people you dont know

Answer 4

I would have told the woman to mind her own business and that she has no right to tell me what to do with my life. Your children will be close in age and probably have a lot in common or be really close to one another. I don't see how it would ruin someone's life.

Answer 5

First of all that lady shouldn't be in your business and shouldn't say anything to her. I would said sorry but I think you got something wrong. I am not pregnant... I would talk to your mother asking if she talked to her neighbor and want she told your neighbor about you. And say don't say anything to your neighbor about me. She was rude to me.

Answer 6

I'd be so upset!!!  Sorry!  

How about mentioning her rudeness to your mom, and say how it was so unnecessary.  Maybe she'll fess up if she DID say anything.  

Either way who cares what some busybody thinks??  My husband and his sister are literally a year apart, to the week!  Neither of their lives were ruined by it; I promise!  :)

Answer 7

Your mother should meet my mother. They'd be best friends!

I have a son who turned 1yr in June and due with twins in Oct, but they'll most likely will be born early. My mother gave me a whole lecture when I told her I was pregnant again about having my kids so close together would cause an issue with attention and lead my son to be very jealous etc. What do you want me to say? "Well talk to your new grandsons. Maybe the three of you can work out a deal and they're come Oct 2009 instead."

My answer would have been, "Why thank you for that lovely fact. Have a pleasant afternoon!" I've found that being super fake happy when people make stupid comments leaves them going, "Huh?" Then I would ignore it. I see it as these are my kids and it's my life. I will make sure everyone has their needs met, gets the attention they need etc. Millions of people have had babies close together in age before me and some how have managed! :-O Shocker, I know! Who would've thought?!

Good luck and congrats!

Answer 8

A better comeback would be, let me guess, your sister is 6 months younger than you and you have felt neglected your whole life? Well I'm not your mother, and I'm glad I don't judge people over the space between their kid's ages like you do.

This woman deserves a nasty comeback. She has absolutely no business speaking to you. And if she found out from your mom, either try to do a comeback in front of your mom, or tell your mom that it's not her business to tell other people your business. Honestly, ask your mom what she would have felt if someone did that. What a nosy b****!

Answer 9

Oh to h**l with that lady.  She's a busybody.

Your daughter is beautiful!

Answer 10

LOL- god lord, I would have really tried to upset that lady.  You should have look her straight in the eye and said, you know what!?  YOU ARE RIGHT, I AM GOING TO HAVE AN ABORTION TOMORROW!

See what she says to that......

My friend adopted a baby of a different race, and you won't believe what people say to her.....

Answer 11

Goodness Gracious!!!!   How amazingly, astonishingly, astoundingly rude!!!!!

It would not be surprising if your mother mentioned your pregnancy to her neighbor.   It is a big event in your mother's life.   The question, then, is whether the sentiments regarding your pregnancy originated with the neighbor, or if the neighbor was repeating something that your mother said.   You probably know, deep in your heart, whether this came from your mother or the neighbor.  Trust your instincts.  If it is in doubt, then you should probably just ask your mother about it.   If it is true that your mother is reacting  negatively to such a positive event in your life and spreading unkind gossip in her neighborhood, then you might choose to share a little less information with your mother.    The less she knows, the less she can twist out of shape and spread around the neighborhood.  

Hopefully, though, this insanity originated with the neighbor.  Since the neighbor was crazy enough to just wander over and unload on you like that, she is the prime suspect to be crazy enough to think of it in the first place.   If this was just a case of a mentally ill neighbor wandering around the neighborhood verbally assaulting near strangers (and pregnant women, at that!), then you need only duck and cover whenever you see the old bat.  I suspect that you may have some company, as  other neighbors run for cover from the old witch as well.  

You are not, by the way, ruining your daughter's life.  You are providing her with a playmate close to her age, and a sibling who will stand as her family when your time and your husband's have passed.

Answer 12

IF you don't KNOW these sentiments came from your mother via the neighbor....I would ignore it.

If they didn't come from your mother and this nosey neighbor is just mouthing off...telling mom could just make her resent her neighbor...

If they did come from mom...do you really want to have that talk right now?

The next time you see the neighbor...just tell her you're having triplets and forget about it....lol

People are rude and stupid...don't let them get you down.

Congrats by the way!  :)

Answer 13

I would ask her why she find it so hard to mind her business, then walk away.  Your daughter is freaking adorable!

Answer 14

Hmmm....if you don't talk to your mom can you just forget about it?  Can you talk to her about it calmly without letting your pregnancy hormones kick in, LOL.

Emma is eight months old and I am pregnant.  We were trying and everyone knew we were, still when we told my in-laws they acted like they were totally shocked and annoyed.  I don't know why other people care as long as they are not involved in taking care of the baby.

Answer 15

Holy cow are you kidding me?!  That was rather unnecessary and uncalled for!  I would have told her to worry about her family and let you worry about yours.  Of all the ridiculous things I've heard....."having another child so early will ruin your daughter's life".....How ignorant of her.  Your two children will probably grow up to be very close to each other.  That lady sounds like a nut job that needs to be kept a distance from.  

You can tell your mom if you'd like to, but don't take to heart a word of what that lady said.  My husband is the type that would say, "Yeah?  Shut it woman!", lol.  That's kind of the feeling I would have if someone had said that to me.

Answer 16

I would so talk to your mom about it.  First its not even your mom's place to chat with some neighbor about your life. Especially a neighbor you don't know.  

your mom maybe a little concerned about you having kids close in age. My parents were a little concerned for my sister who had her kids 18 months apart. But they knew it was what my sister and brother in law wanted.  Let your mom voice her concerns to you and let her know its hurtful to have strangers come up to you and say things like that.  Assure her that things will be fine.

Answer 17

"Oh.. so you think  I should kill my unborn child?   Are you willing to pay for my abortion??" are just a couple of ways I would respond to this.  

Definitely talk to your mom about this!   At bare minimum, she needs to know that her neighbor can't keep her mouth shut about things told to her in confidence.