Why can't she accept me?

Question

My family are Christians. I am the only Muslim in my family. I am 16 years old. My father had doubts about Islam until we went to the mosque last Friday and he enjoyed himself and saw the other side of Islam. I also was greeted and was invited to dinner that night.. I LOVED IT!!! My mother doesn't accept me and she doesn't want me to wear my HIJAB, but I do. I told her last night that I was doing it for God and God comes before everyone else. She said I was being disobedient. I told her that Nuns also cover up too and the Bible tell women to cover up and dress modestly. What to do? She isn't talking to me anymore.

Answer 1

Be strong sister.

keep holding on to allahs rope.

allah wont let you down!

and congrats. now you have your father to help!

Answer 2

well you arent doing anything wrong. but of course it is bad to disobey your parents. you dont have to be so conservative. yes you want to make Allah happy but dont leave your mother behind. be kind to her as well and show her what islam can do and she may convert as well.

also hijab is a choice not mandatory but it is good that you have chosen it

Answer 3

Asalaamu alaikum sister! I think its wonderful that you are obeying Allah! Allah says that there is no obedience to the creation of Allah while disobeying Allah. Which means: you cannot disobey Allah's commands in order to please his creation.

Be patient, it might take time but Insha'Allah your mother will come around. I think that it is just a little scary for her. This is an unknown situation and she feels like she can't control the outcome. She might be scared that she will loose you but if you are patient, obey Allah and show that you still love her, Insha'Allah she will come around.

Email me if you need anything!

Nichole

Answer 4

u and ur father should go ahead and join and let ur mother be on her own that's exactlyhow she is behaving so let her be

Answer 5

May Allah accept you and bless you. Show your respect and best of conduct to her. There is no obeying of creatures against the commands of the Creator. But she is utmost respected as a mother and never say ill of her or break her heart. You do your best and try explaining her. History is witness that those who had enmity to Islam in all times has bowed down before the esteem moral of a true Muslim. So this only needs time and your sincere prayer for her guidance.

Answer 6

Your mom loves you, thats why shes worried, and because she loves you, she'll come around. She doesnt wanna lose you, shes just concerned that youre so young and making such a big change. When she sees how hurt you are she'll talk to you again, she doesnt actually want you to be upset. You say you reverted 2 weeks ago and are already wearing hijab, so its obviously important to you, but I would try to make an effort to not let her see you with it on, it just reminds her of why shes concerned. It hasnt been long, so try not to feel too bad, families usually take this thing kind of hard until they see how youve changed for the better.

Answer 7

i hope your dad will become a mUlsim inshaallah

your mom may not understanfd how you feel. tell her why you became a muslim and take her to the mosque like you did with your dad.

Inshallah she will accept you later on.

and you hve a point. nuns do cover up.

keep that scarf on unless yuou are home. you know. aywhay a Hijab makes a girl more beuatiful.

Answer 8

Persuade ur mom to go to the mosque too...perhaps she will see the otherside too. Try to please her somehow so that she agrees to go to the mosque.

Answer 9

mashallah i reverted when i was 16 to now i am 21 married and we have a baby boy alhumdullilah the only parent i have is my father and its difficult for them to understand its hard for them to understand something they only hear bad things about, when i strated wearing hijab my father thought it was just a phase but when he saw i was serious he did everything he could to stop me. thats why when i was 18 me said if i wanted to be a muslim i had to leave i did but i dont regret it cuz i had faith in allah.  these are challenges form allah its a test of faith. you have to be strong   but wow mashallah your father is willing to revert. allah has blessed you with that i wish my father would do the same, we talk now to but allah guide whom he will to islam ill make dua for you

asalaam alyekum

Answer 10

Educate your mom about Islam maybe she's brainwashed by all the wars n stuff cause in the U.S when you just mention the word muslim Terrorist is the first thing that comes to their mind. She's your mom just hang in there n tell all the good things about Islam. Good luck n congrats! :-)

Mutah = when you marry someone (man or woman) for a period of time for s*x and or money, it's a temporary marriage for exchange of one of these to prevent fornication n it's HARAm lol so yeah that's what it is..

Answer 11

mashallah, takbeer! allahu akbar..

each day we get more and more younger teens who convert to islam and then ask question for help on how to deal with it all. Im really proud that you were given the truth, hikma, from Allah. stay strong and i hope that when you die, you will die with iman as well, ameen.

this sort of test is very hard, your family is closest to you because they care for you the most. however, allah's love outweighs a mother's love.

i dont really have that great of an answer because alhamduillah ive been raised as a muslim, and i thank my parents and wish jannatul firdos for them and wish for them to be honored on the day of judgement, ameen.

i think the best way to deal with this is to find some good muslim friends for support. Its also very important to maintain a connection with your mother and make sure that what ever she wants is fulfilled as long as it doesn't go against islam. Win her heart as you would win the heart of someone you love, try doing things for her, help her out around the hose and show her kindness, as long as you two can talk to each other comfortably, you know you have nothing to worry about. the fact that she isnt talking to you right now, means that you have to try really hard at this moment and break that barrier. good luck

salams

Answer 12

You're not being disobedient to your mom by wearing the hijab. She has no right to stop you from wearing it, if you've chosen to wear it yourself.

Answer 13

Sooner or later your mother will accept you too and accept Islam just like your dad. Giver her a break. Keep practicing Islam and show the beauty of Islam through your acts and deeds and that will automatically make your mom ponder over Islam, the Real Islam and it's beauty. Take your parents to the mosque as often as you can and persuade your mom especially and treat her nice no matter how she treats u and tell her what Islam says about parents (their position), how to respect them and never disobey them. It'll take a lil time for her to realize and in the meantime tell her about the REAL ISLAM. Just be patient, as God loves those who love Patience.

Answer 14

good 4 u about ur coming muslim and plz don't listen 2 those antimuslim people and about ur mother don't worry soon or later she'll accept u and god won't let u down btw when mouhamad becomes a muslim all the town didn't accept him but he continue  

BE STRONG

GOD IS WITH U

Answer 15

That's cool about your father.

Your mom will get used to it. Give it time.

Answer 16

Inshallah your mother will accept you in time.... who knows? she may even embrace Islam in the future! my mother told me about a man who used to beat his wife while she used to pray but later reverted to islam and became even more religious than her!! things like that may happen. Allah guides whom He wants to guide. Tell your mother that Allah does not change in a people until they change what is in themselves and this is mentioned in the quran but i'm sorry i can't cite  the verses. Anyway, pray to Allah for none has the power to change her except Him. Another tip. Many people embrace islam because of the muslims who represent it with sincerity. Follow all islamic moral teachings... at times when she tells you to do something,.. tell her that it's bad in Islam etc... you may be the reason for her to revert to islam.

You also metioned a very important issue: the Bible. The bible after human corruption contains at least 100 clear contradictions that cannot be explained whatsoever. On the other side, some of the bible's words being the revelation of Allah describe Jesus (peace be upon him) praying and prostrating before God. Actually, if a true Christian follow his religion stricly he would do what most muslims do today XD.

I also recommend you to do a search about Dr. Zakir Naik. he is a very good scholar and many had reverted to Islam on his hand. He compares all religions to Islam and proves that Islam is the right religion using scriptures from other religions and even the Bible! Let your mom spend some time on watching a few of his vids and inshallah she will be guided. Hope that answers your question! And Peace To You

Answer 17

Yes one can understand.

And thats hard... times in life get hard!

Answer 18

Your mother is a sensible woman.

by the way have you told your father that mohammad married a six year old girl, kept slave-girls, had wars and battles with jews and looted caravans?

tell him he might reconsider converting lol

http://www.faithfreedom.org/

Answer 19

because u r defying whatever she taught u.  She probably also feels u r abandoning your family and that u r give your family bad looks by putting on the hijab. She would have to answer your relatives and her friends and maybe she wants to avoid all that.

Dont worry though. If Parents aren't ashamed when their daughters go out with short shorts and random boys then why do they get so worked up if a girl chooses to put on a little more clothes on herself

Answer 20

It's good you muslim and your father, give your mum time to accept your new religion and in time she too will become muslim.

Answer 21

aw bless!

sister i am also nearly 16 (in january) and i am also having the same trouble

i also recently converted and going through the same thing

my mom is quite angry at me :O

and the thing is... I actually come from muslim family!!!!! sounds weird put all is on my profile

if u ever need to talk im here :)

dnt worry the "dust" as they say will soon follow. u have it wasier than u think! atleast ur dad likes it, my whole family dnt like it! :)

jazakh Allah khair

Answer 22

She's your mother so you MUST respect her. Prove Islam is true with your kindness and excellent behaviour. If she sees what islam has done for you she'll want it for herself

Answer 23

Nothing to do. DO sabr wait and pray to Allah. Inshallah everything will be ok.

Tell your mom that Islam keeps me safe in hijab. Like i would like to give you one example.

If there are two twin sister who are very beautiful. One sister is wearing mini skirt and t shirt and the other sister has covered herself. Both sisters are walking on the street and at the corner of the street one bad male is sitting whose work is to gaze and tease the girls. What do you think to which girl will he tease???????????????/

The girl who has attraction or the girl who has no attraction???

Answer 24

I understand you completely. I too am from a strong christian background. In fact I was a sunday school teacher at one time.

I recently converted on dec.31,2007.

I cannot express the joy and happiness I feel inside.

Everything is clear and I am on the right path.

At times it is hard. Not all my family are accepting either.

They feel sad  for me and I know they pray for me to come back.

I myself am just starting to wear Hijab.

Not all are use to it.Youare right in saying you are still the same girl.

I say that all the time :-)

My advice for you sister is be strong.

Continue to love your mom and respect her and her beliefs.

I think in time she will understand more it's just that your conversion is recent and she has so many questions inside.

My mother felt the same way.

I told her I know you don't understand Islam and that's ok mom I love you.

Know that I am here to answer whatever questions you have about it.

We talk more now. She has realized I am still the same woman,hijab or not.

She asks me so many questions now, and I even caught her watching Islam tv last night hehe.

She asks what is he saying? My response ahh he is saying God is Great mom :-)

That moment as I heard Qur'an out loud on my tv at home. Listening to the Imam speak I felt so happy.

Be strong dear sister.

You have made the right choice in wanting to wear Hijab.