Why can't the groom help out in the wedding ? like how should the wedding be? why is always the bride?

Question

why can't both people discuss everything together, like where the flowers should be, or what should everyone wear, what food and location and etc? do u thinks guess can't handle it?

Answer 1

Both people can participate in the planning of the wedding.  It's just that alot of guys aren't interested in doing all of that.  They just want to get their tux and show up at the altar.  But if you find a fiance that wants to participate, accept it.  It is definitely a blessing.

Answer 2

It's always the bride because guys are better at getting out of unpleasant jobs. There's always the excuse of "it's traditionally the woman's job" (this is because the man would have a full-time job or school and she wouldn't and because her parents had to pay).

Look at the tradition of not having the groom see the dress before the wedding, or know anything about it. Best trick EVER. It gets him out of so much discussion about the dress. And yes, I know that this happens, because my fiance has heard far more than is fair about my dress, and I haven't even got it yet.  

Answer 3

My groom better help out, or there isn't gonna be any wedding! I am useless at this stuff! But yes, I think traditionally women care more than men about weddings, and traditionally it is women's business. But times are a-changin'.

Answer 4

Because men aren't concerned about all the foo-foo stuff. They just want to know where to be and what time. Have you ever known a man who wants to browse in the mall? Most don't, and it's the same concept. That's why it's usually the bride, her mom, sisters, along with a wedding planner that arrange everything.

Answer 5

I think its because the difference between a lot of brides and their grooms is that the bride has an ultimate vision. And there are a lot of grooms who won't care what kind of flowers are there, or what color scheme to choose.. They just want to show up and have a bar. Haha. I think its because women overall are detail oriented, and men are about the whole picture.  

Answer 6

Some guys do want to be involved, like my guy. But I was reading that some understand that the girl has been dreaming of this day all her life and the guy wants it to be perfect for her. So he backs off and lets her do it her way.  

Answer 7

Short of it?  Women are about details and asethics (colors, flowers, embroidered napkins!) and men are about the big picture and ultimate goal (let's just get down the aisle and get married!)  Most men (there are exceptions as given by other posters) simply do not think in a way that makes all the small details important.  

I found the simplest way to get my husband involved when we were planning was to give him choices.  Instead of saying "What do you want for centerpieces?", it's better to say "Out of centerpiece A, B, or C, which do you like best?"  

See the difference?  The first question is extremely open-ended and usually befuddles a guy because, really, what the heck does he know about centerpieces? He hasn't been looking at them for 4 months like you.  

The second way gives him defined choices, but also allows him to have a say.  If you do this though, realize that you need to give serious weight to whatever he does pick - otherwise he'll start to feel like your just asking him for the heck of it and then doing whatever you want.

Answer 8

EASY! Because if he does it wrong or not the way you want it, you will get mad at him and do it yourself.

Husbands tend to agree that it's your day to be a princess and they don't want to s***w it up. If it were their choice, they would get married at the courthouse with a few witnesses and be done with it.

Women often end up planning the wedding unless you can afford a wedding planner to do it for you. That way if something screws up, you can't blame your new dearly beloved husband. Not the best of foundational memories for your new marriage!    

Hope this helps!

Answer 9

I guess I'm pretty lucky, my fiance is VERY involved. Sometimes, too involved, ha! He even picked the wedding colors!! We go to stores and look at decorations, and he keeps telling me, "I envisioned, ________", It's so weird! Some guys just aren't into that sort of thing though! They just want to know where and when.