Why can't they accept me?

Question

I'm 16 and just reverted to Islam from Christianity...I reverted because I don't believe in the Trinity and don't have the passion for Christianity. When i first told my dad he thought I was lying until I started wearing my scarf and reading on islam. Then he lead me on thinking that It was okay for me to worship publicly. Then my mom saw me wearing my scarf and told me to take it off and stop being foolish> I pray and I read on islam ALOT...I love Islam, but my parents can't accept it.>What do I do? They think I am being foolish!!! Islam Accepts ANYONE, so why can't they ACCEPT me?

Answer 1

Would you accept your daughter becoming a Hindu or would you try to talk her out of it?

Remember, you follow the most tolerant religion in the world. However long it would take you to accept your daughter who reverted to hinduism, it will take unbelievers like your parents much much longer to accept you since they're not following a proper religion.

Answer 2

Think it from their view. Your outcast. Just be patient and all the controversy will die down soon enough.

Answer 3

Al-hamdulilah!!! welcome sis!!!

i will make dua for you to be accepted by your family, but what will help is to get involved with your mosque and have 1 to 1 contact with them directly too. it will help a great deal.  

Answer 4

Your parents are probably skeptical about Islam because they've been brainwashed from what they see on the news.

Educate them about Islam and try to show them your point of view and why you became Muslim.

Theres a chance that no matter what you do, they will still not understand and they will hate you for your decision.

Your just going to have to stick it out and keep your faith strong.

Welcome to Islam sista

Answer 5

I guess alot of parents would not like their child to convert from the religion theyve raised you around like im muslim so if i became a Jew my parents would go mad and probably do worse..

But youre parents still love you so try and have a deep conversation with them like tell them stuff about you not feeling that you believe in christianity and that you are grown up etc..

Good luck give it some time they will understand soon..

Answer 6

Welcome to the faith, sis! My parents were the same way. I guess what you need to do is introduce them a little more to Islam, slowly slowly. Don't shove it down their throats. Just little by little, tell them why you love Islam (without bashing Christianity). Remember, sister, people fear what they don't know.  

Answer 7

Dear, because you ARE silly. You came here 4 or 5 days ago looking for "Muslim clothes" and asking "how Muslims pray". Now, you come back with an avatar that has a towel on it's head and claim to be a Muslim? You have never attended a mosque, you have not performed a conversion, you have not even read the Quran, you probably don't even know what a hadith is...you are silly (you probably don't really understand Christianity either by the way). Where is your hijab? Have you prayed today (you hadn't even prayed yet 4 days ago)? Your parents don't have to accept you because they know you better than anyone else and they know that within a month or two you will be onto something else that is silly for you. Please don't go around telling people that you're a Muslim...we have enough problems.

Edit: Don't worry...you are a normal 16 year old...rebelling against "the norm". You will mature one day.

Answer 8

Just write them off and dont talk to them anymore

Answer 9

Many ppl think that Islam is about Scarves & Hijab. In answering 1 of Ur previous Q's I told U that, Islam talks of acquiring the knowledge about something before believing in it, or practice it. At this time U shouldn't be pre-occupied w/ hijab & scarves, and U don't have to wear it at home any way. I 'd say U should be concerned about knowing who is God? where is he ? what did he create? what he likes? what he dislikes? why he created us in the first place?Does he have a son or even adapted a son? and why ? what descriptions could be attributed to him, and what not?And more and more of these questions. Keep in mind that , Islam wants U to take VERY GOOD care of Ur parents especially of Ur mother. Never think that because she is a Non-Muslim 'd give U the right to be rude to her. No matter what she says , U have to be gentle to her. That is the core of Islam, and that is what Allah commanded.Good luck.  

Answer 10

i think you shud show them some debate and lectures like



Quran and bible in the light of science  



was jesus really crucified  



similarites between islam and christianity



just search  google

zakir naik  . tripod  

about wearing scarf  take bible show ur mother this verse 1 coronthins c11 v5 to 6  

Answer 11

congrats sister, me and all Muslims brothers and sisters accept you inshallah.

be patient sister, practice Islam in front of your parents and make dua for them, may Allah (swt) guide them because of you, this would be the greatest thing you do, may Allah reward you for your patience, and bless you and grant success to you in your life.

Amen

Answer 12

Assalmulaikum.. welcome sister.. Its natural.. Every parent will react in same way.. U tell them reason for reverting to islam.. Tell them that Islam is truth..Ask them why they don't believe in Islam.. They will give some misunderstood reason about Islam..  Tell them to recite Quran to know the TRUTH..  Pray to Allah..Insha Allah even they will accept Islam.

Answer 13

congratulation sister.

Most people who reverted to Islam had major problems with their families and friends, be patient. Later on, they will get used to that.

Get the more knowledge you can to answer any of their misconception about Islam.

Answer 14

Wow!! It is wonderful how you chose islam as your religion!! Your parents freaking out is normal, they dont know much about islam except for what they hear on the news or from their neighbors. I had a friend once who wanted to convert but her family went crazy! they were calling up my dad telling him that i am trying yo convert my friend into islam, but that was not the case. turns out she wanted to convert because she liked my cousin.looool But anyway they will come around and realize that this is what makes you happy and that this is the path you have chosen. Salam

Answer 15

Sometimes this happens. They are your parents and they have your best interests at heart, don't fault them for that. They may not understand and they haven't had time to adjust to it. Be patient with them sis. All you can do is be patient and make Dua to Allah(swt) asking him to make your parents more patient with you too. When I reverted I hadn't told them until they had noticed a change in me so they were able to adjust more easily.

It's not your fault. They are just concerned and maybe do not understand.

Answer 16

salaamz sis! congrats on your conversion....check this out, i'm 16, i converted in january!!!! its awesome that you converted. i have been up and down with my mom and islam, at first i would not tell her i was studying it, then she caught me with the quran i ordered then, was tellking me things about islam, and i'm like yea, i kno....lol.then i typed an email telling her i was muslim and she didn't answer back. then she jus kinda was like i guess not really minding i was muslim, but i endedup sending her another email , it was super long filled with stuff about islam, why i belive its true and different rules i must follow and how it affects my every day life......i think thats when she got it....oh yea, btw my mum lives with me i jus found it hard to tell her face to face....but i sent her an IM a while ago, maybe a month ago (idk??) and told her i wanted to wear hijab, she said it was fine, in fact she would rather me do so, cuz right now in her eyes i'm a hypocrite....its true i am a muslima but i dnt wear hijab, i'm still trying to gain the courage, after i sent her that IM the next day i wore it, and i must say i hated it, cuz i felt uncomfortable, but i think i was jus being a wimp (lolz).....i still dnt wear it, but everyday i feel myself wanting to wear it a little bit more insha'allah i will by the end of the year!!!!!.............o yea bac on topic haha so yea its only been like 7 months since i've been a muslima, and everytime islam is mentioned and me and my mom are in the same room, she kinda tenses up, she will get used to the idea though insha'allah. it seems your mom may be uneducate of islam, as my mom was.............and still kinda is....i think it would be a good idea to sit her and your dad down and say, okay mom and dad you both kno i've reverted to islam, yea say reverted so they will ask why you say that and that can start a question ans anwer session...its an idea that has formed in my mind, but i have yet to try it cuz....i'm kinda nervous about it.....and it can be rlly hurtful for someone to jus tell you, oh take the scarf off and stop acting foolish, that can make you feel rlly small and like you wanna give up.....i kno ur feeling trust. but dnt ever take it off, keep it on and let your mum know that this is part of your religion and you are doing this for god, not her....easier said then done i kno, cuz i have yet to say things to my mom about islam that i would like to! but sis ur lucky you had the courage to put on hijab, and thats why i say, while your iman is strong continue to wear it, i dnt ever want anyone in a situation as mine.........to nervous from humans to wear hijab, instead of wearing it for allah subhana wa ta ala.

wat i said probaly wasn't that helful....srry. but if you need any help just email me.............i've been up and down during these past couple of months and felt like just dropping islam cuz its soooo hard to do things "undercover", cuz my mum and best friend are the only non-muslims that kno about me, my dad or siblings haven't the slightest clue.......so i have to hid alot of the things like prayer from them which is megahard when you have dogs that cant be in the room with you when you pray, but you cnt let them out of your room at 4 in the morning for fajr because they will go crzy by themselves......grrr, sometimes i still feel like stopping and just quitting islam, but i think of allah subhana wa ta ala, how would that look in his eyes?

i love islam with my heart and it seems you do to!!!! take all that passion you have for islam and turn it into determination to make your parents see how you feel about islam and see how beautiful it is.....dnt be like me!

errr i said enough lol.....good luck sis and everything will turn out fine insha'allah and i will make du'aa for you!

Answer 17

its going to take time.  Give your parents some breathing room because after all it is probably a shock for them.  My parents were the same way at first until they got used to the idea and now they are fine with it. Do not get discouraged.  It may be dicey for a while but when they see you are sincere and happy they will calm down.  Keep close to Allah swt during this time and keep asking Allah swt to soften their hearts.  I wish you the best.

Answer 18

Just tell them to read about is and see how lovely it is..Pray to Allah (swt) to let them accept you.. i will make a dua for u sister.. And God bless you.. MashAllah.. Salam..:)

Answer 19

They may not be proud of you, but Allah is. Don't worry about them. They're being driven by the devil. Keep yourself close to Islam. Don't ever let go. You'll have to undergo a lot of criticism but you can do it. Just believe in the faith and power of Allah!

Answer 20

I'm also the only Muslim in my family.  First off Mubarak for reverting to Islam.  You did the right thing.  Secondly, your parents are Kaafur.  People who follow a different religion then their children, usually disagree with their childrens' descisions and think they may have gone wrong somewhere in parenting you, if you reverted to a religion that is different from everything they believe and were taught growing up.  Don't alienate your parents.  It is a sin to sever blood ties with your family.  Try to explain to them in a nice way, why you chose to revert to Islam, and why you wear hijab.  Tell them about Islam and modesty.  Be an example, and perhaps they might change their minds.  But it will take time for them to accept you.  Or like in my case, they may never accept your decision at all.