Why can't women tell the difference between a loud, insecure man, and a genuinely confident man?

Question

Also, when a man is abusive and unfaithful, most women think he is "confident" because he does what he wants. When a man is genuinely confident and treats a woman with respect, then women call him "too nice". Why is that?

Answer 1

Misanthrope is right. I would never reject someone for being "too nice." It's just a more polite way of turning someone down for another reason.

Loud, insecure people are actually VERY easy to spot, and there's a world of difference between them and someone who is confident but humble. What women are you basing this assumption on? It sounds like they're fairly young, and/or inexperienced. They'll figure it out as they get older.

Answer 2

The kind of women who think that way are, for the most part, young and stupid. Most of us get past that stage after we get out of college, or when we've had enough experience with dating to be able to recognize the difference.

Answer 3

By the content and frequency of your posts, I'm assuming you got dumped recently. It's that or you just couldn't get a date this weekend.

Either way, there are other fishes in the sea. Buck up sweetheart and you'll catch yourself a good one.

Answer 4

They can tell the difference all right, it's just that a whiny jerk who thinks women like men who cheat on them is not their idea of self confidence.

Answer 5

Because those women you speak of are not confident themselves.  Like attracts like....be glad those girls don't want you (assuming you are the "nice" guy) because you wouldn't find happiness with them.

The woman that is attracted to a "nice" guy will have great qualities herself and will never be turned off by a genuinely "nice" guy.

Answer 6

The truth is a good amount of women tend to use the "too nice" excuse as a way to be nice to a guy she isn't wanting to date for other reasons.  Its rarely ever that he is too nice; but that she really is too nice to be mean enough to tell him the truth.

Answer 7

It's not true that no woman can tell the difference between loud, insecure men, and genuinely confident men.

It's not true that most women think abusive and unfaithful men are "confident" -- that's not the word that comes to mind.

Nor is it true that all women call confident men who treat women with respect "too nice."

So, none of the things you've said are true.

I suspect there are other reasons no women like you. You might want to figure out what they are. You're making up insane and negative lies about all women probably is part of the problem.

Open your eyes, brush that chip off your shoulder, and stop making up bogus "facts" about women.

Answer 8

"Most" women?  Sorry, not this one, or any other women I know.

Answer 9

When a man is abusive and unfaithful women think of him as a slug, parasite, and jackass, not confident.  Yes, they sometimes mistake confidence with arrogance, but treating a woman with respect will not lable you, for the most part, too nice.

And if any women calls you too nice, then you know that you are dealing with a jackass as well.  There is such a thing as being too nice, or foolish, with a particularly person, but not too nice overall.

Answer 10

NOT true not all women like  to be abusive that fool sleeps sometime I bet oh well

Answer 11

"Also, when a man is abusive and unfaithful, most women think he is "confident" because he does what he wants."

Uhhh....no.

Sorry.

Answer 12

Did you even bother to look at the link I gave you?

No?

Then shut up.