Why can women have the right to opt out of parenthood but men dont ? A little unfair dont you think ?

Question

Is it fair for the courts to give men no laws to get out of raising a child like WOMEN DO (dropping the baby of at firestation, abortion, adoption , and more). Men(mostly) and womens lives are being screwed because of sexual accident and court unbalanced(against men) laws favoring women. So boys and girls USE PROTECTION , men wear on condom , women TAKE BIRTH CONTROL, men MAKE SURE WOMEN ARE TAKING BC. Also ladies you are responsible if guy has s*x w/ you w/out a condom . Unless its rape YOU let it happen im not excusing the guy cause they have use condoms but YOU are the goalie to ya situation per se , no glove no luv. Apperently couples dont obey this IMPORTANT rule anymore. I know men run out parenthood illigally(what other choice do they have in a unexpected pregnancy if they cant afford to pay CS) and thats just as bad as women opting out legally , so why does anyone have the right to opt out ? What do ya think ? Dont beat around the bush people.I want unbias honest opinion please

Answer 1

Because we live in The Feminist Republic of America.

Answer 2

Here is my answer,If you don't want to be respondsible for a baby,DON'T HAVE s*x,BABIES ARE HUMANS NOT SOMETHING YOU CAN BUY AND WHEN YOU DECIDE YOU DON'T WANT IT YOU THROW IT AWAY.

Answer 3

Yes

Men have no say and are irrelevant when it come to abortion. But, when the woman decides to keep the baby the man(or his wallet) is immediately become relevant and responsible.

This is wrong and unjust

"There is also this la legal way to opt out of fatherhood. It's called signing over the rights of your child"

Men cannot legally sign away their rights and opt out of parrenthood. They can ONLY do so if and when the court and mother agree and/or request it.

Answer 4

because women rule the world because they have the hole and we dont  :)

Answer 5

It's a biological thing darlin'... I have more choices than you do because I'm biologically mandated to decide what should be done... and it's not a pleasure cruise.

Answer 6

This is how i would address being a situation like that  (which I have) My kids have different fathers and when I got pregnant with my first I was 21 I wasn't ready for her but I also talked it over with her dad first before I took matters into my own hands, and he told me to have the baby and that he would help take care of her, of course that didn't happen until she was 15. she will be 17 Sat 19th but anyway so i felt that i was stuck in the beginning and i struggled for awhile then I meet my two baby kids dad and that help out alot, but we not together now either but he does take care of all the kids but my oldest child father just started sending child support about 2 years ago and fussed about that but we made the chose to have her and it still ended up of him not wanting to pay support. So I just think it's just safer to use protection until you and your partner agree on having kids or you get married.  And yes i do believe in abortion it to each is own and everyone even men should have a chose! Communication is the Key. I'm truly against  women that trap men and end up pregnant and then wanna have is baby...... just  because!!!

Answer 7

While men can opt out, by being dead beats, it is hardly the same thing as getting an abortion, as abortions are socially acceptable, and often even encouraged. While a father simply abandoning his children is not socially acceptable. So they are not exactly comparable.

Answer 8

Well you can always keep your horn reeled in or get a vasectomy.

Answer 9

Why should a man or a woman opt out of parenthood when they were the ones who opted to have s*x that conceived the child? It is immature, irresponsible, irrational , unChristian, immoral, dishonest, insensitive and should not be tolerated by rational people.

Answer 10

First of all, all opinions are biased.  So my biased opinion is: your argument completely exaggerates the issue and isn't based on any facts or statistics.  Statistically speaking you know the vast majority of times it is the father who opts out of caring for a child, and the mother is still the primary care giver most of the time.  

Here's an exampls of how slanted your premise is: Abandning a baby is an illegal act, just as refusing to pay child support is.  How many baby's are abandoned at firestations by mothers, compared to how many fathers exist who refuse to pay child support?  I suspect the abandonment of the fathers is considerably higher.  

Birth control is always a risk - so if you ask two consenting adults: do you know there is a risk of something like 1% - 15% of pregnancy for your choice of BC, do you still want to have s*x?  How many would say no?  Most likely, both would still consent - so why should the mother take sole responsibility?  Didn't they both read the instructions, have the same s*x ed classes and availability to the same research online?  The risk is mutual - the mother did not 'let it happen'.

Adoption can only be consented by the parent(s) on the birth cert - if he's not on it, he has already abandoned the child - if he is, he's giving consent, so again your argument folds.  So that leaves abortion and the same thing occurs - your argument is slanted because aside from the questionable decency of aborting mothers who do not ask the father for consent, aside from those  types of scenarios, ask yourself this: if a father was the one pregnant and could legally abort, do you seriously believe they would abort less than females?  So where is the inequality?  Since your question is one of the lack of fairness in genders being able to opt out of parenting, then you actually have no problem with abortion - your argument becomes simply: it's unfair that women can abort since men can't abandon - so you're only arguing against biology/nature.

What I do agree with is that there are parental inequalities - but I don't see them in opting out of parenthood - I see them in accepting the responsiblity of parenthood.  Fathers still get unfairly treated in cusody battles mroe often than women - women often get treated unfairly by 'left holding the baby' situations more often than men.  Your argument just sounds like you knocked someone up and don't want to pay for the end result - don't do the crime if you can't do the time is the answer for that, because it took 2 to tango and a condom breaking etc isn't her fault either.

Answer 11

beause the women are more careing than men

Answer 12

If I was a guy I'd get a vasectomy since there isn't a reliable method of male birth control right now. I've known for a long time I didn't want kids and I wouldn't want to take any chances. No worries about birth control pregnancy abortion-but if I was a guy I'd still use safe s*x until I committed to someone.

Edit: The answers are so whiny-I really answered this the way I'd feel if I was a guy. What is the big deal about getting a vasectomy?

Answer 13

Because it's all about the woman's choice. They try to say it's all about choice full-stop but then where are the advocates against keeping amphetamines and similar drugs illegal? They aren't there because it's a self-validating process. We think the choice to abort is legitimate because it's legal, we think that the choice to take drugs is illigitimate because it's illegal. Point is they're legal and illegal in the first place because you decided arbitrarily that one should be and the other shouldn't. Gotta love self-validation lol

But yea it's obviously not about choice, it's about doing what you want when it suits you. Like a poster above pointed out, the father is irrelevant until his wallet is required.