Why cant i get a best friend?

Question

Im a really funny crazy person. i like to make people laugh and im always there if someone needs me. I dont like to do what alot of girls do i mean im not obsessed about shopping and i can live if i dont get my hair and nails done. zits dont freak me out. And i like to get down and dirty.(not in a nasty way lol)So then i thought maybe i can get a guy to be my best friend but that didnt work so well either. when ever i try to be friends with a guy he gets all scared that im trying to hook up with him. if i tell him that im just looking for friends he relaxes a little but still never gets real friendly to me. Also it seems like everyone already has a best friend and they cant have another. Is there something wrong with me? Am i doing something wrong. Im not so good in the best friend feild so advice is greatly appreciated.

oh and one more detail..girls dont like that im bi. I dont hit on them or anything im just looking for a friend and i tell them that and i promise that i wont stare at them and il leave them room when there getting dressed and all that but they just run away like im some sort of freak. opinions on that too please.

Answer 1

Obviously someone hasn't taken the time to figure out just what a great person you are yet.  Making friends takes time, having best friends even longer.  My sister was my best friend for years coz she was the only one I could trust.  Take your time ,don't freak out because you havent had a 'best friend' yet.  Lots of friends can be good also.  Sometimes its good not to tell everyone your business, as you would a 'best' friend.  It gets complicated.

Good luck, hope this helps.

Answer 2

I would have to ask a guidance counselor or a parent\guardian about this situation.

I've had ''FRIENDSHIP'' problems in the past. I feel the pain you have right now, don't worry everything will get better soon.

Good luck!

Answer 3

i dont think there is something wrong with you.

i dont have a best friend either but that doesn't bother me that much

dont worry about it too much, you are going to find someone that will be your best friend and that wont care that you are bi

it sounds like your in middle school (?) and thats just how middle school girls are

in high school people care less than in middle school so you shouldnt worry about it too much

---Good Luck and i hope you find a best friend!!!---

Answer 4

well, I dont have a best friend either, and its perfectly ok. dont worry, nothing is wrong with u.

And yes, about u being bi, thats the phobia of other girls, not your fault again.  

Answer 5

Have you ever thougt that you are just trying to hard to find a best friend.

Start from the begining and just get in with your crowd become friends with then and see who you get on with the best and move it forward from there,

Also you say you like to get down a dirty, in what way, maybe this is something that you should not make public. Some people will be scared if this esp if i think you mean what i think you mean,

Answer 6

BadBeast be your Friend.

Maybe not your "Best Friend"

But not your Worst Friend either.

Good BadBeast.??  

Answer 7

Just try to be yourself and if people don't want to be your friend, that's their loss. You just have to get out there and keep trying,and don't narrow yourself down to only having a "best" friend. Everyone is your friend and you don't need a best one. You just have to give it a little time and patience and people will come to like you.

And that's horrible that people are like that. People have to learn to except you for who you are and not who you like!  

Answer 8

kk well u just have to be friends with some and then eventually u will its not like they would say wat level of friendship ur at just how much fun u have with them

Answer 9

Other than I'm not bi, you're a lot like me.  I'm old (by your standards) but have only 2 good friends, and I wouldn't call either one my best friend.  I'm married (for 30 years) and get along much better with men than women.  

I'm not at all interested in shopping unless all my clothes have become rags, I'd much rather dig in the dirt or train dogs or ride horses.  I scare most women half to death because I'm not good at telling the little social lies that make the world go around, I'm rather blunt and say exactly what I think most of the time.  For any problem, I can come up with 10 stupid solutions that no one in their right mind would ever try, but they make people laugh.  

Just be who you truly are, and sooner or later you'll find what you're looking for.  Meanwhile, don't waste any time worrying about not having a best friend.  Sounds as though you're fun to be around, which is great.  

  

Answer 10

so don't share that your bi initially

that's really know ones business

except a best friend

adn that person isn't your best friend yet

so you have to build them up as the best friend

before you tell them that extra stuff like your bi

you sound like your cool with everybody which is what most other people admire about you

so be  you and enjoy every body's company

p.s. 77% of americans do not have a best friend

its actually a thing of the past

some say they do, but its more or less temporary