Why cant i get over my grandmas death?

Question

my grandma suffered an aortal aneurysm while recovering from a biopsy and went back to her house for a few days but she went back to hospital and she slipped into a coma and she died on 23rd december 2007. born 9th december 1918. she was 89. why cant i get over her death? im her grandson by the way.

Answer 1

if you two were really close then it's harder or if you live in the same house that she lived in then it makes the grieving process a lot longer. it might make you feel better to talk to someone about her. you might cry but it'll help. you might want to put the pictures of her away or her belongings. just for a little bit until you can get over her death. if i could turn back time i would help you're grandmother. right now all i can say is I'm sorry.  

Answer 2

The fact that her death was not expected may add to some of your grief. It is difficult whenever a loved one dies, however shock may be an added element when unexpected. Give yourself sometime. There is not specific time that we are allotted or can be expected to feel we are over the loss of a loved one due to their death. This is very personal. Maybe try to place it in a different perspective. yes, your grandmother died. However she was 89 years old, she lived a long life, my guess is she was very loved, and now very missed. Therefore I would assume she lived a good life, a rich life with family who loved her. So of course you will miss her and may always miss her. However, at some point you will take your memories and allow them to comfort you and feel grateful she was here as long as she was. I am sorry!

Answer 3

the reason you loved her so much and can't get over it because the way she died and you feel you miss the things she did with you. It is only normal it takes time and it is ok she isn't suffering anymore. Just remember all the good times and the funny times with her and keep her in your heart. do this everytime you get sad.

Answer 4

I lost my 89 year old grandma in august 07. I think it is because it is so final. Everyday I wish I could call her on the phone.

My mom died in 1991 and my dad in 2002.  They say that time heals but I beg to differ. This pain will be with me for the rest of my life. I don't think that I will ever get any closure.

Answer 5

You have known her all her life and apparently you loved her.  Time will help heal your pain.  I know you miss her, but she is still in your heart.  Never stop loving her, think of her often, and remember the good times.  

Answer 6

She was obviously very close to you.  My grandmother died after battling cancer for 17 years, when I was 14.  She was the first person in my moms family to accept me as a child out of wedlock so she held a very special place in my heart.  It will take time to get over it because she was your grandmother, of all people.

just know she's in a better place now and no longer suffers.  it helped move on from it.

Answer 7

because shes your grandma and you loved her and you dont to let her go.

Answer 8

Sorry 4 ur loss. But maybe you just miss her alot, or you feel guilty about something did you ever lie to her or not spend time with her that could also be it.

Answer 9

Because you loved her! That's why! People even have problems getting over a pets death! You may need therapy if it's really eating away at you!

How about mine?

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