Why cant i just be me??

Question

Why do i feel so insecure in this world, like i dont belong and that nobody cares. I always feel i am faking who i am and that i have to hide away so that i am not noticed! I want to be me but i feel i am not allowed to be and so i just withdraw. I get really depressed but i am actually wanting to be positive and be me, but i pick up from others that i cant be myself and they dont like me!! I am really talented and i run my own business called Wellness Creator which is for Complementary Therapies such as Massage, Aromatherapy, Stress Management etc and i want more clients but i just cant bring myself to be happy and whenever i try and ask if ppl want to be a client they either say no or i just look at people and say to myself they wouldnt want to be clients, nobody would or nobody would come to me and start beating myself up, is it worth continuing, if i cant socialise, shud i give up or start trying to get clients for this business? Also wud it even matter as i just know nobody wud want or need these things anymore?

Answer 1

Good question!

Why can't you? What's stopping you? Other people's reactions?

If that's the case, you're in for a big surprise: all your life people are going to react to you in one way or another. As I see it, you have 2 choices:

1) You keep being yourself in most circumstances (except when you decide to wear a mask - we all do at some time or other according to circumstances)

2) You let everybody else rule you life simply by reacting to you. And all your life you will be a slave to their reactions.

What do YOU choose?

Getting clients had little to do with you unless you are an unsavoury type. Otherwise it will always be their choice. They go where they want. They do what they want. There are no two ways about it.

Keep advertizing. Offer a free session if they bring you 5 new paying clients. Have free presentations one evening every month or every other months etc...

All the best!

Lisa J

Answer 2

if YOU don't think you're worth anything, why would any1 else? you are a special, unique creation, no-one can tell you that you aren't "normal" because no-one is. my advice? be yourself. totally. look in the mirror every time you get the chance and tell yourself that you are worth it. look people in the eyes. if you don't feel confident, pretend you do. sooner or later it won't be pretending anymore.