Why cant i!!!? y mom say no?

Question

uhg! my mom says i cant have guy friends, i mean i have like a gazillion guy friends and im not allowed to be seen talking to them, i cant hang out with them i cant be on the phone ither!

its so unfair caz my brother can do what so ever and i cant have a simple boy girl friend relationship! i understand y i cant have a boifriend but com'on whats wrong wit being just friends! why wont my mom trust me to just be in a friend relation!?

i just wanna tell her that i have many guy friends but i dont want her to flip out! i mean last yer wen skl was starting this guy sed hi and i gave him a high- five and my mom got pissed at meh! i just dont get whats so wrong in this!

Answer 1

well you should talk about all of the good things thav done like if one is a straight A student or somthing dont say any bad things at all!!!

Answer 2

Maybe there are some reasons why. She may get suspcious of you having a boyfriend if you're not allowed to. Some religions are against having girls and men having that kind of relationship even if's completley non-romantic. You can always go behind your Mom's back and have some friends though. But still respect your mother's wishes if she's strict about it

Answer 3

Well, your mom is being a little silly and going overboard.  But, I will say to be careful.  I'm one for having guy friends over having girl friends (I just seem to get along with them better), but they are guys remember.  I'm 25 and I still have to remind myself that guys will be guys no matter how good of a friend they are.  I've unfortunately have had my "good" guy friends totally pull one over me and take advantage.  Being raped by your friend is not the greatest, so just be careful.  I think it's just your mom's worry, she just wants to protect you.

Answer 4

I'm still the same way with my daughter and she is 21.  I just want her to be safe and finish college and get a good job when she graduates.  I don't blame her for the was she is.

Answer 5

She doesnt want to let her little baby go.

Answer 6

Just ask her, like an adult, why she doesn't trust you.  There has got to be reasoning behind her feelings beyond over protection.  Just remember to ask without teenage attitude moms hate that.

Answer 7

Try to talk to your mom and just explain that you aren't looking for a boyfriend but just a friend that isn't necessarily as dramatic as some girls can be (i know not all are, but quite a few).

Usually it helps if it's not like 5 boys and one girl. that can look odd. try to have a few of your girl friends with a couple guys friends so that way it seems more reasonable.

Answer 8

Why don't you ask her?

Answer 9

How old are you... I'm 13 the same thing happened to me... But the funny part is one of my guy friend actually stole my house number from on of my friends cell phone, and decided to call. One day and my mom answered and was like who is this boy calling for you... I told her who he was and now she actually cool with me talking to boys as long as there just friends.

Answer 10

Are you a virgin? If so, she's probably trying to help preserve your innocence.  

My advice is to **** the next guy you see.  Then your mother will realise that trying to help preserve your chastity is pointless and that she has failed.  Then she won't care how many guy friends you have.

Answer 11

thats so stupid.!

i mean if you go to a public school then your going to have guy friends.!

i think she is being extreamly over protective

Answer 12

she just doesnt want you 2 get into a serious relationship with a boy. how old are you? try talking 2 your mom and explaining2 her that you and these guys are just friends and nothing but that.

Answer 13

She is making sure you dont have kids before you are out of school hon.The purpose for dating is to see whether or not you are marriage compatible.You arent old enought o be married so there is no need for dating etc.

Answer 14

she is scared or something i don't know but wow she needs to loosen up!

Answer 15

You should ask her.

sit her down and talk to her about what is going on.

also, how old are you? because that would make a difference.

Answer 16

hha this is wut i said once.... do u want me to be a L*****n or something!! lol or would u rather me have a gf... that will scare her :D a  lil

Answer 17

First, it would be interesting to know if maybe you have done something in the past that would make your mother make this rule...If you havent done anything, maybe she just thinks you are too young to have guy friends.. or a boyfriend. Have you asked her what brought her to this decision?  It would be a good idea if you did.  No yelling or accusing...you just want to know her reasoning. Once you know this, maybe you can come up with a logical plan that will have her let you bend the rules a little bit. Remember! No yelling or accusing!!! You have come to her with a reasonable and mature conversation.

p.s. Next time you ask a question could you PLEASE just spell the words they way they were meant to be spelled??  It's very confusing to get the jist of the question with all the slang spelling

Answer 18

I dont' know what kind of relationship you have with your mother, but have you tired politely and respectfully asking her why she is prohibiting you? I can't promise you that her reason will be fair or logical but at least you'll have an idea of where she is coming from and perhaps can come to some sort of arrangement. Perhaps if you brought some of these friends to hang out at your house it would ease your mother's mind when you're not at home. She would have the opportunity to get to know your friends and hopefully trust them, and you, more. Whatever the case though, it's important than when communicating your feelings to your mother, you remain calm and respectful, she's more likely to hear you out and possibly negotiate.

Answer 19

I think you're mom is a little over protective, try sitting her down and explaining to her you're not looking for a dating relationship just a friendship and see where that gets you.

Answer 20

Maybe you should ask her (in a nonargumentative tone) why she won't allow you to have guy friends.

It seems to me she's being over protective of her little girl, but she must have a reason for it.