Why cant there be chivalry for men ? Why have chivalry at all ?

Question

I'm talking about more than holding a door open. I'm talking about pulling out a chair for a man if you get at the table first, opening his car door, being romantic creatively and financially toward men, stands when a man enter the room , take your man out regularly or at least as much as he take you out, and etc. My point chivalry is a ONE WAY STREET( men to women), more than just respect( more like borderline treating women like a princess in my opinion, most disgusting b4 going out). And to the slim population of women who demand respect and that's it and doesn't NEED or demand chivalry......THANK YOU. I treat my girl with respect. Ladies respect isn't chivalry, if you think it is. It's a shame that most men will NEVER get respected. What do yall think ?

Answer 1

The behaviors and mindset of chivalry--deference to, "respect" for, and protection of women--are historically those behaviors that have boosted male success with women in this culture.

Why?

Because they give the impression to women (potential or actual mates) that these men are good protectors and possibly fathers.

Women don't need to impress men that way.  Women only need to select a man and be attractive enough to get him interested.  They don't need to be good protectors or providers in the conventional sense.

So...

Answer 2

Sometimes guys are disrespectful, and sometimes girls are disrespectful. Respect has nothing to do with gender.

Even if girls did pull out chairs and open car doors, the guys would still find something to complain about, like she's being too "manly". Look at what the guy above is implying. That if a girl does these things, it means shes ugly.

So it's like no matter what a girl or guy does, there will always be people who have a problem with it.

Answer 3

I dont see chivalry as respect, it's the opposite.  It's the mind set, "your so sweet, delicate and weak...here let me do everything for you I dont want you to break"

Chivalry died with the Knights and the middle ages.

I agree the traditional views disrespect and use men and limit women, it's a narrow mind set all the way around.  

Answer 4

Most women accept them with pleasure. These things are actually normal in civilized cultures. Not only man to woman but from anyone to anyone/anything.

Usually man believes that woman is soft and should be specially treated

And few women don't like this special treatments because they think that men who are doing the treating think that women are weaker.

So you have to figure out who like chivalry-acts b4 doing them

Answer 5

Well you are confusing chivalry and kindness.

Answer 6

we dont. no one has ever opened a car door for me or stood up for me when i entered the room. what country do you live in? if a guy did this i would think he was a right weirdo!! What year is he living in. The standing up thing would put me off straight away that would ruin a date for me and I would feel completely uncomfortable. I have never ever met anyone who did that except for when we had to stand up for old men officers when i was in the military!! I would think you were trying to call me an old man if you did that to me

my husband doesnt take me out, he didnt when we started dating. He paid for one pizza and bottle of wine and the rest we halfed. I would have gave him half for that but he had paid when he was at the bar.

Also again this is the bizarre american concept that i keep hearing about where men just open the door for women in England you open the door for anyone if you are out and about if you walk through it first.

Answer 7

Chivalry is a way of making yourself needed or wanted.

Women like to be complimented, so men learn to do that so women will want them around (and maybe have s*x with them).

It's not fair, but women just don't like men as much as men like women.

Women don't need to do this unless the women are unattractive.

If you marry an unattractive woman maybe she will be happy to be chivalrous.

"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your like, make an ugly woman your wife..."

Answer 8

If men and women treated each other with basic respect and decency, perhaps we could see the end to all this 'chivalry' nonsense.

Personally, I'd prefer to be able to earn a fair living than have any number of chairs pulled out for me.

Chivalry is about doing a lot of stuff people could do for themselves, so they'll feel 'safe' while being ripped off for wages, passed over for promotion and expected to stand aside while blokes get the chances everyone should have an equal shot at.

I can open my own door thanks, and am quite happy to do so as long as I get paid fairly and have an equal chance.

Cheers :-)

Answer 9

I agree with you. I would hold a door/chair for anyone that would be willing to do the same for me..

Plus some guys wouldn't be so aggressive if girls softened them up a bit by being nicer to them. Girls are way too rough on guys.

Answer 10

When God created Man, He was lonely, Thus God created Woman to be mans companion, filling that gap in his heart. Woman are naturally nurturing and men are more physical. We must play our own roles, and we will compliment each other. A man honors his woman with chivalry. A woman honors a man with her companionship, and support.  

Answer 11

d**n where have I been!  

Answer 12

Because feminists have used male chivalry in their power-grab, it will always be "valued" by women.

Answer 13

More importantly, Chivalry implies that you should fight to protect the weak, and shepherd the meek to greener pastures.

Obviously, this is not compatible with the modern-day elite's view of things.