Why could my 6 year old son throw temper tantrums everytime he gets home from school?

Question

My six yr. old throws really bad tantrums, bad enough to hit people, as well as throw whatever is close to him. He doesn't say why he's upset, or why he's throwing the tantrum. What should I do, or how can I prevent it? Please Help!

Answer 1

Talk to him, and talk to his teachers to see if there is a situation with another child at school.  Is there another child who is bullying him or picking on him?  He might be acting out in frustration.

It could also be that he is just tired after a full day of school, and maybe he needs to go to his room for a little "quiet time" after he gets home.  He can read, play quietly, take a nap, or do whatever he wants to do, but it must be quiet play in his bed, with no music, TV, talking, or "visits" from othe siblings.

Nine times out of ten, when my son has some kind of a meltdown, it's because he's tired.

Answer 2

Obviously something or someone is upsetting him at school and you should go and talk to his teacher and ask how he is at school and if he is being bullied or having any other difficulty. You son is obviously finding it difficult to talk about it.

Answer 3

My child went through a very similar time.  We had to call in a C.I.S team (Children's Intensive Services).  They came to my home once or twice a week, depending on her behavior and worked with both of us.  Someone cousiled her, I recieved parenting support, and we "practiced" good behavior together.  Also having a routine, or having a schedule of what happens after school everyday, hanging where he can see it and know what to expect everyday is helpful.

Answer 4

If he wasn't this way prior to school,I would be concerned about whats going on at school.

Some children can be very very rude.

Your son might be a victim of bullying.

Go check it out. Talk to your son and ask him what goes on at school,how's his day? who are his friends? Anyone mean?

That should help you understand what's going on with him.

It's not normal for him to act out this way...it sounds like a a cry of distress and he needs your attention and help Mommy.

Best of luck to you and your little boy.

Answer 5

How is his school work? How is his grades? What do the teachers say about his school work and/or behavior at school?

Lots of times, kids 'act out' becuase they are having problems with understanding their school work and don't understand this. They don't know know HOW to tell you this.

If he's acting out at home and not at school, sometimes kids don't want to be bad at school and being at home is their 'safe place' to let all their frustrations out.

Check into this, it could be the answer.

Answer 6

He's unwinding from a stressful day at school

Answer 7

If he is fine on the week end and just acts up when he gets home it sounds like he may be having a problem at school.

Someone may be bullying him.  Try to talk to him about it on the weekend when he will most likely not be as upset about it.  Also I would possibly call his teacher and explain to her and see if she knows of any reasons or if she could watch out for things that could cause issues

Answer 8

I have a five year old that acts the same way when he gets home from school or really anywhere that he has to follow rules.  I think that it is because he has to act right and so he comes home and takes it out on all.  

He may grow up to be like his father if you don't step in now!  I'm not saying that to be mean, but some things are hereditary.  but I would keep him in counseling and do the best you can to teach hi, right from wrong.  

Also back to the school thing...it is boring to them at school and there is a lot of rules and hardly any free time so maybe he has pent up energy he doesn't know how to release.  If you can sometimes after school take him to a park or out to play it helps with my son.  Good Luck to you!

Answer 9

Does he only do this when he gets home from school??

Is he over tried?

Now that he is in school use their resources to help

Answer 10

First thing to find out is, does he through Tantrums at school? or is it only at home?

If its just at home, then obviously there is something that makes him mad, stressed, when he as home.

Is he an only child? if so he may get bored at home, by not having anyone to interact with?

Does he have many siblings, is he lost in the crowd when he gets home, and has to throw tantrums in order to get attention?

I would try and talk to him, get completely alone with him, even if he refuses (he is only 6) wait until he is calm (even if it takes 2 hours) and then talk about it, it will be hard for him to put into words his emotions (but tell him that what grown ups do) Ensure him that you will try and make him as happy as he can be if he only tells you what he wants.

Of course don't spoil him with every thing he asks for be resonable. I would say the main cause of all this is a Lack of attention.

As others have said, if he is only upset during weekdays right after school, he could be tired, irritated, stressed, or mad about something at school. See what you can find out from his teachers, or again talk to him and make him tell you.

Best of luck to you

Answer 11

Talk to the school and talk to the teacher ask what he does all day and the activities he does and the class does all day. It could be just as simple as he's tired and irritated. Talk to you Ped. Doc