Why daughter is upset about her birthday party. What can I do?

Question

My daughter had a birthday party yesterday. She just turned 7. We handed out invitations a few weeks in advance, but no one RSVP'ed. We invited 8 kids. Anyway, we had the party yesterday, and only 1 little girl that she invited actually came (and she was 1 hour late and my daughter walked to her house to ask her if she was coming). Then this little girl brought her younger brother (probably about 4 yrs old). He destroyed my daughter's room and my husband sent him home after he was caught jumping on my son's bed. My daughter said to me, "None of my friends came. I should have known this was going to happen." She then told me severla times, "This is the worst birthday party ever." She is so sad. What do I do?

Answer 1

kids love birthday parties.any kind of party..........

what went wrong.you can't fix it...........till you know...did you contact the parents??

they are your kids friends.not a lot you can do,,Disneyworld

Answer 2

What else was going in town? Did you at least go back and remind people of the party? During this recession, should of marked on invites, no presents required. Food, Refreshments served. Parents Welcome.

Answer 3

Set up another party at a public place that will influence the children and that should cheer her up if you talk to the parents personally.  I know if my parents took me out and it was only a family function I was a happy girl.  She can then have a party to talk about and tell her friends they should have been there, that she had a great time.  That is so sad that they didn't even show up or respond at all.

Answer 4

I  tried to have parties for my kids when they were younger. It is really hard to get parents of children that young to bring them to parties. I have took my kids to parties were the parents are planning for whole classrooms of kids (25+) and my child be only one show. It is sad and can hurt the child feeling. Next year plan for a sleepover party w/ 2 or 3 girls. As far as this year maybe take her out a nice restaurant and have them sing Happy Birthday to her. My daughter loves that. Good Luck.

Answer 5

awww poor thing. why dont you  tell her you want to take her somewhere special. that you two are going to have a special day for girls. take her to the mall and buy her something and then ask her where she would like to go . a movie and a burger, or the zoo or the park. tell her its just girls day out and make her feel special . i think she would be happy with that. explain to her that things dont always workout the way you want in life and im sorry that your party didnt  go the way you wanted it to but  today will be a real special day and better than any old birthday party. good luck and god bless

Answer 6

That is really upsetting for a child. I am sure you realize that she probably feels as if no one cared enough to show up, or her b-day was not important enough for people to come(even if this is not the case, this would probably be how she feels). You should reassure her that it is not the case. Talk to her about how she feels and let her talk it out, use reflective listening... "I understand you feel .... I would feel that way too." If she says to you this is the worst b-day ever, do not try and make it seem as it wasn't, she is going to know that is not true. You could just say, "I know you were disappointed about your friends not coming. I would feel upset too, and it is ok to feel disappointed/sad"

Disappointment is a part of life, but it is your job to ease the upsetment and help her get through it. Explain to her that sometimes people are too busy, or they forget, etc.

Next time you send out invites be sure to call parents if no one RSVP's by a week or so before. Sometimes people are busy, on vacation(is it spring break where you are as well?) or there is another party going on, etc. If no one can come, you could change the date, or take your daughter out to dinner instead.

You may want to call two or three parents and ask if their children want to join your daughter for a birthday dinner next weekend(either at home or in a nice restaurant). Make is special, so she can look back and that great day can overshadow the bad one.

Answer 7

try to remind her that kids just forget about the dates  and parents are to busy to remember sometimes.  It was probably not on purpose at all!  Remind her of times she has missed other kids parties and it didn't mean she didn't like them, she either forgot or something just came up!  mom to mom I have found that if I send them out even two weeks before like you are supposed to do, the kids forget  send them out the week of and don't rely on rsvp's.  They never do respond!  call and ck to see who is coming it wil also serve as a reminder to the parent!  I am so sorry that happened it is so hard to see your child hurt anytime! maybe yall could celebrate with a special outing with just 1 good-friend!!  good-luck andGOD BLESS!

Answer 8

Awww how sad! Some suggestions:

1. Have a surprise bday party like the person above mentioned

2. Have a" ________'s Special Day" where she can pick any 3  things to do (within reason)

3. Have a Girl's Day Out and get manicures,pedicures, go shopping

Answer 9

That is so sad. I would try and just be there for her. Life will be full of disappointments and she needs to know that you are there for her. Maybe you could take her somewhere special today. In the future if people don't RSVP, don't plan for them to just show up, ask them if that date didn't work for them and change the birthday party accordingly.

Answer 10

Gosh, poor girl. I am so sorry this happened to you, its hard with young childrens parties.

I suggest you talk to her friends parents, and see if you can organise a suprise birthday at another date to make up for it. Or give her a suprise trip ice-skating or horse-riding. Don't leave it as it is.

Best wishes.

xox