Why did my husband delete me off his MySpace?

Question

Separated May 31, he won't talk about divorce. Lives with his mom/stepdad.

After he left (stated he didnt love me or our son, hates his entire family) he knocked me to the very end of his MySpace friends(June). Two days ago I looked on there and I was deleted off the page itself. Our sons photos were gone, and mine too off an album. Months ago he also put himself as "Swinger" after I compared him to a lousy ex who's also says "swinger".

I read some comments on his page from an old, obese fem. friend from high school. She said that she was to happy they were "chillin

again, and that he always made her laugh. She also was implying she was attracted to him. His mom told me "she knows" they arent having an affair and that he has been faithful believe it or not, but that she cant control his mental illness. I wrote the girl a few messages on there.. Told her to find her own man, stop hanging out with a married man if shes a Christian, and called her a home wrecker. I also wrote her ex boyfriend and informed him that she was macking on my husband. I wrote that my husband is an adulterer on his myspace page and all over my myspace accused him of adultery for hanging with her.

Why did he delete me, suddendly? Why does he do little things every few weeks on there to upset me. Then does this?

Answer 1

I can't believe you're asking "Why"!

You are separated, go out and have fun, and a life.

I'm surprised he didn't make his page "private".

Answer 2

Ohh ...

That's a bad situation. You know life doesn't always go well, its like a roller coaster (lots of ups and downs)

I think he's just going through a hard time, give him a bit of time on his own and he will see it's a hard life without you and your son. Like: No-one's going to cook dinner for him. etc. Even though it's been quite a while I think he'll realize it. If he doesn't realize it. Go on and do what you can. It's all in you. So it sounds like he is a Christian, well, firstly Christians don't divorse or separate. (on your wedding day you promised to God that you will live together till the end of your lives)

I know what you're going through a hard time.

I might of gone to far but good luck for the future.

Remember God is with you!

  

Answer 3

shouldn't you be asking him that question?

he won't talk about divorce, but if you can see he has no feelings for you left, make him!

don't torture yourself and your son cause you still have feelings for him, he's bein a d**k, he's not worth it!

leave him!

Answer 4

He's been brooding, thinking about something over and over again and every time he thinks about it is reinforces whatever he feels he has against you.

If you read the book 'Men are from Mars . . .' it states that men are problem solvers and if they can't solve the immediate problem at hand they are likely to attempt to solve an unrelated problem (or take some other action that gives them a sense of accomplishment) to make themselves feel better.

As the resentment builds up inside him he feels the need to do something to 'solve' the situation. A dig at you on the internet provides that temporary relief from the situation. However, as he continues to brood on the same issues, the resentment builds up again until he can release it with another little fix.

That's my uneducated and relatively inexperienced take on the situation. Don't know if this helps.

Answer 5

I'm thinking he don't like you.

Answer 6

He sounds like a sick, immature man. I would take his snub and run with it, work on forgetting him and file for divorce yourself. He doesn't need to file first- in fact it's better if you do.

He's acting like a silly kid and you need to stop worrying about this fool and get divorced so you can move on.

PS- you need to stop writing stuff about him, too. That just brings you down to his level. Ignore him, and be an adult for your son, since it seems he can't rely on having a father.

Answer 7

You're separated and you're emailing his friends and telling them stuff?  Sorry, but you're the nut.  Let it go, you psycho.  It's over.  Leave him alone and fight it out in divorce court, leave Myspace alone, you child.  You're no better than your ex-husband.  Maybe you actually deserve each other. I'd delete you too if you were emailing all of my Myspace friends and telling them what a b*****d I am.  Get a hobby or something.

EDIT: Maybe the 250lb girl isn't the nutjob that you are and he likes that.

Answer 8

No offense, but MySpace in itself is childish. Don't be so obsessed with it. I bet that obese friend can't get any real life love either so she makes those insinuating comments on your husband's page.

Does he really have a mental illness? That's probably why he deleted you. It also kinda looks like your relationship is over. If he won't talk about divorce, maybe you guys could get counseling?

Answer 9

possibly your best solution would be to stop even looking at his my-space page.

Try having a real grown up conversation instead, leaving messages in the public domain like that is never going to heal the rift between you.

Good luck.

Answer 10

I can't believe you're actually conducting the break-down of your relationship in public on the internet.  If you're separated what do you care?  Do you want him back if he's such a pig and if so, why? If you don't, then why let his rather strange behaviour on MySpace (which may simply be his coping mechanism) bother you?

Answer 11

Now Now Dear!.....It's time to move on.

d;o)