Why did my teacher say this?

Question

I'm really quiet and shy and my teacher called me up and she was speaking to me and I nodded and said 'yes' and then she said to me "why are you so quiet"? and I said "I don't know" and then she said "You are one of those people who are going to be shy and quiet all your life aren't you"?

Do you think she should have said that?

My classmates don't think she should have and neither does my mother

Answer 1

Thats part of life and I speak from experience bcause I am pretty quiet myself. I am not shy, but I dont like to talk alot. Just dont give a d**n what she says you should have said "you will be ignorant all your life arent you"?

Answer 2

I think that's not very nice of your teacher to do that.

There is no logical reason for it, she was basically insulting you in front of the class.

If she says something like that again, I would ask her if she has some problem with shy people, and maybe even tell the principal that your teacher is making fun of you and making you uncomfortable.

Answer 3

i dont think she said anything wrong. its not like she called you a freak and told you to stop coming to school or anything. its not like she yelled at you and called you dirty names. its not like you are an autistic kindergarten student who was told to stand in front of his peers and then got voted out of the classroom by his fellow students. that really happened by the way.

Answer 4

Man, that is totally wrong of her, a teacher's job is to encourage people, not discourage.

Answer 5

I am a first grade teacher in Alabama.  There are students in my class that are like you, quiet and shy.  Instead of calling them out and interrogating them and possibly embarassing them about being shy, I offer them activities that I know will help them come out of their shell.  Cooperative learning and group work that requires them to talk gives them a reason to be involved and they feel more comfortable in a small group.  In your situation, I'm sure that your teacher wasn't trying to be rude, she just didn't say what she was trying to get across to you in an appropriate manner.  I wouldn't make a big deal of it, instead I would let this be an eye-opener to self-reflection.  You have to come out of your comfort zone, or you'll be left in the dust when you have to move into the real world and be involved with colleagues.  Good luck to you and your teacher, and I hope that the two of you find peace in this situation.

Answer 6

That was a very inappropriate comment, however she may have not meant anything by it.  There are many women who make "barbed comments" like that.  Some are with sinister intent, some of them are completely meaningless.

Rather than build up a huge amount of resentment toward your teacher, I would write her a note and tell her that you didn't appreciate the comment and that she shouldn't care if you are shy and quiet as long as you are doing what you're supposed to in school, and that it's not her business to criticize your personality.

I believe if you do this, your teacher will apologize to you, and things will be mended.  It's not good to let little misunderstandings like this fester.  As a teacher, I have occasionally said things or jokes that accidentally hurt a students' feelings, but I always apologized when I realized I did something wrong.  It happens.  Teachers are people, and sometimes when tired or stressed out they make mistakes in judgment.  Sometimes too, students misunderstand something and get angry over something the teacher didn't even mean.

I would just send her the note and see what happens.

Good luck.

Answer 7

but i think yes, because she on the positive side has motivated you , so that you may not be shy for your lifetime, as she has remained you by now. Take it optimistically!

Answer 8

it is a bit out of order, maybe she thinks it is affecting your work or something or maybe she thinks it's a good quality to have because the rest of your class are really loud? If it concerns you, you should maybe ask her?

Answer 9

There's nothing wrong with what she said.

Just prove her wrong.. Go in tommorow with an air horn!

Answer 10

The only reason I think she's saying that is because she realizes you don't open up too much and don't really share ideas and she knows that if you did they would probably be great. Anyhow, if I were a teacher I wouldn't have said anything!

Answer 11

Maybe she wants to instigate the need for you to speak out. Or else people will label you as  "timid" or "shy" or "quiet". At least if she brings to your notice that she -a teacher - thinks this... then maybe you will put a thought to it and show some changes.

It didn't sound anything bad or offensive. Take it easy. Maybe you can go and ask her why she said that.. if its bothering you so much...

Or... just ignore it... if you think not talking a lot doesn't make a difference.

Every individual is different. Some are talkative some are quiet. Some s****., some humble!

Be confident of who you are.

Answer 12

first of all sorry if she offended u .... but!

she probbly ment 2 ask u 2 shake it out so u wount be this shy and try 2 change a little cus being shy can get n ur way .. thats probbly all she culd just be wourryed about u ... dont take it personaly and if u were able 2 talk 2 her ask her y did she say that and if she can give u tips on how 2 open up a little ..... I hope I helped and if someone sayed something about u that u didnt like u should try 2 change it or step up 4 ur self .. thats what I do ... I hope I helped and good luck =)