Why did you get married? just wondering...?

Question

why did you get married?

would you recommend young couples to get married or just live together, have kids, etc. etc. without the papers?

tnx

Answer 1

I got married when I was 25 and my husband was 29 (three years ago) because I loved him so much and wanted to have a family.

I think whatever works for each person is what works for them. If they just want to live together without getting married, that's fine.

Answer 2

i married my husband because i knew i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. i love him..

just living together is like you are planning to split up and is too easy to get out of it..  just my opinion

Answer 3

We lived together before we got married.  We're not having kids.  He asked & I said yes.  I didn't need the paper but he wanted it to be official.  He didn't feel comfortable with "girlfriend" considering that we're spending the rest of our lives together.  He wanted to feel proud to say "This is my WIFE".  I thought it was cute.  

Answer 4

I don't recommend that young couples get married, live together, OR have kids.  They need to grow up first, and then do it in the right order:  (1) marriage, (2) living together, (3) kids.

I got married because I found the love of my life and couldn't imagine the rest of my time on Earth without him.  I was 29 and he was 38.

Answer 5

getting married is just paper..true but its kind of deeper than that. i married my husband beacuse i've never felt so strong about someone. And i love him dearly and its just a good feeling to be able to say "this si my husband " instead of this is my boyfriend or my baby daddy (no offence)

its just a special thing that you do.

<3

Answer 6

Because I found true love and we could not live with out each other and be happy anymore. I would never recommend that people live together first. While it is true that you can't really know someone until you live with them, it cheapens your commitment. In fact, sharing rent isn't much of a commitment. Most couples that live together first don't make it to marriage and those who do often end up in divorce.  

Answer 7

I got married because I was raised to believe that marriage is a sacred arrangement that two people enter into when they are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together.

I don't believe in living together before marriage, or having s*x before marriage, so I wouldn't personally recommend that.  Also, many studies have showed that couples who live together before they are married are more likely to get divorced.

I think expressing your commitment to each other by getting married is important.

But to each their own. I certainly would not impose my opinions on anyone else.

Answer 8

I think it doesn't matter much UNTIL you decide to have kids.  Kids should always be born into marriages.  A stable household with two responsible parents is by far the best environment for kids growing up.  Additionally, marriage provides the best protection for them legally in the event that the parents break up, regarding visitation, support payments, government benefits, etc.

Answer 9

I got married because I could not imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else.

We were part of the same group of friends. After we finally got together, we dated for 6mos and were engaged for 6mos. We were both 22 when we got married and just celebrated our 14yr anniversary. Pretty impressive considering that I didn't have the best example growing up. My mother is on her third marriage - #1 she married to "get out of the house" (my father) #2 she married for security (Dad promised to take care of us both) #3 she married for companionship (to have a warm body in bed).

Meanwhile, we have several friends who, before getting married, either "shacked up" for years, broke up and got back together dozens of times, or had kids. Most of them are divorced now.

You have to do what is right for you. Ask yourself, do I really love this person and will I still love him when he is old and grey ? I could honestly say yes to both - and still can!  

Answer 10

Because our bond was already connected so strongly sexually, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, socially, etc, etc, might as well go ahead and make it legally connected to. lol

Answer 11

I got married because I loved my finance, and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.

I would recommend it highly.  With a few disclaimers...

First a good marriage isn't about love, or romance, or warm fuzzy feelings, or being financially stable.  A good marriage is about commitment to your spouse.  That's what the 'vows' are all about.

In regards to living together or having kids before getting married...

I wouldn't have kids or live together without being married.  The first reason being commitment.  What is your guarantee after you have kids that your partner won't leave?  There is nothing keeping them there if they decide they don't have the hots for you any more.  That is why commitment is important...  You can always re-ignite feelings of love and passion, but with out commitment there is no motivation to keep going.

The second reason is that kids do much better with 2 parents.  This is proven time and time again in this social experiment we call a county.  There have been a multitude of studies done on this.  With out a marriage there is no guarantee that that kid will have 2 parents.

J. Biz