Why did you wait for the amount of time you did to have another child?

Question

I'm wanting another child like soon and I really want to have a daughter.I have my son and if and when I get pregnant I love my child wether its a girl or boy but I really want a girl.I also want my kids close in age so they can have things in common.How long and why so long did you wait?Or how short and why so short?

Answer 1

My kids will be 21 months apart when this baby is born. We started trying when my daughter was 2 months old because my husband and I wanted to avoid the sibling rivalry thing, as much as possible. By starting early, our daughter would be less likely to remember being alone and having us to herself, so there wouldn't be so much possessiveness. My husband also wanted to have two kids close together so he could have a vasectomy, we wanted our kids to have a playmate around their age, and I LOVE being pregnant. Sadly, because of rapidly progressing endometriosis, we lost two babies 10 weeks apart, when she was 7 months and 9 months.

I would like this baby to be a boy, but ultimately, I do not care. As long as the baby is happy and healthy, I am happy. I don't care if this baby is a kitten or an elephant. After two losses, I don't feel as if it's right for me to get greedy and want this or want that..especially since I was told I'd never conceive and carry on my own..and I am.

This will be our last baby, because I need a hysterectomy by my 24th birthday. I am 22 now.

So our kids being 21 months apart is absolutely perfect for us. We couldn't ask for anything better or more miraculous. Our kids are truly blessings, no matter the gender.

ETA: We did not really plan either of our children. Our daughter came as a surprise 3 months into our relationship (3 months after we met), and with this baby, we were trying to avoid a pregnancy. We didn't baby dance anywhere around where I thought I ovulated, but we still somehow caught the eggie. My OB wanted me to start birth control with the first day of my next period, back in April..my period never came. We're due in 26 weeks.

Answer 2

I am delivering my first child on Monday, I'm so excited!

My plan is to also have my first 2 close together. I grew up being the oldest with the closest sibling in age being 4 years younger. When you are growing up, that's a big difference in age, so I definitely want to have my children close together. I don't want to take on 2 pregnancies worth of extra weight though, and as a first time mom, I know i have a lot to learn before thinking about bringing another child into this world where I'm still a clueless mother ( I have never changed a diaper in my entire life, no joke). I'm going to wait about a year before I get pregnant again. Then they'll be around 2 years apart, which is perfect.

Answer 3

i just had my 1st little one, shes 2 weeks and 1/2 i'm 20, i want to have 3 children, with all 3 year gaps.

because my brother and sister and i are all 3 years a part. and i believe were all well aged apart. i'm the youngest. and there are many positive reasons why i picked a 3 year gap.

Answer 4

Our children are 1 year and 360 days (LOL) apart.  I'm not sure why we planned it like we did or that we even put much thought into the spacing but I'm glad that it worked out the way it did.  

It's hard the first year because my 2 year old was still so needy of me and of course so was the newborn.  But now they are the best of friends. It's almost like they are twins because they can do everything together.  My youngest is going to have a *hard* time when DS goes to kindergarten next year.

BTW, I have a boy and a girl so don't worry so much about if they will be friends.  They will because they are siblings and as long as your foster the friendship it will be effortless on their part.

Answer 5

My kids are pretty much 2yrs apart...

they are

Natalie Nicole 6yrs old

Natasha Makenzie 4yrs old

Noah Braedon   2yrs old

Nadia Kaitlyn   6months old

2 yrs just seemed right for us, and we do want 1 more child, but we think it will be best for US as a family, to wait for about 5 yrs.

Answer 6

Well, I haven't had my second child yet, as my daughter is only 9 months. But when I do I think I'd like to wait til she's 2 or 3. My brother and I were two years apart, and it was enough that we still had things in common and could hang out, but also have seperate lives and friends. Plus I'd like a couple of years to enjoy just having one child before we had another to the family. It's hectic enough already lol!

Answer 7

My kids are 8 1/2 yrs. apart not by choice, my oldest I had on purpose to try and save my marrage.....lol it ended not long after that and my youngest was a HUGEEEEE surprise but I wouldn't change a thing.

Answer 8

I didn't plan my second, but im glad that she was born 2 1/2 years after my son because I refused to buy diapers for two babies. My son was fully potty trained by the time I had my daughter.

Answer 9

We don't plan our babies, they just happen when they happen. We don't believe in 'family planning'. Even so we've only had 2 naturally, they're 3.5 years apart. Our third child came to us through adoption. She is 8 years younger than the middle child.

Answer 10

My second will be 17 months younger than her sister.

Answer 11

well i have a 3 yrs ols and a 14 mointh old and am fourmonths pregnantright now,..two girls i am hopeing for a boy. I want my kid close in age too. but after this i am waiting a while to have another one. I come from a family of eight, my mom had us in pairs Im 20 and have a 19yr old sis a 13 and 15 yr old sisters ten yr old sisters (twins) and a three yr ols brother and 18 month old sis. its nice cuz theres a lot of us but we all have someone close in age to relate to. they hate eachother when their younger but like me and my sis we are best friends now that we are older. We are never alone no matter what and i love that.